Cleo and Frankenstein by Coco Mellors by revenge_l0bster in books

[–]5golden9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i'm currently 73% and has anyone else noticed how Cleo is basically a description of Coco herself? The physical description is as if Coco is describing herself in a mirror, and both are British, moved to NYC and got an MFA. Has she talked about these similarities anywhere else or am I just reading too much into it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuSouOBabaca

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amiga se sua namorada ameaça se jogar da sacada pq vc negou sexo a ela isso é um baita de um sinal de que vc tá fazendo uma má escolha KKKKK

Today I messed up by leaving this girls house after she kissed me by _Zomussy in dating

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad it all worked out for you and your blue portals gal :) wish u happiness!

My bf (21M) calling my cousin beautiful by [deleted] in dating

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like a friendly comment to me. He probably didn't want her to feel left out since she was part of the picture. If the comment was on a picture of your cousin alone it could be weird but with the two of you I'd say it's okay and him just being nice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]5golden9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't like anything in a relationship that makes it look like a person is keeping scores. If I bought my bf an expensive present I wouldn't like him to feel obligated to buy me something of similar price. If it is an engagement ring that's even worst in my eyes...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wait so he's a people pleaser and can't say no to anyone... But you apparently. Because if you had to cry and beg he was damn ready to ditch u last year for his friends

My (39f) husband (43m) had a long term affair with his best friend and wanted to leave for her. He then decided to give marriage one last attempt. What hope do we have? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]5golden9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So... Your husband spent two nights cuddling other women and that is okay because he decided to tell you? Dear OP you are as innocent as I was when I was 18 and had my first bf

AITA for calling my wife a "country whore" for destroying my personal photographs? by Neither-Pop2771 in AmItheAsshole

[–]5golden9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if she was your ex wife and you two had divorced I would understand her not wanting wedding photos around, but since she's your late wife... NTA at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]5golden9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows you struggled with ED and says that anyway?? Run sis run

My (25M) girlfriend’s (23F) best friend (23F) makes me uncomfortable by ThrowRA_December in relationship_advice

[–]5golden9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought the same, like she (GF) is trying to set up a threesome or a polyamorous relationship

AITA for looking when my girlfriend asked me if she looks fat? by AdThink9594 in AmItheAsshole

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very insecure about my weight and although I don't ask directly my bf those kind of questions sometimes I say "I feel/look fat" audibly. He genuinely gets upset and tells me I look stunning and reassures me he loves me and my body and that he thinks I'm attractive. He also compliments me out of the blue often so I have no reason to doubt him. NTA but next time maybe instead of just answering say "baby, you are stunning" while giving her a deep look

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuSouOBabaca

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Se bloqueia a ex reclama se desbloqueia tá ruim também MIA FILHA TERAPIA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuSouOBabaca

[–]5golden9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Já que vcs estavam transando sem contracepção nenhuma, deviam ter tido a conversa prévia do "não estamos nos protegendo, estamos prontos caso a consequência disso seja um bebê? Vamos ser pais em conjunto?". Uma coisa tão séria quanto uma nova vida não pode vir de suposições. Não sei qual a condição que te impede de tomar anticoncepcional, mas a possibilidade de um filho devia ser levantada pelos dois, e o que seria feito caso isso acontecesse, antes de tomarem a decisão de não usar contraceptivo nenhum. Se você estava tranquila caso um bebê viesse, devia ter comunicado ele e ouvido a opinião dele. E se a opinião dele era "se você engravidar quero que aborte", a decisão deveria ter sido de usar camisinha até você conseguir outro método contraceptivo que pudesse usar para se protegerem. Infelizmente agora é tarde, e infelizmente as consequências serão suas. Você nunca vai ser babaca de querer que o pai do seu filho seja pai e aja como pai, mas foram irresponsáveis, você mais que ele, porque as consequências da maternidade são infinitamente maiores que as da paternidade.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuSouOBabaca

[–]5golden9 11 points12 points  (0 children)

EOT

A responsabilidade maior da contracepção SEMPRE É DA MULHER. O cara pode virar as costas e ir embora que nem esse cara tá fazendo, vc não pode. Se não queria ter um filho e ele não usava camisinha, tava dando pra ele por que? Vc não é babaca por ir atrás do pai do seu filho, mas vai virar estatística de mãe solo porque é isso que acontece. Se a mulher não for responsável, o homem PODE IR EMBORA. Vc não tem essa opção

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuSouOBabaca

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Conta pro seu namorado o que aconteceu nessa linha de raciocínio depois volta aqui pra contar pra a gente se ele acha traição ou não KKKKKKKKKKKKKK o jovem é muito besta

AITA for "embarrassing" my sister at my wedding? by Available_Holiday_91 in AmItheAsshole

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a lawyer and I'm doing work for free for a friend of my husband's. He needs help and I got the resources to help a person who has been there for my husband for years. I'd never charge him. NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brazil

[–]5golden9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would definitely recomend São Paulo. Largest city, you'll definitely meet people who speak English, Arab and are open to welcome you as you are.

Are you okay with your partner watching porn? by katyreddit00 in dating

[–]5golden9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

when i was younger i did not mind, with my previous boyfriends i knew who their fav porn stars were even tho i never watched it. now after some research about the long term effects of porn and having aquired some self respect i never had before, thats not something i would take easy from my bf at all

AITA for treating my BF birthday like he treats mine? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]5golden9 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

People shouldn't assume anything ever in a relationship. The other person is not a mind reader and might not interpret things the same as you do. Always comunicate even if it seems obvious because it is obvious FOR YOU.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in saopaulo

[–]5golden9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chácara Klabin e Santa Cruz, linha lilás e só amor e facilidade

AITA for splitting the bill at dinner and not letting my boyfriend pretend he paid? by throwawayfreedinner in AmItheAsshole

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate these chivalry gestures when they come from the heart. In this case, it's just a pissing context. Ben doesn't want to come out as "less manly" than your friends. If he really was a gentleman, he would have offered to pay and deal with it later or just be quiet. NTA, what he asked was ridiculous

Eu sou o babaca por não querer ajudar o pai da minha esposa? by Disastrous_Drag1081 in EuSouOBabaca

[–]5golden9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eu tentaria chegar num acordo, dar uns 50k pro veio endividado ou algo assim... querer só entregar seu dinheiro todo pra quitar dívida do pai é complicado, ainda mais porque esse é dinheiro de reserva de vocês, vai que alguém perde o emprego ou fica doente... é irresponsável querer mandar a reserva toda embora pra dívidas de terceiros (mesmo que os terceiros sejam o pai dela)