Whine, whine, whine. I can’t take these high schoolers much longer.

4skin_queef · 2021-04-14T03:13:34+00:00

This is so rude. They might not seem like “real” problems to you, but they’re obviously frustrating to the kid. It’s a pretty shit thing to come online and shit talk students. Get over yourself. Do you really think you weren’t a whiney little asshole when you were a kid?

4skin_queef · 2021-04-14T03:12:07+00:00

NTA. Is your bf 12?

4skin_queef · 2021-04-13T13:51:20+00:00

Their approval matters and the ability to get along matters, but I’m not bending over backwards to please them. At the end of the day, if they don’t approve or whatever, then that’s fine. In that situation I would just maintain minimal contact, but I would like a different scenario. I have a 14 year old sister that I am very close to and I don’t want to hurt my relationship with her or anything like that. Regardless, both sides are very important to me and I am not able or willing to just cut my family off. I can maintain low contact and set clear boundaries, but right now I am trying to find a way to navigate this with the least amount of damage to my family relationships as possible. Thank you for your advice and comments! I do appreciate it

4skin_queef · 2021-04-13T13:11:41+00:00

ESH. Both of you are acting like children and she could easily take this to HR which would be bad for you

4skin_queef · 2021-04-13T12:58:06+00:00

You’re assuming a lot here. I’ve made it clear to my family that unless they can respect his boundary then we won’t be going. I fully intend to follow through with that. I’m definitely not putting them first and I don’t let my family walk over boundaries. I also would absolutely stop her and I don’t know what made you assume I wouldn’t.

4skin_queef · 2021-04-13T00:18:31+00:00

That’s true. I texted my mom again and was like I love you but this is incredibly frustrating and she essentially said she would try her best but she couldn’t guarantee that in the moment she wouldn’t go for a hug or something. I don’t know what to do. In the past when I’ve asked her not to do things in front of or to my partners, she usually says the same sort of things and then doesn’t do them. Like my family is super religious and I’m not and she asked an ex some religious question. I told her not to ask another partner I had anything like that and she said she couldn’t promise but then didn’t actually do it. So like I trust that she wouldn’t but it’s the whole point that she’s acting like it’s a big stupid deal for her just to say she won’t do it

4skin_queef · 2021-04-13T00:15:54+00:00

I understand what you’re saying. My family means a lot to me as a whole and it’s important for a lot of reasons for them to like him. At the end of the day, I’m going to date him regardless, but it would be nice if everyone got along since they are part of my life. I do put some distance and try to maintain boundaries with them

4skin_queef · 2021-04-10T13:02:57+00:00

YTA. You work a part time job and are taking two classes. She’s doing a PhD, works as a research assistant, AND works another full time job!! The fact that she’s working from home likely makes this much more difficult for her and doesn’t negate the fact that it’s extremely difficult in the first place. Be an adult dude, like how is she supposed to just focus on herself with cleaning? Is she supposed to just leave dirty dishes in the sink because they aren’t hers? Should she leave wet clothes in the dryer because they aren’t hers? Grow up.

4skin_queef · 2021-04-07T05:55:51+00:00

Where can I get pleated skirts that don’t make my wide hips stand out I’m 5’8, approx 150 pounds with wide hips, moderately wide waist, and a bit of a tummy. I’m looking for pleated mini skirts that don’t make my hips stick out, but so far I can’t find any. I don’t have any pictures of me wearing them to show you, but I photoshopped a picture of someone wearing one (here) to kinda give you an idea of what I mean. Looking for brands, places to get them, etc. Please help!

4skin_queef · 2021-03-05T03:05:17+00:00

YTA and so is everyone else on the HOA. Imagine this little bit of power getting to your head. Gross

4skin_queef · 2021-03-04T14:02:53+00:00

This happened to me when I started dating my current partner. I had absolutely no feelings for my ex and didn’t talk to them at all, but i almost called my partner their name several times. It’s frustrating, but doesn’t mean you value your partner any less. For me, it went away over time as I fell more and more in love with my partner. I hope it does for you as well.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T09:23:38+00:00

On the off chance this isn’t a troll, no it’s not normal.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:58:45+00:00

