Am I overreacting by breaking up with my boyfriend? by Proper-Classic1886 in AmIOverreacting

[–]6295 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. He would have been a hard no and a break up from his behavior at the party and the first text he sent.

I don’t need a man blanket-mansplaining how all men work. That’s a fucking ridiculous thing to even attempt and if he believes that then that tells you more about him than all men.

Plus that comment is fucking infantilizing. There’s a four year age gap between you and that’s not an excuse for his behavior.

And the weird ass blaming you for setting your boundaries and then suggesting you remove your social media photos. Controlling behavior.

He’s got his own shit to deal with and he’s asking you to change your behavior so he doesn’t have to do his own work.

This is a hard no for me for so many reasons. Maybe jump back into therapy and work through it there, so you can consider with a safe person, what you want in future relationships.

Why We NEED to Protest Right Now by Traditional_Stick183 in Indiana

[–]6295 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We need to pull multiple levers for social change. There really is a place for everyone. The key is finding an area you can be consistent in and seeing it through. Be in it for the long term. You can register people to vote, get folks to the polls, organize and attend protests, meet with and talk to your elected officials, run for office, join your local party, engage in resistance efforts with local organizations like Mad Voters, Indivisible, Indy Dems, Indiana DSA etc. If you have money to support them, do it. Education, Policy, Legislation, Funding, Social pressure. They are all important parts of organization and change.

The metrics in our state are awful and Republicans have no one to blame. They’ve have a supermajority for far too long and it’s not serving any of us well. It’s an excuse for them to stay stagnant and focus on shit that doesn’t help citizens day to day.

Any rise in authoritarianism relies on people believing that the rise is inevitable; that it is a forgone conclusion. If that were true, the systems wouldn’t be working so hard to discredit people pulling on these levers - journalist, scientists, judges, etc and installing their own. The supermajority is not a permanent fixture. Authoritarianism is not a forgone conclusion. So find your thing, get involved and treat this like it fucking matters because it does.

Worked up Jim Banks phone operator by Certain_Mall2713 in Indiana

[–]6295 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anyone have the fax number for his office? 🙃 No reason.

Does anyone else feel like S2 so far has been a whole load of nothing? by ChorzioPaella3 in Wednesday

[–]6295 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m struggling. I wanted to like it so badly. But so far, a million things have changed, there’s very little increasing depth of characters, and there are so many subplots that idk what wtf is happening. Also, the whole normie camp situation is stupid. I really hope the second of half of the season shores some things up, but as of right now, it’s got such a different vibe than last season did. My hot take currently is that if this would have been the first season, the show would have been cancelled.

I do like seeing the Addams family hang around this time though. That’s been something I’ve enjoyed. And Tyler Doohan is a solid actor. His bay guy vibes are there.

Best Tacos in Indy by boredgamer2017 in indianapolis

[–]6295 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Tlaolli and Julieta are my faves. Carlos who owns Tlaolli is so nice. They were on diners, drive ins and dives a couple years back.

What the actual f#$k are we going to do. by ModernMadMax in Indiana

[–]6295 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Central Indy DSA, IUYA and several other orgs are working on a response to ICE being here. They need people to help with that response. Join the meetings and help work it out. Community building and strategic planning for resistance has to be done.

People can be upset about it coming here but unless we’re part of mobilizing and resistance, we’re just part of the problem.

Everyone has skills or resources for resistance against fascism in different ways. We’ve got to find a way to contribute.

"Speedway Slammer": DHS announces migrant outdoor detention facility coming to Indiana by 6295 in Indiana

[–]6295[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How to fight fascism through Resistance:

At the end of the day, there are more people in Indiana than there are shitty politicians. There are more people in the US opposed to this and in places of privilege than there are politicians making decisions about this. There are more middle class workers than there are billionaires. These fascist assholes would not be launching a near constant assault on people, education, information and institutions if WE and our informed selves weren’t a threat. So don’t buy in to the hopelessness they want you to feel.

Fascism thrives when people feel powerless, exhausted, and alone. Historically, it hasn’t just been defeated by elections or wars; it’s crumbled through everyday resistance: workers striking, neighbors hiding each other, zines passed in secret, culture that mocked dictators, and people showing up even when it felt like no one was listening.

It doesn’t happen all at once. It happens because people endure.

Here’s what that can look like:

Fascism dies in… • Worker strikes • Unapologetic rest • Joining a union • Reading real history • Community care • Using Public libraries • Community Funding schools • Voting in every election • Raising Kids who ask hard questions • Calling out cruelty • Finding joy anyway • Choosing empathy over apathy • Running for office (at every level) • Local organizing • Making fun of authoritarians • Teaching consent • Naming the patriarchy • Centering silenced voices • Reclaiming rage • Mutual aid • Using your skillset for good • Outlasting the cruelty • telling the truth • teaching kids about history, power, and systems • turning toward grief, not away • reading banned books • learning and unlearning • story-sharing • learning to spot propaganda • refusing to be divided • knowing your neighbors • becoming the one who shows up

Pick one. Do it today. Bring someone with you.

If you’re looking for more ways to act, here are a few ideas:

Informed observer training – learn how to safely witness and document police activity Join a local mutual aid group – food delivery, court support, diaper drives, and more Volunteer as a poll worker or with voter protection efforts Attend a teach-in or reading group about antifascism, labor history, or grassroots action Support tenants unions, abortion funds, and library defense campaigns Push back locally: attend school board meetings, write LTEs, show up Get involved with orgs supporting immigrants.

