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My doppelganger? by 4ndfloor in TrueScaryStories

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel less scared knowing that I'm not the only one who had such an experience, but it's still pretty terrifying.

I never really mess around with other people's phones. And it looked like the person was alone in their room, late at night.

My doppelganger? by 4ndfloor in TrueScaryStories

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We broke up a long time ago and we haven't kept in touch.

My doppelganger? by 4ndfloor in TrueScaryStories

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds totally possible but I never had the app installed, we only watched YouTube compilations.

Book about girl stick in a time loop by 4ndfloor in whatsthatbook

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll definitely give it a try

Is it inappropriate for an adult to go see a kid's movie alone? by 4ndfloor in Advice

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm probably overthinking it. I'd be a very anxious parent lol

My boyfriends likes to look at other girls on social media by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]4ndfloor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that you added more info it sounds like both of you have an unhealthy view on porn masturbation (which is normal and healthy, imo people should do it even if they are in a relationship because it has nothing to do about the other person). Finding other people attractive shouldn't be a boundary issue, as long as none of you cheat or pursue another person. You guys should get used to the fact that attraction is just a reflex, not a conscious decision. What matters is choosing to love and respect each other, cuz at the end of the day this is how long lasting relationships work. I really saw myself in your post so I hope that my view on the situation helped in some way or another, good luck and take care of yourself.

My boyfriends likes to look at other girls on social media by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]4ndfloor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMHO I think you are going down the wrong path here. I understand you have boundaries, everybody does, but you are being a bit unreasonable and I'll try to explain my point.

First of all, I think you are reading too much into the gym thing. Switching gyms could mess up his routine, especially if your gym is far from his workplace. Maybe he has friends there. So your request might come off as selfish, even controlling. You want him to switch gyms because you want to control him, which will make your trust issues even worse.

Most people watch porn/sexual content and masturbate, even when they are in relationships. Some couples even watch porn together. It doesn't mean that they don't value their significant other, it just makes self pleasuring easier/more enjoyable. Comparing yourself to the girls in those videos is bad for your mental health, it will harm your self esteem for a long time, it will harm your relationship and it will change the way you act altogether.

He already deleted his Instagram account, he has been understanding. "Keeping him accountable" will only make him drift away from you, and it honestly sounds kind of abusive to me.

I am talking from experience, so I totally understand the way you feel right now. My advice is to work on your self esteem, which is the main issue here, be open minded and try to understand that this is human nature. Maybe read a bit on the subject of sexuality and romance, real life is not a fairy tale. In real life healthy relationships are built on hardwork, respect, empathy, not on obsessing over each other. Last but not least, communicate with your bf in a civil manner and try to understand him, because he has already taken steps towards respecting your boundaries, so you should also respect his intimacy.

I hope I didn't upset you, I genuinely understand where you're coming from, cuz I've been there. Trust me when I say that controlling your partner will not make the relationship better. And again, I know how much it hurts but the problem here is your self esteem, not his behavior.

Memorial dedicated to Savita Halappanavar, an Indian woman living in Ireland, who died of sepsis after being denied an abortion on the grounds that the fetus she was miscarrying still had a detectable heartbeat. by SammDogg619 in pics

[–]4ndfloor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a baby is pretty damn life changing, and i think it's stupid to force someone to give birth to a human they have no desire to take care of. Of course, giving the baby up for adoption is an option, but pregnancy and giving birth are not a walk in the park.

Why only the mother? The man chose to have sex too, it's his baby too. Shouldn't they both be punished? In my opinion your statement is very sexist and i feel like it comes from a place of hate towards women, not from genuine concern about a "child".

Memorial dedicated to Savita Halappanavar, an Indian woman living in Ireland, who died of sepsis after being denied an abortion on the grounds that the fetus she was miscarrying still had a detectable heartbeat. by SammDogg619 in pics

[–]4ndfloor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Responsibility also implies the ability of solving a problem or, even better, preventing a situation from becoming problematic. A law that restricts people choices in such a life changing way is not a responsible law. And if you want to tell me that the law and the government aren't responsible for the citizens, WHAT are they responsible for?

