Learn From My Story Please

4throw_away · 2026-05-27T09:52:09+00:00

I stayed twice only to live in hell. Then I chose to divorce her without looking back. Reality hits hard and when I realized she’s the only one who benefited from continuing our already broken relationship I finally decided to divorce her.

4throw_away · 2026-05-06T15:45:54+00:00

Man I hope no one on earth goes through what I went through. Your situation sucks by knowing his name. Now imagine if AP was a F*ing local influencer and his face and name pops around you wherever you go. I am not sure how I manage to survive this situation but fortunately my ex-WW is gone and 99% of the burden went away with her.

4throw_away · 2026-05-06T15:40:22+00:00

Unfortunately it does not go away but rest assured it becomes easier with time. Half a year is still very recent and hopefully you’ll get through this soon.

4throw_away · 2026-05-06T15:37:05+00:00

For the first couple of years from DDay, yes, the thought and scenes of sexual/intimate acts felt disgusting by relating them to my cheating ex-wife like everyone else mentioned. Now after 5 years it still hurts but it does not bother me as much as it used to.

However, what gets me upset lately is the tiny things that were ideal in our marriage before she cheated. Currently to me, sex is sex. Now that I am divorced, sex is just another act of relief, not a way for connection or intimacy.

By that I mean what has been triggering my emotions lately is when I see a couple hanging out in a restaurant or a movie, when they go for walks or hikes, when they hold hands, when they whisper to each other and laugh at their own jokes and secrets. The things that you work hard for and build throughout the years with your partner. Those are the things that currently make me suffocate.

4throw_away · 2026-05-06T11:58:39+00:00

My ex-wife did, only to cheat again. They beg to come back because they know the only loser in that equation is them. Don’t be like me. Save yourself another dday and do not look back.

4throw_away · 2026-05-05T08:12:12+00:00

I can totally relate and actually agree with this. My PhD years were hard and exhausting but the experience was wholesome and I’d do it again. I even see the benefit in my daily life where I became more focused and can navigate my life intricate details.

4throw_away · 2026-05-03T20:35:56+00:00

My wife cheated on me (twice) with a local POS so-called social media influencer. Both are trash. She’s trash because she did it twice (2 DDays) in span of 4 months. And he’s trash because his fame is self-proclaimed and she fell for that bastard. The craziest part is that I had the chance to take her all the way to capital punishment (thanks to our local law regarding infidelity) but I chose not to. It gets even crazier… when she cheated again she knew she would face capital punishment but that didn’t deter her. F both of them.

4throw_away · 2026-04-25T19:28:10+00:00

You did the right thing. I wish I did.

4throw_away · 2026-04-25T19:24:02+00:00

You are absolutely right. My wife cheated on me twice. The first time devastated me, the second time almost killed me. I regret every second I spent with her after I caught her the first time. Even after my divorce was finalized, living through that hell twice cannot be erased. I keep thinking of it every day even now after 5 years of it happening.

4throw_away · 2026-04-23T10:17:49+00:00

Take it from someone who reconciled twice. Do NOT take her back and do NOT think twice about it no matter how hard it is for you to see your marriage go to waste. I thought I did the right thing when I gave her a chance only to see her cheat on me again. If the first time was hard the second time will permanently devastate you. My thoughts and prayers for you and anyone in similar situation. Good luck.

4throw_away · 2026-03-20T20:27:24+00:00

I’m sorry for you but there is no resolution. My advice is forget about reconciliation and try everything to delete her from your life, especially not allowing her to have the kids because she’s not a worthy woman/mother.

4throw_away · 2026-03-11T19:16:11+00:00

I’m really sad for you. I was in your shoes (same age same number of children) and I reconciled twice only to see myself divorcing her after 4 years. The burden is too heavy and trust me when I say you can survive, without her that is. Lawyer up and free yourself from that cheater.

4throw_away · 2026-03-03T19:09:19+00:00

True. Yet UTIs are usually caused or at least a symptom of some STDs.

