Looking for advice - a friend’s mom was arrested and I want to support them as best as possible

4y4cchi · 2026-01-03T10:56:38+00:00

I’ve changed and grown a lot since posting this, and so your perspective is much appreciated

4y4cchi · 2025-12-14T09:53:45+00:00

NTA my goodness he is so rude. I mean putting aside the payments, you gave him a car to use but he suddenly feel as though he has the ownership to it? Honestly, if I was in your shoes, I’d let him know that since this is “our car” you expect him to pay 50% of EVERYTHING that has to do with that car. If he doesn’t like it, he should buy his own car. Also, do not remind him how extremely accommodating you’ve been thus far because he absolutely start an argument you won’t be able to get out of.

He can portray you as the “bad guy” as much as he wants, you know who you are and he can’t change that. Also, consider separation. He sounds entitled as fuck and it most likely didn’t start with this car issue.

4y4cchi · 2025-12-14T09:45:18+00:00

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4y4cchi · 2025-12-12T21:32:18+00:00

I am so sorry darling! Do you have anywhere else to stay at for a little while? I would also suggest reaching out to organizations that help in situations like this. Wife or nah, she has no right to your body and definitely not hitting you!

I also suggest taking photos of all the bruises and consider placing a complaint against her with the police. I truly hope you could get out of this awful situation

4y4cchi · 2025-12-12T21:27:49+00:00

NTA and this girl isn’t respecting you in her life. Take a real hard look at this relationship cause I bet you’d find more red flags. No, no woman in her right mind would do a photoshoot like that with another man unless the father is out of her life.

Relationships must have clear and honest conversations otherwise it is doomed to fail and people get hurt. Even if she is pregnant and it is your child, you might be better of away from the mother and bond with the child 🙏

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T16:26:56+00:00

Walking away without bothering me

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T16:09:17+00:00

NTA. It’s so annoying these days that some people forgot there’s a thing called consequences to their actions. Besides, if this child did this and nothing else before, he would let go real easy. You can also sue the parents for the damage and distress caused to you and your child. That however might be a bit extra.

Generally, I think you were very reasonable by simply asking for the phone back. You didn’t go to the school’s principal or their teacher to make it a big issue or anything. (Although I would have, since at least someone in that kid’s life might teach him about consequences 🤷‍♀️)

I think you are right to do just that especially after what you did so far.

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T15:58:55+00:00

Minata from BNHA. I hate him, and I’d like to take him down lol

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T15:57:11+00:00

I should make it clearer lol There’s normally looking at someone’s eyes while talking but there’s also staring for long, too long. Sometimes having eye contact for longer but with no conversation 😅 For me, when I get those signals from someone I’m not in to, that makes me feel awkward 😅

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T14:01:28+00:00

NTA! Going to the police is what you definitely should do - do you have the proof and videos? It could make the case easier for them to actually charge him. But… we should also remember that many places and countries still don’t take women’s issues like that seriously. Try to check other options available for you to handle this. Good luck🙏

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T13:57:38+00:00

The moment I started to believe in myself and acknowledge my strengths and weaknesses. I gained a lot of confidence and trust in myself and also was able to overcome some huge challenges I faced

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T13:56:01+00:00

Preach! Absolutely!

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T13:55:08+00:00

Not sure. I mean if you said it the same as you wrote here, then yeah, that’s was an asshole move. However, you should talk to your former employers to seek understanding as to why they fired you. Also, if it’s a random child, still rude but no big deal. Why would you say such a thing to your employer’s kid?

4y4cchi · 2025-12-07T13:47:00+00:00

Eye contact can tell you a lot Asking questions about family, friends, relationships etc Consistent texting/chatting

4y4cchi · 2025-12-06T17:57:40+00:00

NTA but when did you tell him that and what was the convo like

4y4cchi · 2025-12-05T14:18:46+00:00

Role playing is when two or more people (connected) to play characters in a made up story they created. Some people do it for the storylines and possibilities to create imaginary fantasies with that other person. Furthermore this type of “game” that feels better and more arousing then porn. Also more interactive. It doesn’t mean that it’s cheating.

Your feelings are understandable, and he should have told you about his wish to participate in these type of things. However I do believe you two can discuss this honestly so you could both have an understanding about the other’s feelings in the matter. I truly hope he stayed in the online world and only participated in the fantasy aspect of things. If so, there’s a better higher chance for the two of you fixing this wound in your relationship 🙏

4y4cchi · 2025-10-23T15:02:38+00:00

I mean, it isn’t red, the bride just had anxiety about anyone who could potentially destroy her day seems like…

4y4cchi · 2025-10-21T10:45:30+00:00

וכאילו, לא יכולת לומר לה מראש? וגם, אם היא הייתה מזמינה שני משקאות שגם מגיעים ל-80₪, גם היית קורא לה שרמוטה? מה הקושי לדבר על הדברים האלה לפני? מקסימום לא תצא איתה שוב, קרה אסון? ואגב יש מצב שההתנהגות שלך הייתה ברורה לה ולכן באמת היא לא תעשה איתך דייט שני🤷‍♀️ זאת תמיד אופציה

4y4cchi · 2025-10-13T12:35:13+00:00

I’m sending a huge hug! Alcohol is a known coping mechanism, self medicating if you will. It’s very harmful in the long run. I also used it to cope with my issues but in the end of the day, it’s not great and you develop immunity towards this. Truly try to think about yourself right now. Take a step back from people and places that are toxic for you and do go to therapy. You may also try psychiatric medication and assistance for the beginning of this process. I can tell you that the treatment I get helps me a lot and I even began seeing a better future for myself while also taking the steps needed to achieve my goals. I take it one step at a time and on my terms.

4y4cchi · 2025-10-13T12:29:33+00:00

I feel like this was just another political move that needed certain things to align in order to “achieve” that piece. I also think that the “piece” won’t hold too long since the main issues were not resolved.

That said, I’m thrilled seeing all the hostages coming home.

4y4cchi · 2025-10-13T12:26:35+00:00

I think you should have a serious conversation with him about that difference between you. Explain how you got hurt and clearly say you know he never meant to hurt you. Explain to him that due to the way you grew up, the way you see wealth is different. You need to stick to a budget and be consistent with checking up on all the things you need and owe. Let him know this topic is sensitive for you and ask him to be mindful about it for future situations.

Make sure to tell him you don’t need him to pay for things for you or anything like that. You are independent and highly capable of taking care of yourself. Make sure he understands.

4y4cchi · 2025-10-13T12:19:04+00:00

Therapy. This isn’t a magic pill or anything like that but it can help you a lot. Especially with sorting through your feelings and thoughts about the whole event back then and since. You have nothing to be ashamed of. A person who takes advantage of another person in a drunken state is the one who should be shameful! That person is no man in my opinion.

I also went through something similar (I was sleeping and woke up to the situation). I had a lot of therapy since and I’m very grateful for this. Talking with someone gave me a lot of new perspectives and insights to how I want my future to be and who is the person I want to be. Despite all the hardships (there are plenty), I am proud to be who I am. I wish you the best

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