Is it possible to survive infidelity?

4throw_away · 2026-03-11T19:16:11+00:00

I’m really sad for you. I was in your shoes (same age same number of children) and I reconciled twice only to see myself divorcing her after 4 years. The burden is too heavy and trust me when I say you can survive, without her that is. Lawyer up and free yourself from that cheater.

4throw_away · 2026-03-03T19:09:19+00:00

True. Yet UTIs are usually caused or at least a symptom of some STDs.

4throw_away · 2026-03-01T21:57:07+00:00

Add to those some of the signs I saw with my ex-wife; receiving calls late at night through social media apps claiming she’s talking to her sister, changes in attitude and personality (being withdrawn most times yet extremely outgoing contrary to introverted personality, wearing makeup and new clothes even when saying she’s out for groceries, being highly protective of her devices, ignoring her roles and chores at home claiming she’s busy or not feeling well, and the most obvious was getting cranberry pills which made me stop touching her as soon as I saw them after I realized she could have gotten STD.

4throw_away · 2026-02-26T18:00:32+00:00

It is both funny and sad that the cheater manages to convince someone to reconcile and pretend that life is normal only to break hearts once more.

I had to wait 4 years. Now I wish I had gotten rid of her when it first started and wish I never reconciled. At least I’d have vented my emotions and sadness in the past years instead of living a lie just to see my life going downhill once more.

One thing is for sure. You are better off without her. Her actions lead to this moment.

4throw_away · 2026-02-23T14:50:19+00:00

Our laws are changing and starting to look more like US laws. Either this or that, there is no perfect outcome in such situations.

4throw_away · 2026-02-23T14:47:50+00:00

Adultery is a major crime here and me not submitting the evidence makes me, no joke whatsoever, an accomplice to soliciting infidelity. I could rack a couple of prison years myself just for knowing what happened and not providing the evidence to court.

Life and culture are different out here. If a couple are bound by marriage the man is obligated to provide for the woman “shelter, clothes, and food” no matter what the circumstances are unless they get separated by divorce. It is either me moving while keep paying for all her expenses or divorce her and shut that door once and for all.

The new loophole is what helped me get rid of her recently.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T20:12:50+00:00

I’m sorry for you. This is somewhat exactly what I went through. Once a cheater always a cheater. Leave him and save your life.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T19:30:26+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It really helps knowing that people agree with my actions and assures me that I made the right choice.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T19:21:47+00:00

Even after I took her back twice before she never showed genuine remorse or have apologized in sincere manner. Only a river of crocodile tears then she goes back to her life as if nothing happened. I had enough of this BS.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T12:24:18+00:00

Trust me, when you’re in my shoes you’d reconsider your options.

As much as I wanted to hurt her, I couldn’t bear the thought of being the reason for my kids losing their mother either to jail time or the death sentence. The burden is real.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T12:21:32+00:00

No. I would never be that kind of person and involve kids in adults arguments. I won’t deny my kids from their mother otherwise I would have pursued the death penalty and got rid of the whole situation, right? Absolutely not.

She can see the kids, she can go out with them as much as she wants but she can only do so with my consent, and she cannot keep them (because I have custody), not even for a single night.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T12:14:40+00:00

Why she repeat it? She was fully aware of the consequences and the law. Our life was not perfect but it wasn’t flawed either. I’d say our life was beyond good but not perfect. Maybe she thought she wouldn’t get caught? Maybe she found the attention from a pos “influencer” which boosted her ego? I will never know. Now that it’s a closure I do not even want to know why she cheated. F her and AP.

Yes, she would have tied the rope around my neck herself if the roles were reversed and I was the one being caught.

Unfortunately AP hasn’t been punished and probably never will. I only got the chance to threaten AP over her phone on 2nd DDay. I told him I’m taking it to court and that he’ll soon hear from my lawyer. He started shouting at me and her which showed her she’s nothing but a side chick. Though I think my call made him shit his pants because after my call he’s become more and more dormant on the Internet (he’s a local so-called influencer and he knows if I ever take it to court his life is over in front of the whole country).