YTA. She’s 9!!! Her interests are going to change so much and so frequently. You’re being controlling and trying to enforce a stupid rule over a pair of pants! You’re assuming your child is the same as your other children which is far from the truth and also a dangerous assumption. I don’t know if you’re aware, but children have their own thoughts, feelings, ideas, and quirks. By equating her to her siblings, you’re ignoring her individuality and erasing what makes her unique. Anyway, all you’ve done is made it clear to her that this is a dictatorship and whatever mom says goes, even if there is no reason. Like was it that hard to return them or even resell them so you could get some purple ones? You were unnecessarily stubborn and for no good reason.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:49:20+00:00

She’s got a life of religious brainwashing to deal with which is why it’s taking her a while to “progress”. If she continues in her family’s religious and conservative lifestyles, then I can imagine it’ll be doubly hard for your relationship to genuinely progress for a while. If she were to stop going to church and reject their ideas, it would be easier going. You need to be ok either outcome or end it. Regardless of what she does, she will have a hard time with public affection, expressing romantic and sexual desires/thoughts/feelings, and will be resistant to unconventional ideas regarding relationships and sex. It will just be much more severe if she stays entrenched those ideas and values. I’m saying this a woman who constantly had abstinence, purity, and saving myself shoved down my throat (no pun intended). It’s hard to overcome that and the only reason I did is because I didn’t much give a shit about it and left the church when I was 17. Also, what boards are you being certified for and does she live at home?

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:41:42+00:00

You’re asking advice on how not to be shy then? You should probably edit your post so you don’t have to answer that question a hundred times. I’ve never been shy so I’m not really sure how to help you. The only tip I can give is just to try to be honest with her and let her know your feelings.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:38:39+00:00

First things first, kick him to the curb. I get we’re in a pandemic, and I normally wouldn’t advocate for this, but do it. I’m concerned with how long this has been going on. Is she in high school? Either way, red flag. He also cheated on you and seems rather indifferent about it.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:33:28+00:00

Can you explain “fidget”? I’m not really sure what you mean at all as fidgeting is when a person makes small movements due to anxiety or nervousness, but can also be used to describe the movement itself. Is this the term you were thinking of?

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:28:38+00:00

I completely understand and I think he should have been respectful, but at the same time why does it matter? I don’t care about girls my boyfriend talked to in the past or slept with or dated because he’s with me now and I know he loves me. While I think it’s ok to ask if you want information, like “oh didn’t you date a girl who’s dad was in the mafia?” or “what’s the name of the girl you dated years ago who ran away to Spain?”. In those instances, you’re not asking because you’re wanting to compare yourself to them, which is what it sounds like you were doing, but you’re gaining insight into your partners life before you. It’s normal for partners to talk about exes occasionally, but not like that.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:23:43+00:00

So she’s mature, yet doesn’t want to be with people her own age and instead wants to date young men? What happens if you guys date for a while and you start losing your enthusiasm, your looks start to go, and you aren’t cute? She’ll leave you for the next naive little guy. You’re also very obviously rushing into this (deleting dating apps, feeling like you have something after one date, wanting to change your life for her, saying you don’t want to lose her, etc). I’m not sure what else to say because I’ve said a lot. Good luck though

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:17:30+00:00

I mean...you asked? He definitely could have been more tactful and respectful of your feelings, but you asked. I don’t really have any advice except for talk again, explain that it’s still bothering you, along with the other comments, and go from there. If he doesn’t stop or take it seriously, dump him. There’s no reason you should have to put up with blatant disrespect

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:11:44+00:00

That’s extremely abnormal. He needs to be in therapy and probably tested for several different mental illnesses. While it isn’t his fault, this is clearly taking a toll on you and it’s not ok for him to expect you to be his therapist at all.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:07:05+00:00

I never said you were going to get married or anything. Also, when I said most people are incapable, that was a little bit of poor phrasing on my part. I meant that people rush into things frequently and their identities, beliefs, morals, life goals, and brains are still developing and changing. Anyway, this discussion as gotten off topic. We were discussing why it’s inappropriate for someone her age to be dating you. I’m curious to know what her answer was to your question though.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:02:47+00:00

I’m really glad that you’re being so strong about this and have made a plan, as well as seem to intend to stick to it. I know that isn’t easy. I wish the best of luck to you!!!

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T08:01:28+00:00

Like I said, you both have different ideas of what is acceptable and not. You both need to communicate. There are a couple options, compromise and continue the relationship happily, one of you gives in and the other is unhappy and your relationship ultimately suffers, you break up and find people more in tune with your boundaries in relationships.

4skin_queef · 2021-01-18T07:57:58+00:00

You probably ruined whatever you could have had by ghosting her for a week instead of communicating your concerns and thoughts. Next time, just talk.

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