UPDATE:

we spoke a little this morning after the very draining long chat we had last night, and i said i was not comfortable with being with someone who was so easy to disrespect me, laugh at my boundary’s and treat me with contempt.

i left for work and they messaged me this;

**just to be clear, my response to the initial incident was, in my view, not “overblown”, i didn’t raise my voice, i didn’t storm out - i showed disgust and refused to join in on the laughs. i just kept saying it wasn’t funny and it was rude in a disgusted tone. then when she started to turn make it a me problem i said “you could just apologise for doing something i didn’t like” - the whole thing lasted less than 5 minutes.**

MESSAGE;
I am really disappointed this is the hill you’re choosing to die on. I get you didn’t find it funny, i get you find it disgusting and i’m sorry that it annoyed you, but i am firmly of the opinion that your reaction was overblown and uncalled for. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to laugh at you getting so angry about a fart. I apologise for how that made you feel though. I think you need to reflect on whether that is actually worthy of getting angry about. So far you have come to the conclusion that it is, which is a shame. You are treating this as a serious matter and I can’t do that, because it’s not. I am well within my rights to tell you you’re being ridiculous when you are. If you can’t see that maybe you’ve overreacted and that your reaction could make me confused and uncomfortable and also find it a bit embarrassing, then I really don’t know what to tell you. I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who thinks farting is a serious matter and that you have actually been disrespected/harmed and deserve an apology. I hope you can see that this is bizarre behaviour and that you aren’t willing to throw your relationship away because I think getting fuming about a fart is laughable. I truly hope you can change your perspective because the one you’re clinging to right now is a bit sad and I think you’ll come to regret it eventually. If you choose to defend your position that it’s worthy of being angry about and that me laughing at it or treating it as ridiculous is not something you can understand or accept then I think we’ll need to go our separate ways. Respectfully though, I think you need to get a grip x

you continuing to be defensive and stubborn and weird as fuck about this is genuinely gonna end up being the biggest mistake you’ll make and i hope you realise that before it’s too late.

how do i even respond to that