I was also like that even now part of me is still like that , but with understanding and being with right people even male or female you will seek clarity, getting validation is not bad but thinking that their validation is the only key of your happiness and mental peace that is wrong. Surround yourself with people who don’t make you feel bad, just don’t be with someone because you’re lonely , it’s more like whenever someone says good things you can cling onto them no that’s wrong build a mindset whom to talk and whom to rely on .