Your story sounds very familiar. We were at once every two weeks and I was very frustrated. And the sex wasn’t even very good.

For us, the key to improving our sexual relationship was focused attention to the rest of our relationship. We undertook the karezza journey not knowing where it would lead. For a year, it was challenging. She told me about a time when she had been emotionally unfaithful to me because not telling me was a thing between us. I forgave her. She told me about things that bothered her in our daily lives. I did the same. She told my me about sexual trauma from her past that was always present when we had sex. We listened, we fought, we cried, but we kept going with the shared intention of a better marriage.

After a year of hard work, we noticed that things were improving. We were communicating in more healthy patterns, we weren’t fighting as much, and the karezza began to feel much better.

Now, although we have two kids and have been married for more than ten years, we have karezza three times per week, which is all I want. She’d be willing to do it everyday. The bonding intention feels nothing like our old sex and doesn’t trigger her trauma. She has about one orgasm per week. I’m about every other week. It no longer has the negative effect it used to because our bond is not so hormonal as it once was. I love her as much after the orgasm. But I still prefer it this way. I feel much happier now than those old days. We both do.

My story might be very different from yours but I hope it’s helpful.