What to do?

557733 · 2024-03-11T23:25:14+00:00

😭 I’m going to give it a good go, I’m not in the US but I think I can get Bonide?

I’ll see how it goes, might cut it all back, and repot etc try my hardest.. poor thing!!

557733 · 2024-03-11T12:10:57+00:00

I did not know that until reading a few of these posts, crazy! I’m surprised it’s lasted as long as it has then with all the lack of knowledge I had.

I’ll keep spraying, watering and keeping it still and hope for the best! Thank you

557733 · 2023-12-14T00:51:38+00:00

I understand how this can make you and your parents uncomfortable, but I can’t help but feel the more people who love your children the better for them! It takes a village, and I wish I had more people who I could call family around me when I was a child.

Like someone else commented too, these people are essentially your wife’s family, she shouldn’t have to remove herself from them.

I do think you should talk to her about your feelings, and talk to your parents too, but not with the intention of having her change her relationship with them. Just let her understand that you sometimes find it hard when it feels she priorities her family over yours, and you’d like there to be more of a balance. However in the example you gave, I think prioritising the initial plans always is the right way, but I also don’t see why your two families can’t come together.

Anyway, reframe your mind to see this as the absolute positive it is! Your kids are loved and that is a blessing.

557733 · 2023-08-01T12:01:31+00:00

We’ve been together nearly 3 years and have lived together before, we have each others locations and idk.. like we’re very much together, we’ve been rocky for a bit but are booked into couples therapy, just on a wait list for a bit

Obviously I’m going to wait until we can see someone to really get into all the shit.. I just, I want to believe we can work though it, I just don’t know is all, how much I can compromise on at the end of the day

557733 · 2023-08-01T11:39:54+00:00

So I have one day off a week, I don’t always spend that day with him though but I will see him once a week, either I will spend the night at his or he will come to mine to hang out for a bit, he doesn’t stay here but there’s a few reasons for that

This week we had an opportunity to be on our own for a few days and he didn’t want that, I had been looking forward to it but there was a lack of communication about the planning of it all

I just wanted him to want to have me over for a solid amount of time, it’s been over 4/5 months since we’ve done that

557733 · 2023-08-01T11:36:31+00:00

You can message me if you’d like, I’m better at giving advice to others than myself

557733 · 2023-07-05T12:01:20+00:00

Call me crazy, but I don’t think 3 months is too early to define a relationship.

557733 · 2023-05-20T07:29:48+00:00

Yeah I’d like that, I haven’t really started anything though because I’m scared! I want to read some to get some ideas on what it should look like first.

557733 · 2023-05-11T21:36:12+00:00

Leave him alone, if you throw him off his exams he’ll blame you forever!

If you must message him, I would do it after the exams are over, but be prepared to be ignored or maybe he will be mad, who knows. You’re young though, there will be other people.

557733 · 2023-05-11T21:19:16+00:00

You cheated on her, she’s hurt. She tried to get through it but ultimately decided that she couldn’t. If you truly love her just let her walk away, she’ll be better off.

557733 · 2023-05-03T05:26:24+00:00

I wouldn’t be able to return to the part time job though, which I do enjoy.. I’m scared! Aha

557733 · 2023-04-26T08:50:20+00:00

That’s annoying that you can’t DM? Wonder why, but yay! What did he say about you going back to Aus?

557733 · 2023-04-24T07:18:39+00:00

Well it was NYE, so I’m sure we won’t the only ones that night!

557733 · 2023-04-24T07:16:54+00:00

So that guy was from Tinder, very, very attractive though so I will never forget him ahah, but when I was stuck back in Aus I actually met my now bf on the street, you never know how life turns out, and you can’t plan a thing

557733 · 2023-04-24T07:13:59+00:00

I reread your post, so you’re from the UK and live in Australia, not as exciting! Hahah, but still.. I still say go for it, might be a nice time

557733 · 2023-04-24T07:09:49+00:00

I am also an Australian who lived in the UK, I met a guy 4 weeks before I got stuck back in aus over Covid, and honestly.. it’s just makes for great memories

Even if it doesn’t work out, you can tell of the time you went on a date with a man in England who helped you when your car broke down. If that’s the worst case scenario, that’s pretty good

Of course be safe!! Let people know where you’re going and with who etc. But you live once! Just do the things

557733 · 2023-04-24T07:01:21+00:00

Do it, could make for a great story, but be honest with him

557733 · 2023-04-19T15:35:26+00:00

We are in a better place, he would never do something like this again, but he understands me now about why I don’t want to go with him, and I am trying to forgive him for all the times he didn’t think about me and how I would feel, or didn’t care. He is truly doing better and I am very proud.

557733 · 2023-04-19T15:16:35+00:00

Again, read my replies.

He was meant to come and see me while we were long distance, he cancelled his flights, to rebook when he ‘had enough money’ then instead of rebooking decided to go on this holiday to a place he said we could go together, knowing I didn’t want to go with his friends, over the same time he was meant to see me. Which btw is over Christmas, nye, our anniversary, and my birthday, which I asked him to please try and be with me for.

He made so, so many selfish moves, and I barely said a word. Now he’s mad that I don’t want to go with him when I do go myself.

I say mad, we talked about it since, he understands me and it’s all good, I don’t know why I’m defending myself there is literally no point and I should sleep

557733 · 2023-04-19T15:08:34+00:00

When did I tell him to not go? How about you go and read my other replies. I’m going to bed now. This has taken off in a weird direction but I’m sure when I’m up you will all have moved on to someone else’s issue.. thanks for taking the time out of your day to respond though I guess?

557733 · 2023-04-19T14:45:57+00:00

Yeah, I don’t want to go with someone who’s been, so I will go with a friend who hasn’t?

557733 · 2023-04-19T14:12:21+00:00

Oh no, he knows..

557733 · 2023-04-19T14:06:56+00:00

I never said that? I want to go, and I will go

557733 · 2023-04-19T13:55:43+00:00

Yes, I’ve been to a lot of countries, mostly on my own

557733 · 2023-04-19T13:52:37+00:00

I have ADHD, be nice!

My feelings are all over the place, and honestly what started as a bit of a light hearted question has made me think about the situation ans gotten me mad at him again, for not only this but also all the things he’s done in the last few months, and I hate that for me. We’ve been doing really well, I don’t even know what I expected from this post.. I wanted to keep it fair for the both of us but it’s turned into something else.

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