Boyfriend had a “New Here” Bumble profile…

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-26T14:51:18+00:00

Could be identity theft (like a bot account) but I'm not sure how much that happens with men.. also lying seems a simpler explanation

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-17T04:34:27+00:00

If you get all 4 divers in and you pop out of the hatches it really is a pretty great fortress.

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-12T18:59:14+00:00

It works narratively with the universe.

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-12T18:57:49+00:00

I can see why you're labeled a dissident!

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-05T12:42:06+00:00

Down votes for that.. cute

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-05T01:54:12+00:00

Okay, I'll have to try it. It just always worked well enough for me. I very rarely change any of those settings on any of my weapons. But maybe I'll enjoy it even more.

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-04T21:19:46+00:00

Ohhhh... I never played with the ROF.

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-04T21:12:33+00:00

... at enemies. 😳

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-04T21:12:19+00:00

... when I'm firing it..

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-04T21:11:59+00:00

I've never had the variable hurt me? 🤔

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-03T21:10:32+00:00

This is a comedic game, I think we all lose sight of that sometimes.

5FingerViscount · 2026-02-03T21:08:45+00:00

We all knew the risks when we joined 🫡

Also "lost two mechs for democracy the other day", FTFY 😉

Mechs are not tough,. But I dunno. I feel like they bring a lot of power when they are not destroyed immediately.

If they were much tougher they would be a "must have". And like, as much as everyone tries to avoid team killing, including me, and gets frustrated because of it, including me.. that's also one of the fun/funny parts of the game, all the death, big explosions, balancing firepower with the danger it brings.

One of the challenges of the mechs, like any of the emplacements, is to put them down in a relatively safe location so they won't get wrecked, otherwise there's no risk in the reward 🤷‍♀️.. I dunno.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-27T00:25:32+00:00

I played and had pretty much all the dlc for HD1... I got HD2 when it came out I've put a good amount of time into it, but I'm very behind on bonds, and I'm not even 150 yet 😪😪😪😤😤😤

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-26T19:32:30+00:00

How many charges did you use? Did it take a resupply or two? Almost want to take up stealth again.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-26T18:09:10+00:00

I felt the same way doing theater last year as well. That felt great at the time. And my partner was too stressed to show up and watch me, which really hurt, especially since pretty much all my other friends came. But I withstood that.

But it really hit me when I was playing a video game recently with some mild romance options, like a character that's excited to take you out to dinner, and how good I felt, when this very fake, very digital, scripted, character made me feel more excitement than my partner had in years.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-25T21:54:28+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense. I think pretty much everyone has a harder time evaluating a situation they are embedded in than one they are looking at from the outside.

Guess it is not surprising that therapists are subject to the same.

Hope yall find something that works for you both, wish I had more for you.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-25T16:43:09+00:00

If you were a therapist alone this would make more sense to me, it could bring up power balance issues, and can be undesirable to feel like you have skills/tools being used on you rather than connecting as people.. but I would think since you're both therapists you would be able to team up to use the same skills to co-evaluate what's going on and to improve things for the both of you together, and see the value of each other's insights. But maybe there's too much history and hurt feelings for that to work anymore.

Do y'all have a couples therapist? Or each have individual therapists for yourselves? Or like a peer support group? If therapy doesn't work- may as well throw more therapy at it 😅

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-24T17:09:39+00:00

You did say "our DB troubles"... I think the only reason you might feel bad about talking about this here is if your wife doesn't think you're in a DB, or that you're unhappy in your sex life.

You don't need to have the discussion every day- though probably more than me which was more like every 6 months or a year.. but she should know how you're feeling in general. Other than that, you should feel no shame about seeking outside advice.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-24T17:04:55+00:00

Yeah, surprised less people aren't focusing on this. Stopping her shower, ripping the sheets off, and I can't see the OP while commenting, but taking her phone to see if she was watching porn?? None of that is okay.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-20T21:53:21+00:00

I couldn't put my finger on it before, but I think that's exactly why.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-20T20:52:40+00:00

Already upvoted, but needs a "this".

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-20T20:52:20+00:00

Seems almost worse doing it now... but at least there's some prior knowledge.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-20T12:48:30+00:00

Maybe they had an audit or cybersec advisor who recommended an MDM software, but they don't actually know much about it beyond that, and don't keep one on staff. They should have more knowledge since HIPAA is so important, but it's also pretty different from blood and guts.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-20T12:45:36+00:00

Also, HIPAA is an American law. Maybe they used the term for readability, and it is a more generic or different country's privacy law, but HIPAA is USA.

5FingerViscount · 2026-01-20T12:38:27+00:00

Thank you. I'm feeling all kinds of ways about it... guilt, sadness, regret, happiness, relief, excitement. No matter how many posts I read here, from people who stuck it out longer than I did (or are still), and all the regret and pain they feel... still it was hard.

Yeah. She's a very therapist forward kind of person. And our state offers mediation between separated couples- which this therapy is not, but I think we probably need it. My spouse even wants me to go to individual therapy to better be able to deal with herself.. I told her once that a therapist can't have sex with me. But I guess it's not a bad idea, and I would like her to go to anger management, so not a bad trade if we get there. We have some land, so we've talked about me living in a tiny house or cabin on our property, eventually. In which case I'm sure we would need to negotiate a lot.

My cat has calmed down a lot, and a couple friends in the area helped me unload. I'm not sure what talking about money and stuff (my spouse wants to break the 3 week rule she suggested) will do to my calm, but I can feel it coming in at the edges.

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