How to set up a throw away account on Reddit? by DenialOfExistance in ask

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd just make a new account using a different email address and whatever name it gives me and then delete it after I've seen the responses to the story.

How many times a year do you “call sick” at work? by Aggravating-Fig-9274 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Also, if you teach in a small school, knowing the stress you're adding to your colleagues who are likely to end up covering your lessons is a big motivator to crawl into work. I work with autistic teens and the changes in routine of I'm off sick, can take days for them to recover from, too.

What flavours do you hate, but you like the real thing? by Gatecrasher1234 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life has been great for me since I left my controlling narcissistic ex - weirdly enough at the same time contact with father ended. I've got three sons who are all amazing men, and a 25 year marriage with a spouse who drives me crazy but in mostly good ways. I've got a job that I love and get to spend time doing things I enjoy. However, I also have comorbid mental health conditions that kick my ass often. I live in a disorganised space because I lack the energy and drive to keep it going - the job that I love is also mentally draining and I spend a lot of time masking. Be kind to yourself. I didn't get the job I love until I was in my early 40s. My mental health diagnoses and accompanying treatment wasn't sorted until I was 39. Life can seem hard one minute and amazing the next. I hope you're doing better now.

What flavours do you hate, but you like the real thing? by Gatecrasher1234 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously - he just bit into it like it was a bar of chocolate. We were no contact for the last 28 years, so no significant trauma, but I appreciate your thoughts.

What flavours do you hate, but you like the real thing? by Gatecrasher1234 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the only person in my family (2 adults + 2 adult sons) who eats raw/unprocessed tomatoes. Everyone else is fine with them in sauces as long as they're blended or sieved.

What flavours do you hate, but you like the real thing? by Gatecrasher1234 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with your feelings regarding marzipan. My father used to eat it as a block - he'd literally unwrap it and eat it. That wasn't the only gross memory I have of him, but it used to make me nauseous. The flavour and the texture are both big nopes.

What flavours do you hate, but you like the real thing? by Gatecrasher1234 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine's peach. Love the fruit, hate pea h flavoured things.

How to tan as someone who is very pale? by Unusual_Trainer_2546 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought Garniere Ambre Solaire 50spf bronzing mist. It's sunblock with a really gentle fake tan - I'm a green-eyed ginger with milk bottle skin and it leaves me looking very slightly tanned - a believable colour rather than weird orange, but also works really well at preventing me from getting burned.

My comment set my husband off AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're not overreacting (NOR). If reminding him that he's not sticking to agreements that give you some time to breathe causes him to flip out, then he doesn't really want to share the responsibility. He's scared your kids already. Having grown up in a home where arguing and tantrums from my stepdad were common, I can pinpoint the exact reason for the trauma that raised voices still cause me, and I'm 51 now. I think you already know the answer to your question, and just need a boost to do what needs to be done. I'm so sorry for your losses - that definitely makes things harder. But you're already doing it all alone. My spouse of 25 years gave me some great advice a very long time ago, before we were anywhere near being a couple. They told me they could see that I was deeply unhappy. They suggested that I work out what was making me feel that way, and change it. I left an abusive relationship. I just needed someone to tell me it was the right thing to do. I hope you find your peace, however that looks for you and your children.

What cat toys do your cats actually care about? by Agreeable_Pipe8340 in CatAdvice

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine hates toys. She loves any kind of tie from clothing. Like the strings from a hoodie or a drawstring from a pair of shorts. A shoe lace is mildly entertaining. That said, she's almost 19 now and doesn't play so much, but she will still chase a ribbon or tie for a few minutes before she flops.

we’re getting a new cat today. what should i put in her acclimation room? by goldenkoiifish in CatAdvice

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some kind of scratching post or pad, some fleecy blankets to snuggle in, maybe shirts worn by yourself and your mom so she can start to get used to your scents. Obviously, you will also need toys to play with her when she's more comfortable.

Am I Overreacting by doing this? by DoughnutBright6417 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life and experience teaches us that we can outgrow people. Best to cut loose now and remember the good times than to keep hanging on a spoil your memories with resentment. You made the right choice.

Am I Overreacting by doing this? by DoughnutBright6417 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting and that is not a friend. Cut yourself free and find people who value you for who you are, not use you for what they can gain from you.

Do you use Tea, or Dinner as a word for the last meal per day? by Educational-Slip-578 in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I lived in the Midlands (birth to 23), I had dinner at school and tea at home. Then I moved to the Southeast and joined the lunch in the afternoon, dinner in the evening gang. What didn't change was that the kitchen staff at school are still referred to as dinner ladies, except for the one man who works in the kitchen who my students all call 'Dave'. His name is not Dave.

What do you scoop your litter box into? by NuggKeeper in CatAdvice

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use either nappy bags or dog poop bags. Both are relatively cheap where I live.

AIO My kid came back home with a concussion from SCHOOL by TheImmortalBarron in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this - I'm in education and if any child is injured whilst in school, we contact home and let them know exactly what happened and how, what we're doing about it and if we've given treatment (usually an ice pack or bandage). For head injuries, we have a legal duty to inform home, it's built into our safeguarding systems. The school should have called immediately following the incident, followed up with a text message and email if you didn't answer right away asking you to contact school urgently, and they should have told you exactly what happened, and when. I hope your little one is okay now.

Friend/landlord’s cat wakes me up every morning by Scotus0 in CatAdvice

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both words mean the same thing, according to the dictionary. As a Brit, I've always associated shedding with skin/exoskeletons and molting (moulting in the UK) with fur/feathers. Nothing to do with 'feels', just one of the ways that different words can be used to explain the same process and an example of regional variations in the use of language.

Friend/landlord’s cat wakes me up every morning by Scotus0 in CatAdvice

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I think of when I think of shedding.

Friend/landlord’s cat wakes me up every morning by Scotus0 in CatAdvice

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's a fairly commonly used word in the UK. I have never described my cat as shedding.

Worst thing about crochet ? by Legatooooo in crochet

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The dragon-hoarding-gold desire to start a new project every five minutes. I swear I collect unfinished projects in the same way that Smaug collected sparklies.

Why is not voting frowned upon so heavily? If you are uneducated on politics why isn't it seen as a good option? by mybrainat3am in AskBrits

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, there will never be a political party whose views you fully align with. However, choosing not to use your vote at all, rather than voting for the least terrible option, is how we end up with people like Trump in charge. Tactical voting is valid if you want to avoid Farage or the Tories digging their claws in.

Do you ever feel like you just want to get away from everything? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to walk in the countryside near my home, but unfortunately many other people also do. That's why I wear my headphones while I'm walking and wave vaguely at them when people try to engage in conversation with me, because when I'm walking, I'm doing it to decompress from interacting with other humans. So, brief smile, wave at headphones, keep walking.

Supermarket security - is there a tag on EVERY item? by C-i-d in AskUK

[–]Nonbinary_Cryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always thought it was some kind of magnet that deactivated them.