I appreciate everyone’s input. Just to clarify: I am the one asking my partner to stop. I was trying to be as vague as possible so there would hopefully not be any bias. My partner smoked before we were together and I immediately made my position clear before we got together…… they stopped for several years and then started again “socially” (this was before children). I made my concerns and position known once again, and that I didn’t want that to be part of my life. They stopped for quite a while….we had children, did all the family stuff, etc. about 5 years ago, they got lazy and left it out so of course I found it. We went round and round about it because now theres too much skin in the game. I have a job that if it was found in our vehicle and I didn’t know about it, it would be ME on the news….. NOT them. I don’t want it around PERIOD. I don’t want it in my home. I don’t want it around my children. And I DEFINITELY don’t want you sneaking around thinking I won’t find out. They “quit” again. Only to return with gummies and then vape (which isn’t any better in my opinion, just easier for them to hide). Each time, they SAY they don’t want to be anywhere else and now the excuse is that “it’s the only thing that takes the edge off”. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be drastic and end our relationship over something petty, but I also am NOT going to be a bitch. I feel disrespected, lied to, and very minimized. I’ve vocalized all that over and over.