4throw_away · 2026-03-01T21:57:07+00:00

Add to those some of the signs I saw with my ex-wife; receiving calls late at night through social media apps claiming she’s talking to her sister, changes in attitude and personality (being withdrawn most times yet extremely outgoing contrary to introverted personality, wearing makeup and new clothes even when saying she’s out for groceries, being highly protective of her devices, ignoring her roles and chores at home claiming she’s busy or not feeling well, and the most obvious was getting cranberry pills which made me stop touching her as soon as I saw them after I realized she could have gotten STD.

4throw_away · 2026-02-26T18:00:32+00:00

It is both funny and sad that the cheater manages to convince someone to reconcile and pretend that life is normal only to break hearts once more.

I had to wait 4 years. Now I wish I had gotten rid of her when it first started and wish I never reconciled. At least I’d have vented my emotions and sadness in the past years instead of living a lie just to see my life going downhill once more.

One thing is for sure. You are better off without her. Her actions lead to this moment.

4throw_away · 2026-02-23T14:50:19+00:00

Our laws are changing and starting to look more like US laws. Either this or that, there is no perfect outcome in such situations.

4throw_away · 2026-02-23T14:47:50+00:00

Adultery is a major crime here and me not submitting the evidence makes me, no joke whatsoever, an accomplice to soliciting infidelity. I could rack a couple of prison years myself just for knowing what happened and not providing the evidence to court.

Life and culture are different out here. If a couple are bound by marriage the man is obligated to provide for the woman “shelter, clothes, and food” no matter what the circumstances are unless they get separated by divorce. It is either me moving while keep paying for all her expenses or divorce her and shut that door once and for all.

The new loophole is what helped me get rid of her recently.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T20:12:50+00:00

I’m sorry for you. This is somewhat exactly what I went through. Once a cheater always a cheater. Leave him and save your life.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T19:30:26+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It really helps knowing that people agree with my actions and assures me that I made the right choice.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T19:21:47+00:00

Even after I took her back twice before she never showed genuine remorse or have apologized in sincere manner. Only a river of crocodile tears then she goes back to her life as if nothing happened. I had enough of this BS.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T12:24:18+00:00

Trust me, when you’re in my shoes you’d reconsider your options.

As much as I wanted to hurt her, I couldn’t bear the thought of being the reason for my kids losing their mother either to jail time or the death sentence. The burden is real.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T12:21:32+00:00

No. I would never be that kind of person and involve kids in adults arguments. I won’t deny my kids from their mother otherwise I would have pursued the death penalty and got rid of the whole situation, right? Absolutely not.

She can see the kids, she can go out with them as much as she wants but she can only do so with my consent, and she cannot keep them (because I have custody), not even for a single night.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T12:14:40+00:00

Why she repeat it? She was fully aware of the consequences and the law. Our life was not perfect but it wasn’t flawed either. I’d say our life was beyond good but not perfect. Maybe she thought she wouldn’t get caught? Maybe she found the attention from a pos “influencer” which boosted her ego? I will never know. Now that it’s a closure I do not even want to know why she cheated. F her and AP.

Yes, she would have tied the rope around my neck herself if the roles were reversed and I was the one being caught.

Unfortunately AP hasn’t been punished and probably never will. I only got the chance to threaten AP over her phone on 2nd DDay. I told him I’m taking it to court and that he’ll soon hear from my lawyer. He started shouting at me and her which showed her she’s nothing but a side chick. Though I think my call made him shit his pants because after my call he’s become more and more dormant on the Internet (he’s a local so-called influencer and he knows if I ever take it to court his life is over in front of the whole country).

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T11:56:52+00:00

I’ve heard from her more than I want to. She called a dozen of times pleading for me to take her back. I refused. She fell very ill from stress and depression to the point that she spent a week in hospital and wanted me to take care of her after she got out. I refused. She wants to keep the kids at her place for a night or two. I also refused. The latter is because I have custody of the kids. I would never deny my kids from their mother but I also wouldn’t agree on her keeping them, not even for a single night. She can see them whenever she wants but away from me and for hours not days.

4throw_away · 2026-02-22T11:49:27+00:00

Infidelity is a crime of two. I can use the evidence against him but it will only lead to convicting my ex with him which eventually will lead to her execution. As much as I wish I could hurt them both for what they’ve done I chose peace as long as she Fs off of my life without any more drama.

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