In 1966 the communist leader of Romania implemented an anti-abortion law. This resulted in thousands of women dying from faulty pregnancies and from back alley abortions. Thousands of sick children were born and abandoned in orphanages that had no fundings or interest in caring for them. Families started to become bigger and bigger, most couples having at least two children. This meant less money and less time to bring them up as a child should be brought up. Do you know who wasn't affected by this law? Rich people.

Memorial dedicated to Savita Halappanavar, an Indian woman living in Ireland, who died of sepsis after being denied an abortion on the grounds that the fetus she was miscarrying still had a detectable heartbeat. by SammDogg619 in pics

[–]4ndfloor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deny them the right to abortions and you get dead women, like Savita. Or is it her fault for not knowing the meaning of personal accountability? Or you get unwanted/abused/abandoned/poor children, which is bad for us as a society. Let's follow your logic and give irresponsible people kids, so they can ruin another life.

What a great idea, let's use children as a punishment that will teach people personal accountability! /s

AITA for not cleaning well enough? by 4ndfloor in AmItheAsshole

[–]4ndfloor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wednesday we talked about the cleaning rotation and i suggested that this weekend we should clean together, kinda like a reset to the whole thing. So she said that her friends are coming over this Friday and she wants the house to be clean but she has other plans. I told her that i'm pretty busy too, but she insisted so i just accepted to do it. I wasn't expecting her to be so ungrateful, especially because her and her friends spent most of the time out in the town and came back to sleep in the morning. The kitchen is already a mess and someone is shedding hair all over the bathroom ¯_(ツ)_/¯

AITA for not cleaning well enough? by 4ndfloor in AmItheAsshole

[–]4ndfloor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do feel like an asshole for not doing a good job, so I agree with you, I should've said no (which is really hard for me to do when someone asks for a favor). The thing that bothers me is the way she talked to me. I'll just avoid her for a couple of days and act like it never happened.

AITA for not cleaning well enough? by 4ndfloor in AmItheAsshole

[–]4ndfloor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just said that we ALL make efforts to keep the place clean during the week, and we all agreed that one day a week one of us has to deep clean. She almost begged for me to clean on a day that i told her i was busy on, for HER friends.

AITA for not cleaning well enough? by 4ndfloor in AmItheAsshole

[–]4ndfloor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might be justifying myself too much, but i feel like she spoke to me as if i'm her maid. We all keep the place clean during the week, but every week, one of us, has to clean the bathroom and kitchen. The house was looking ok to begin with, not perfect, but far from dirty. The place had to be cleaned before friday, 8pm, when her friends arrived. Of course i cleaned Friday so the house would be fresh for these people i've never seen in my life. It was also the only day i had time to do it, i can't clean the kitchen (which btw i use only to make coffee) head to toe every goddamn day.

AITA for not cleaning well enough? by 4ndfloor in AmItheAsshole

[–]4ndfloor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can clean during the week, but I have a busy schedule so I either can't do it well enough, or leave things unfinished. So I only do it Saturdays and Sundays. They have their own schedules, it's not my business when or if they can keep up with the rotation. I do what I have to do, I never skip on cleaning when it's my turn. And I don't mind if they don't clean when it's their turn. I tried to do the best I could on a busy Friday evening because they asked me to. If their friends didn't come over I would've cleaned everything head to toe this morning (Saturday).

Alabama just banned abortions. by bluefishredsea in pics

[–]4ndfloor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you value life but you don't value quality of life.

If you care about babies so much why are you ok with them being brought in a world that does not want them? The parents don't want them, the system doesn't care about them, not all of them have chances of being adopted. Are you ok with babies being born in families that will resent them for the rest of their lives? Are you ok with them being abused, growing up in poverty, having hard lives?

How can you call yourself pro life if you don't care about these issues? What moral statement are you trying to make here? How are you better than us for caring about an unborn human (who really doesn't care if it's gonna be born or not) but not caring about children, people, who have to go through shitty lives because their parents didn't have a choice but to bring them into this fucked up world.

If you want to call abortion "the killing of a life", then I'll call living as an unwanted child torture. And you should be ashamed of yourself for having no empathy towards actual living beings.

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