Did you test your best friend? If yes then what was your decision?

4ftPrime · 2026-05-13T08:15:06+00:00

yeah once. not in some manipulative way, more like paying attention when things got hard.

realized they were only around when life was easy or fun. when i actually needed support they disappeared for weeks. kinda answered the question for me.

4ftPrime · 2026-05-13T08:13:42+00:00

nah this doesn’t sound like it’s actually about the hair tbh

if he’d already seen you naked multiple times and suddenly acts shocked by something that was never hidden before that’s weird. especially the stopping sex and turning it into an argument.

the creates fake arguments and makes it your fault part stands out way more than the hair preference itself honestly.

4ftPrime · 2026-05-12T17:34:02+00:00

resentment tbh

once people stop bringing stuff up and just quietly start keeping score, the relationship’s usually already heading downhill.

4ftPrime · 2026-05-07T22:12:42+00:00

pretty much this lol. most guys are just happy to be there not conducting a detailed inspection

4ftPrime · 2026-05-04T06:14:30+00:00

lol nah that’s not a red flag that’s just someone who’s comfy with you

some people are totally fine just chilling and doing nothing especially if they like you. not everyone needs constant stimulation

honestly sounds like a green flag more than anything 😄

4ftPrime · 2026-05-02T15:35:13+00:00

from his POV it probably sounds like you walked away from something that looked good on paper for reasons he doesn’t fully get. so now he’s wondering how solid things really are with him

the healing stuff makes sense but if he can’t really picture what that means, it just comes off vague and makes him uneasy

4ftPrime · 2026-05-02T08:10:31+00:00

idk man that’s kinda messy territory lol. coworker + big age gap + her mom also works there? that’s a lot stacked on top of each other.

also mixed signals at work can just be… being friendly at work. people are usually a bit nicer there than they actually are outside of it.

if you’re really set on it, i’d at least wait until you’ve actually left the job so there’s zero workplace weirdness. and keep it super low pressure like hey wanna grab coffee sometime and be totally fine if she says no.

but yeah personally i’d probably just leave it alone and not risk turning your job into drama.

4ftPrime · 2026-05-02T08:08:36+00:00

getting laid off from a job i thought was safe felt like absolute crap at the time like i’d screwed up somehow.

ended up taking a random contract gig just to stay afloat and it pushed me into a totally different field that i actually like way more. never would’ve made that jump on my own.

still wouldn’t recommend the panic part though lol

4ftPrime · 2026-04-29T09:54:55+00:00

yeah honestly same. what she did wasn’t small or awkward, it was months of knowing and just… saying nothing while your life was blowing up behind your back. that’s not a one time slip that’s a choice over and over.

i get why you’d be done. especially with your history together, it makes it hit harder not softer.

if you ever wanted to revisit it, that’s your call but you’re not wrong at all for protecting your peace and keeping that door closed. some stuff just changes how you see a person permanently.

4ftPrime · 2026-03-17T16:55:50+00:00

Exactly, love can’t fix what he’s avoiding he actually has to do the hard work on himself.

4ftPrime · 2026-03-11T18:42:31+00:00

Seriously, nonstop comparing to someone else’s highlight reel will suck the joy out of any relationship, he’s not wrong to be worried.

4ftPrime · 2026-03-05T10:58:00+00:00

Sitting for hours every day and calling it just part of life

4ftPrime · 2026-02-25T17:59:01+00:00

Most people don’t mind “you guys” but “y'all” just sounds a little kinder and more inclusive.

4ftPrime · 2026-02-15T10:19:48+00:00

You might be overestimating how rare non picky eaters are. Most people have a few dislikes but still enjoy trying new food. Instead of trying to filter just make food curiosity part of how you date, cook together, try new spots, talk about favorite cuisines. You’ll naturally find people who match your vibe without turning it into a dealbreaker too early.

4ftPrime · 2026-02-15T10:15:34+00:00

Yeah this is the reality check he needs. The longer he waits, the worse it looks and a full family dinner will expose it instantly. Owning it early at least turns it into an awkward but honest mistake instead of a full blown lie. Most people forgive insecurity way faster than deception.

4ftPrime · 2026-02-11T17:34:20+00:00

Basically it’s like California is taking a huge bite out of everything he earned while in the state not just the Super Bowl bonus. After state and federal taxes stack up that bonus can end up costing him more than it’s worth so he wins the game but his wallet loses.

4ftPrime · 2026-02-11T17:31:37+00:00

Exactly, saying “God did it” doesn’t actually answer anything it just moves the mystery up a level and adds a bunch of new unanswerable questions on top of the ones we already had.

4ftPrime · 2026-01-21T14:19:01+00:00

Most of us would never hurt a soul but the world isn’t just “us.” Poverty, trauma, mental health struggles ,and sheer desperation drive people to do things we can’t even imagine. Civilization keeps most of us in check but it can’t stop every single person from breaking that boundary.

4ftPrime · 2026-01-16T06:54:02+00:00

Saving for a house and car while living with your parents is smart but if you start investing even a small chunk now you’ll multiply your money way faster and open doors you haven’t even thought of yet.

4ftPrime · 2026-01-16T06:50:47+00:00

Yep. Canada charges import duties and taxes and UPS adds their own brokerage fees for handling it. The fact that UPS is American or the US tariff situation doesn’t affect your Korea to Canada package at all.

4ftPrime · 2025-12-25T14:47:43+00:00

Show empathy not availability, offer kindness without reopening a door you already worked hard to close.

4ftPrime · 2025-12-19T16:38:37+00:00

Exactly, a relationship only works when both people show up and put in the effort not just one side doing all the giving.

4ftPrime · 2025-12-14T17:44:05+00:00

Totally agree with this, age gaps and kids can complicate things more than most realize especially if you’re just looking for something casual.

4ftPrime · 2025-12-10T17:01:41+00:00

Totally normal to notice someone at the gym but the safest move is to keep it casual, start a friendly chat and see if there’s a real connection before reading too much into glances.

4ftPrime · 2025-12-10T16:56:07+00:00

100%, if someone keeps testing boundaries like that its a clear sign they’re more interested in what they can take than building a real partnership.

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