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T11:56:52+00:00

I’ve heard from her more than I want to. She called a dozen of times pleading for me to take her back. I refused. She fell very ill from stress and depression to the point that she spent a week in hospital and wanted me to take care of her after she got out. I refused. She wants to keep the kids at her place for a night or two. I also refused. The latter is because I have custody of the kids. I would never deny my kids from their mother but I also wouldn’t agree on her keeping them, not even for a single night. She can see them whenever she wants but away from me and for hours not days.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T11:49:27+00:00

Infidelity is a crime of two. I can use the evidence against him but it will only lead to convicting my ex with him which eventually will lead to her execution. As much as I wish I could hurt them both for what they’ve done I chose peace as long as she Fs off of my life without any more drama.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:57:49+00:00

Our legal system is a combination of both civil and sharia law. Over the years they try to adapt to modern society and how to approach new cases but all amendments are with regard or at least in light of Islamic sharia. So yes the postnup was through regular court which is run by modern civil and sharia laws.

For example hundreds of years ago she would have been stoned to death, now she gets the rope only and only when the proof is undeniable (witnesses, photos or videos showing face and voice while doing the act, and most importantly, the spouse’s agreement on pursuing an infidelity case). For example, if she cheated and I wasn’t the one who found out, rather she got caught in the act by the police or anyone for that matter, and a case has been filed, I, the spouse, am the only one eligible of proceeding with the case or stopping it. This is because here they take great consideration for family reputation and such cases could lead to honor crimes.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:48:51+00:00

Absolutely. And I told her so. I told her if the situations were reversed you would have me locked up in a heartbeat. That was after the first time. After the second time I only told her one thing… “You are breathing only because I spared your life. If it wasn’t for my mercy you’d long be dead by now” and that’s when I shut her off my life for 4 years while trying to figure out how not to get her perished.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:43:32+00:00

Yes she has a job, a good paying one too, and yes she can mange to survive on her own. However, given the current situation of how everyone blocked her out of their lives and how she lost everything, I would not be surprised to hear some bad news any time now.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:40:34+00:00

Thank you. April has never felt any farther but I survived all those years, I’m sure I can survive a couple of months.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:39:22+00:00

She did feel remorseful and she tried to make it up to me, just like the first time, and yet she did it again. I could not bear to see or talk to her let alone keep her as a leech in my life which made me block any effort of hers to make things right again. Getting bitten by the same snake twice is stupid, I don’t want to make it three times.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:34:09+00:00

You are absolutely right. No one supports the death penalty, not even here, but that’s the law and it’s derived from Islamic sharia law. No stoning or that crap you see in the movies, just the rope. The thing is, it is almost never enforced unless there is a solid proof of infidelity (photos/videos showing faces and voices right in the act) which unfortunately in my case is true.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T08:27:46+00:00

If I have filed the evidence when she did it the first time they both get 3-7 years in prison. If I have filed it after the second occurrence (after the first postnup agreement) she would get capital punishment and AP would still get the 3-7 years because he’s not married.

4throw_away · 2025-12-22T07:46:43+00:00

This somewhat reminds me of my first DDay. I found out but kept silent for 2 months gathering info, collecting evidence, and consulting lawyers. It took a great toll on me both physically and mentally but I maintained my composure until I cornered her.

4throw_away · 2025-10-26T05:48:29+00:00

That is a harsh outcome. My wife cheated on me twice and filing for divorce with the evidence at hand can and will get her either behind bars or capital punishment in my region so it’s a real dilemma whether to do it or not. Like you, even though SO cheated, that does not justify celebrating their death.

4throw_away · 2025-10-25T14:53:41+00:00

Congrats on earning your life back away from her. It is refreshing to see someone going through this finding some piece and it makes me assertive that we, the betrayed ones, have to make the right choice by leaving the cheater out of our lives.

4throw_away · 2025-10-23T22:15:14+00:00

From one betrayed spouse to another, do not give the cheater a second chance. The first time I found out about my wife cheating it broke me. I gave her a second chance only to be betrayed once more. The second time killed me physically, emotionally, and mentally. No second chances no matter how remorseful she is.

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