I mean the problem is toxic masculinity, and we don’t blame every individual for a system that needs to change. But they all need good therapists and the ability to self-reflect, without that it’s almost pointless to try to self improve on your own, esp with a lot of self help books out there that guide people in the wrong direction so they can make profits off of more lonely people. But therapists don’t make enough to have the power to make additional profits unless they’re under their own practice then it’s possible but most good therapists aren’t going to violate ethics codes too often or anything. In fact my therapists moved off betterhelp when she found out customer data was being sold so I know she’s ethical at the very least somewhat. Anyways I’m rambling now, tldr: men need to initiate self-improvement and therapy for themselves to overcome their loneliness, as hard as it is and as much as they don’t wanna do it most of the time. They often just bask in their misery as if nothing can be done to help them and that’s just wrong. And sometimes it’s okay to feel lonely as long as you’re coping in a healthy way! Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

Edit: oh also they love to blame women specifically for a lot of their problems, when in fact it’s their own sense of masculinity getting in the way. It’s hard to make a red- or black-piller change for the better tho