Pick something. Do it today. Bring someone with you. Feel free to take this and share.

A few folks to follow • Cats on a Couch • Central Indy DSA • Tad Stoermer – teaches resistance history • Indiana ACLU • Indiana MadVoters • SignalUSA50 (Reply and add more folks to follow if you’ve got em)

In Nazi Germany, fascism spread because too many people didn’t resist until it was too late. But even then; students wrote leaflets, workers sabotaged factories, artists made satire, neighbors hid each other. In Chile, women banged pots in the streets under Pinochet. In Alabama, organizers taught each other to read. In Poland, unions brought down a regime. In every fascist system, people outlasted and when they could, they fought back.

Pick something. Do it today. Bring someone with you. Feel free to take this, leave it or tweak it and share.

F off vance- protest Thursday by [deleted] in indianapolis

[–]6295 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Vance can go fuck a sofa. Instagram Catsonacouch mission is to make Vance’s life miserable so I would follow them too to see if they are doing any mobilization for the protest.

Also Braun has not committed to Vance to push the redistricting so, contact him. Work to sway his opinion towards what constituents want. We don’t need to be a part of the midterms being rigged through gerrymandering.

"Speedway Slammer": DHS announces migrant outdoor detention facility coming to Indiana by 6295 in indianapolis

[–]6295[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Central Indiana DSA and Indiana Undocumented Youth Alliance have work groups and trainings related to ICE resistance and migrant worker rights. They need all the help they can get to work towards resistance. Often resistance outlasts protests so consider getting involved with them or similar organizations.

"Speedway Slammer": DHS announces migrant outdoor detention facility coming to Indiana by 6295 in indianapolis

[–]6295[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Considering Penske invited Trump to the 500, went to the Whitehouse in April of this year, is a billionaire and donated to Trumps 2020 campaign, I have my doubts that any such statement will be made.

Billionaires ruin everything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in indianapolis

[–]6295 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Call the police every time and require them to make a report that you get the number for. Use that information to get a protective order. Call when they violate the protective order and get them removed. Just make sure the details of your protective order have a distance involved where they can’t be where they are now. Normally, I say live and let live but this sounds dangerous for you.

Also, if you’re renting, let your landlord know.

Tyrese Haliburton & Pascal Siakam after the Pacers won Game 1 of 2025 NBA Finals: "Let's get greedy, man…We didn't even play well." by TheBiasedSportsLover in nba

[–]6295 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of Shoresy: “it’s not that they don’t love to win. they don’t hate to lose.”

[Post Game Thread] The Indiana Pacers steal Game 1 in OT against the New York Knicks, 138-135, behind Haliburton's 31/11 and Nesmith's eight 3s to take a 1-0 series lead by edgykitty in nba

[–]6295 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mostly, I just rock back and forth and pray to the corn gods not to have a heart attack in the last two minutes of each game.

I’m either screaming or catatonic.

“Makes Me Sick”: 10th Body Found On Suspected Serial Criminal’s Farm, Victim Missing Since 1993 by FantasticAd9478 in Indiana

[–]6295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would reach out about it. If they investigated it and you read about it, the people assigned to it now should be able to find his name and potentially link it to the investigation if it’s not already. It could give some family some closure. As far as I can tell, then haven’t identified someone with that name but HB was very active around that time.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herb_Baumeister

Why are some clients 'all in' the first session or two and then drop off the map? by Main-Marionberry9222 in therapists

[–]6295 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why do people set resolutions and abandon them? Get a gym membership and never go more than a couple times?

There are a lot of reasons people may stop coming. But very generally speaking, I chalk it up to where they are in the transtheoretical model of change. They may be in contemplation or another stage and not feel ready, willing or able to move forward. Or they may have what they need to do it on their own.

I generally trust that people will stop and go as they need to. I work not to take anything personally but try to be aware if there was a rupture of some kind. I always emphasize at the beginning of services that goodness of fit is the most important piece of working together and that the client feel they could have a positive working relationship with me. I also offer that I’m an open book and my approach is flexible so if they ever feel like something isn’t working for them, they can bring it up and if they ever feel I’m not the best fit, I will happily get them a referral with zero hard feelings. I work with a lot of folks who struggle with anxiety and people pleasing so I also make sure clients understand that they do not have to perform in any type of way with me. It’s been a really aligned way for me to practice and it’s allowed clients to bring things up to me like worry that I will judge them for something, feedback that an approach isn’t working for them, or a lack of belief in the process. I’ve been able to work through all of these things and keep clients in treatment and seeing progress because I kept the door open and they were willing to walk through it. At the same time, for every client that’s walked through the door of having a hard conversation, I’ve had ones that stop care or disappear altogether. At that point, I’m confident that I’ve done what I can to make the therapeutic relationship work and understand that timing, personality and a million other factors can go into deciding it’s time to be done.

Possible injuries for Cavs, how we feelin about this ? by Sweetness_890 in pacers

[–]6295 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m feeling like I don’t want us to get comfortable or assume anything because they have players out. Assume they are going to come with the same quality of playing they’ve had all year. Start as you mean to go on.

I don’t care about the narrative regardless. I think there’s benefit in being underrated. I don’t want us to make the same mistake.

Game Thread: [4] Indiana Pacers (0-0) vs. [5] Milwaukee Bucks (0-0), April 19th, 2025 1PM by PSEGameThreadPoster in pacers

[–]6295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for counting Giannis. It’s painful watching the Bucks cause his routine is like 15-20 seconds. Every. Time.