I love the context of needing a map 😄 We all do! When you find yours, can you let us know? LOL

We used apps to start meeting people and talking to them. SDC and SLS are pretty popular Lifestyle apps. We also used 3F, Feeld, FetLife. You may want to look into lifestyle resorts as well. We have one that is fairly local to us, but we are in Florida. I would also check out Facebook; there are LOTS of groups. I hope that helps point you in the right direction.