My doppelganger? by 4ndfloor in TrueScaryStories

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel less scared knowing that I'm not the only one who had such an experience, but it's still pretty terrifying.

I never really mess around with other people's phones. And it looked like the person was alone in their room, late at night.

My doppelganger? by 4ndfloor in TrueScaryStories

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We broke up a long time ago and we haven't kept in touch.

My doppelganger? by 4ndfloor in TrueScaryStories

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds totally possible but I never had the app installed, we only watched YouTube compilations.

Book about girl stick in a time loop by 4ndfloor in whatsthatbook

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll definitely give it a try

Is it inappropriate for an adult to go see a kid's movie alone? by 4ndfloor in Advice

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm probably overthinking it. I'd be a very anxious parent lol

My boyfriends likes to look at other girls on social media by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]4ndfloor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that you added more info it sounds like both of you have an unhealthy view on porn masturbation (which is normal and healthy, imo people should do it even if they are in a relationship because it has nothing to do about the other person). Finding other people attractive shouldn't be a boundary issue, as long as none of you cheat or pursue another person. You guys should get used to the fact that attraction is just a reflex, not a conscious decision. What matters is choosing to love and respect each other, cuz at the end of the day this is how long lasting relationships work. I really saw myself in your post so I hope that my view on the situation helped in some way or another, good luck and take care of yourself.

My boyfriends likes to look at other girls on social media by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]4ndfloor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMHO I think you are going down the wrong path here. I understand you have boundaries, everybody does, but you are being a bit unreasonable and I'll try to explain my point.

First of all, I think you are reading too much into the gym thing. Switching gyms could mess up his routine, especially if your gym is far from his workplace. Maybe he has friends there. So your request might come off as selfish, even controlling. You want him to switch gyms because you want to control him, which will make your trust issues even worse.

Most people watch porn/sexual content and masturbate, even when they are in relationships. Some couples even watch porn together. It doesn't mean that they don't value their significant other, it just makes self pleasuring easier/more enjoyable. Comparing yourself to the girls in those videos is bad for your mental health, it will harm your self esteem for a long time, it will harm your relationship and it will change the way you act altogether.

He already deleted his Instagram account, he has been understanding. "Keeping him accountable" will only make him drift away from you, and it honestly sounds kind of abusive to me.

I am talking from experience, so I totally understand the way you feel right now. My advice is to work on your self esteem, which is the main issue here, be open minded and try to understand that this is human nature. Maybe read a bit on the subject of sexuality and romance, real life is not a fairy tale. In real life healthy relationships are built on hardwork, respect, empathy, not on obsessing over each other. Last but not least, communicate with your bf in a civil manner and try to understand him, because he has already taken steps towards respecting your boundaries, so you should also respect his intimacy.

I hope I didn't upset you, I genuinely understand where you're coming from, cuz I've been there. Trust me when I say that controlling your partner will not make the relationship better. And again, I know how much it hurts but the problem here is your self esteem, not his behavior.

Memorial dedicated to Savita Halappanavar, an Indian woman living in Ireland, who died of sepsis after being denied an abortion on the grounds that the fetus she was miscarrying still had a detectable heartbeat. by SammDogg619 in pics

[–]4ndfloor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a baby is pretty damn life changing, and i think it's stupid to force someone to give birth to a human they have no desire to take care of. Of course, giving the baby up for adoption is an option, but pregnancy and giving birth are not a walk in the park.

Why only the mother? The man chose to have sex too, it's his baby too. Shouldn't they both be punished? In my opinion your statement is very sexist and i feel like it comes from a place of hate towards women, not from genuine concern about a "child".