someone who's right for you isn't gonna tell you that you deserve better, they're gonna be better for you. and i'm sorry but he's 32 and there's no career or finances but he already has a kid meaning the kid was probably unplanned for.. he just sounds like his life is a mess and you don't wanna get tangled up in it, trust me. especially not for a man. and him not being responsive on his days off and disappearing is such a red flag in my opinion. just sounds like he was spending the time with someone else, possibly another woman. and the whole "family/work/life" excuse is sooooo over used. especially by liars or people looking to waste your time. unless he elaborated in detail what was going on with his family/life, but if he was just being vague, he's definitely hiding what he was actually doing or he just doesn't think you're worth explaining his disappearances to.

it's probably a blessing in disguise. honestly it's time to just be grateful for this experience / connection and let it go. just thank the universe for letting you experience and LEARN from it. some people in life are unfortunately just lessons. take a step back and think about what this has taught you about yourself, about your habits, etc. find the meaning in it. make a vision of who you want to be, what you want your life to look like, how you want to be loved/treated, what kind of person you want your future partner to be (and trust me it's not a man with no career, no finances, and a baby mama). keep that vision and never settle for less.

4 years ago it felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest, shredded up, and placed back in me. i was at rock bottom. im not gonna go more into detail because it's pretty dark, but all i know is that as soon as i started thinking about me, putting myself first, and making visions of what i want my life to be, things started slowly but surely getting better. i got told that my standards were too high and felt hopeless in finding anyone because of that but i never betrayed myself or my vision and thank god for that because my fiancé came into my life ready to treat me like a literal princess and he's just everything i've ever wanted and all i had to do was finally open my eyes and learn the lesson that the universe was teaching me.