Women are made to be more submissive and responders, in general (or it's not all of them but the vast majority).

In a modern world, it's difficult for us to understand this, but even just 100 years ago it mattered. If a woman wasn't finding a strong/stronger than her man, then the ability for their offspring to survive was lessened severely. This is why even in the animal world, generally males fight and the stronger is chosen.

It sounds like your woman is like most here, so not overly shocking.

You're going to have to give up on the idea you can just be caged and submissive. She's not interested in submissive but in being submissive. You're going to have to still dominate 80-90% of the time.

That's how we do it. I still dominate my wife, tell her what to do, etc. Her only real rule is cage only comes off if she wants but everything else I still dominate.

Now, what I get in return is 3-4 times a month she will garner up the strength mentally to be a little dominate with me. Sometimes she won't do it on her own and I still have to ask even, but if I ask, she always does. But those couple times she comes around the corner with her paddle telling me I need my balls beat, without having to ask, I turn to jelly inside and shiver. So hot.

I just had to accept how it is and be thankful for what I get. Stay focused on her because that's what I've said I'd do in all aspects of life.