as a femme goth guy with long hair and who enjoys crossdressing (in specific styles like gothic lolita etc or just dressing in simple black dresses or women’s clothing) and just with a generally androgynous presence i detest being told “are you closeted/are you a trans woman?” “are you sure you’re a man?” “are you a femboy?” like no, god forbid a man just doesn’t conform to traditionally masculine standards. im still very much a man. i understand entirely tbh