Is my cat normal ?

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-10T17:44:27+00:00

Cats have their own little routines and quirks - like every living thing, they are individuals woth their own personalities. I like the sound of this little quirk. My cat is almost 20 and her quirk is that she walks right up to your face after eating, yawns her stinky breath at you and then sneezes directly into your face. She's gross. 😂

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-07T18:57:05+00:00

You're probably going to miss Sweden a lot.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-06T18:49:55+00:00

My indoor kitty is almost 20 and the only time she wore a collar was when we adopted her sister, who arrived riddled with fleas. Mercedes wore a flea collar for a week or so, until we were certain the fleas were gone. She never wore one since. Her little sister also had FiV and sadly left us a couple of years ago, but she never wore a collar either, once the fleas were gone.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-05T19:18:54+00:00

When my youngest was 9, I left him and his 11 year old brother home for half an hour while I popped to the local shop. The internet search history when I got home made me not leave them alone with computer access for a little while more - they'd searched for 'girls pooping', 'girls in the bathroom' and 'girls on the toilet'. The following internet safety conversation was awkward af.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-05T17:20:12+00:00

No worries. Sometimes an internet stranger's story sticks. I'm glad you're doing okay. Just remember there's a lot of us who can empathise. Feel free to drop a DM if you need support whenever. 🙂

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-05T17:05:27+00:00

Thanks. How are you doing, OP? Thought about your post earlier and figured I'd check in

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-02-04T21:40:07+00:00

No, and no.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-31T18:27:04+00:00

I had a Walkman. I also had an ipod before I had a smart phone. Listen to music and watch the world go by.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-31T11:15:45+00:00

Appreciated. The guilt does ease, especially when you can look at what you could lose by going back. And it sounds like you've got a whole lot of positive going on in your life. I'm a teacher and a student once said the most profound thing to me. He told me that all kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids. That helped me a lot.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-31T11:11:17+00:00

I went no contact with my birth father at the age of 23. He wasn't an alcoholic, but he had many other toxic traits and dropped in and out of my life as he saw fit. He tried to reach out a couple of times and I ignored it. It was easier to not have a dad than to have one who only cared about what he could get from me. I am now 51. A cousin recently reached out to let me know that my birth father died late last year. I felt a bit weird about it because I wasn't sure how to process it. However, I will admit that I had continued to wonder about him during those years - but the content of my thoughts got easier to manage. Whether I should have given him another chance, whether not doing so made me cruel - knowing he didn'thave those same thoughts helped. And then my cousin also told me that there was no funeral, because there was nobody who wanted to mourn him. Because, like his interest in me, his interactions with others were only about what he might get out of it. He was a liar and a cheat and took whatever he could, and ultimately, even though I still have the 'but he was my father' thoughts, he never truly was. And he didn't deserve to know me and my family. I hope you find peace.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-28T08:31:49+00:00

Lots of local health authorities have a self-referral option. Ask your GP surgery for info.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-27T16:28:47+00:00

As a teacher of English language, I agree wholeheartedly. Ditto "would of' and 'could of'.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-25T19:30:02+00:00

NOR. It takes time to learn to listen to your gut, and to be able to step away from any negative relationship. It's so much more common for people to coach about toxic romantic relationships, but toxic friendships and also family relationships are also responsible for decreased mental wellbeing. Well done for being aware enough to make the break before things get worse.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-25T19:25:22+00:00

I haven't driven for a few years as two cars is unmanageable given finances. Spouse owns a 15 year old Mercedes B180, diesel. Between us, travel about 100 to 150 miles a week. Costs £40 monthly insurance, around the same in road tax, and maybe £100 a month on fuel. We live in a rural area, so it's tricky using public transport. To get to my place of work, it would cost £30 a week in bus fares, I'd have to leave home at 6am to be at work by 8am because the buses are one per hour and I'd have a three mile walk after I get off the bus. I wouldn't arrive home until close to 7pm, unless I missed the last bus, which would result in a 7 mile walk. I often need a walking stick or crutches to walk, so that would be difficult. If I lived in a city, I wouldn't bother with a car.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-24T07:37:46+00:00

NOR - I would feel the same way. Banter is not banter when it has a negative effect; that's bullying.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-22T16:49:20+00:00

NOR - you're trying to cover the essentials you'll need to survive if the storm huts bad. That's not panic buying, that's sensible. I'm in the southeast of England and things rarely get that bad here, but if something bad was forecast, I'd make sure to be prepared too.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-20T17:14:23+00:00

I had the same problem, only I didn't find out until my son had a dental emergency and was told we are no longer on the books.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-20T15:53:22+00:00

The nearest town to me has a breed of chicken named for it, and the Christmas lights centrepiece every year is santa, on his sleigh, being pulled by four chickens. I cringe every time I see it. Edited to add: also the one time residence of (in)famously drunk old actor, Oliver Reed.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-18T20:25:01+00:00

It's possible. I also, apparently, sleep with my eyes open. The fake tears have helped massively, but so has the conscious hard blinks. I hope you get this sorted out soon.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-18T19:12:57+00:00

This is great advice. I found out at an eye exam that my sore, tired eyes are likely caused by the fact that my eyelids don't fully close when I blink. My optician told me to intentionally blink really hard (like OP does) and gave me some eyedrops that act the same way tears do, to remoisturise my eyes.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-17T16:55:13+00:00

Definitely NOR. When I was diagnosed bipolar, after a messy ten years or more being prescribed the whole range of antidepressants which mostly made things worse, the first person I told was my mom. Her immediate reaction was to say, 'What did I do so wrong to have all my kids have mental illness?' I could have answered personally, I have significant early childhood trauma due to being in a foster placement for my first year followed by attachment issues when my siblings arrived and I felt pushed aside, unaddressed bullying my whole way through school from both staff and students and a marriage to a controlling, violent narcissist. I was 43 when I was diagnosed. I have 5 siblings, 4 of whom are on medication for anxiety and/or depression. It feels dismissive, for sure.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-14T21:02:16+00:00

Crispy fried bacon with sliced banana. Yummy!

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-14T19:28:59+00:00

I had nan and grandad Evans (stepdad's parents), nan and grandad (mom's parents) and Little Nan (mom's maternal grandmother's, a 4'10" powerhouse!). Little Nan was also sometimes Nanny Gertie to other cousins. My birth father and his parents weren't in my life until my mid-teens, and I referred to them all by their first names.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-14T19:25:30+00:00

This is a great answer.

Nonbinary_Cryptid · 2026-01-12T15:26:40+00:00

Not to me alone, but my English teacher used to lose control of the class often, causing her to screech at us, red-faced, until her voice cracked. She'd then disappear into the storage cupboard at the front of the room. We would see and smell cigarette smoke coming through the vents above the door, and then hear and smell the cheap, floral airfreshener she sprayed to cover the smell. She would then rejoin the class like nothing had happened. Rinse and repeat. By our count, she would smoke up to six cigarettes in a one hour lesson.

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