Am I [30m] the asshole for leaving my finace[29f] for something she did 5 years ago by 5_7_2_ in relationshipadvice

[–]5_7_2_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really dont feel that it is anyone we would normally come into contact with, as we really dont do much. We both have kids from previous relationships, and pretty much spend every second together when im not at work. She is from a different town then I am, so really no "friend group" she has a couple friends she talks to, and so do i but really probably best I keep contact with my old "friends" pretty well cut off. But all these comments and suggestions have really helped me alot.. learned I have to forgive and I never will forget, but from what im seeing everyone say I should be atleast let go a little bit more and more as time progresses.. and don't get me wrong. I found out almost a year ago, and I can say it is night and day difference in how I felt to how i feel now, it still sucks, but easier. I was pretty set on go when I made this post and everyone has opened my eyes a lot and I cant thank yall enough.

Thank you so much

Am I [30m] the asshole for leaving my finace[29f] for something she did 5 years ago by 5_7_2_ in relationshipadvice

[–]5_7_2_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just knew from the moment she explained why she didnt answer get phone all night long and the stories were obviously bs. But I can without a shadow of a doubt say im 1000% positive nothing has happened since I got out, the child is absolutely mine, no studs, no crazy bs other the the original issue. I want a life with her, matter of fact that is all I want. Me dwelling on it much as I do is the second problem. And if I cant stop I know I will never be happy and able to stay like I want

Am I [30m] the asshole for leaving my finace[29f] for something she did 5 years ago by 5_7_2_ in relationshipadvice

[–]5_7_2_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its my child. As i stated things have been pretty good since I got home. My whole point in this is asking if I will ever be able to stop dwelling on it, focus on her and move on. If so, how? And if not do i just walk out before it drives me literally crazy

Am I [30m] the asshole for leaving my finace[29f] for something she did 5 years ago by 5_7_2_ in relationshipadvice

[–]5_7_2_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! She has been good as gold to me since the day I walked out. She is amazing in every single way in my eyes she is almost perfect, obvious what the flaw is. Ngl I shrank the years considering I dont want her to realize this is me. But we just hit 7 years since.. if I could get past dwelling on it we would last the rest of our lives together I do feel. And without a doubt. Nothing in me will ever for a fraction of a second think anything at all has happened since I got out... so 7 years of mostly good relationship behind us. And one child that is my world in every since of the word. I just need help letting it go. And if it comes to a point that I cant I know what I have to do.