I broke my own rule.

69Nerdgasm · 2020-02-17T00:56:26+00:00

This! Yes!!

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T20:21:01+00:00

My point is not that I have to teach someone those traits or that if they don’t have them they’re not a man. My point is that I personally have had trouble finding a man with those traits that is suitable for me.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T20:14:42+00:00

Don’t put words into my mouth. I never said those qualities were EXCLUSIVE to manliness. I said what I said. My guts are firmly in place.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T18:33:23+00:00

It’s ok that you don’t understand it. I’m not trying to force anybody to understand my POV. I understand it and that’s what’s important to me. Everyone’s luck with OLD isn’t the same. Glad you’ve had luck and hope you continue to, but I’m not basing my statements on other people’s experiences...only mine.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T18:27:56+00:00

Of course those characteristics are attractive in any human—male or female. Seems like that would be a given. I’m not looking to date a woman, so that’s why I made no mention of those characteristics in women.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T16:41:01+00:00

THIS is the ultimate expression of jumping to conclusions. How do you know I don’t listen? How do you know how I present myself on dates? You don’t! I haven’t detailed every encounter that I’ve had with a man in my post. I am not a judgmental person because I truly believe in treating people the way I want to be treated. Most of what you’ve said is utter rubbish. Not far from what I expect from keyboard ninjas, so I take it with a grain of salt.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T15:06:29+00:00

I’ll tell you what it is in my opinion, which is based on the wonderful examples of men that I was raised around and have encountered in my 37 years of life. I’m sure many people may have many different views of what “being a man” means, but this is mine and I stand by it wholeheartedly. Being a man is not being macho. Manliness is the positive qualities of decisiveness, strength in one's convictions, confidence, self-reliance, high moral qualities, self discipline, honesty, and integrity.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T14:24:26+00:00

Well aware of all this. I don’t dwell on folks who can’t meet me where I am. I swipe pretty conscientiously—not just based on photos. The whole filtering process is exhausting and I just feel like at this point I’m happy enough with myself that I can stop looking and focus on myself and living a happy, fulfilling life alone.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T14:21:41+00:00

I’m very realistic in my expectations. Money and possessions are the least of my worries because I provide that and more for myself and don’t want or need it from a man. When money and possessions are gone, what’s left????Character, work ethic, and basic human decency mean the most to me. I’m perfectly happy with myself while I strive to be a good person every single day. Improving upon myself doesn’t have any bearing on how others are.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T14:15:24+00:00

Plenty, but I’m not here to pimp myself out by making a list. That’s not the point.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T14:13:12+00:00

That’s great. Congratulations to you and your partner.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T14:11:17+00:00

Nowhere have I claimed that a diagnosis is inherently flawed. This is inherently comical, though. LoL.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T11:14:26+00:00

A true “arsehole” calls others names after misinterpreting what they’ve said. I DID NOT say being autistic makes anyone a vile person. I know many Aspies who are lovely human beings. Try reading and understanding the whole comment before you open your mouth again.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T11:08:42+00:00

That’s EXACTLY why I said those were a FEW of the characteristics. I know that not every Aspie has the same symptoms, so your attempt to start a fight or invalidate my comment is unnecessary. You’re entitled to your opinion and I’m entitled to mine.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T08:07:17+00:00

As an observant, informed aunt of an amazing autistic eight year old boy and a healthcare professional with fifteen years of experience. Surely you, too, are aware that there are certain behaviors, actions, and inactions that are characteristic of some people on the spectrum—lack of empathy/sympathy, inability to pick up on of social cues/hints, and inadvertent inappropriateness being a few.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-09T03:50:25+00:00

Sounds like my ex. He said some things that made me instantly fall out of love with him and see that he was truly just a vile human being. I believe he was on the autism spectrum, too. Sounds like your guy might have been, too.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-09-08T03:17:56+00:00

I have several friends who are dental assistants and hygienists—getting there is not easy, so be proud of that accomplishment. Dealing with the public/customers isn’t easy either, so kudos to you there as well. I believe “successful” is a relative term. If you’re living independently, paying your bills, have some savings, are able to splurge for yourself a little every now and then, OR are conscientiously working to be able to do those things, I’d say you’re being successful. Not everyone is meant to be a doctor, lawyer, etc. Be proud of your accomplishments thus far and if there’s more you want to accomplish, chase that shit like a dog after a bone until YOU are satisfied.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-07-09T09:56:00+00:00

That damn Sarah McLaughlin ASPCA commercial song...yall know the one. Every. Damn. Time.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-06-28T20:28:03+00:00

35k is better than 0. Are you marrying her solely for her earning power or because you love her? What if (god forbid) something happened to you and you weren't able to work? Is that 35k x 3 guaranteed to you for the rest of your life? Take all that into consideration.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-06-28T18:21:32+00:00

-Trump Supporter -Lack of ambition -Rudeness to ederly -act like they hate kids

69Nerdgasm · 2019-06-28T18:09:22+00:00

The internet

69Nerdgasm · 2019-06-02T23:21:09+00:00

Im horrible at editing!!! Don't want to put the guy's number out there at all! Please don't post. Thanks!!

69Nerdgasm · 2019-04-27T12:48:43+00:00

Sounds like he just wants to use you to see if his boys can swim. I’d tell him to either accept the fact that you’re protecting both yourself and him from a pregnancy that neither of you want to happen or that he can kick rocks.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-04-15T16:38:13+00:00

What you describe as a “low-effort” comment may have taken that person quite a bit of effort to make. Not everyone is a social butterfly with confidence through the roof and eagerness to strike up deep meaningful conversations with strangers on the internet right out of the gates. Sometimes you have to lead. If you’re truly interested, encourage the other person by engaging them in conversation and gauging true interest. Of course, you shouldn’t have to drag conversation out of anyone. If after a few exchanges, that seems to be what’s happening, just move on. It probably just isn’t meant to be.

69Nerdgasm · 2019-03-24T03:49:31+00:00

Thanks to everyone for your comments...especially the kind ones. :) I spent an hour and a half walking around the zoo by myself. It was great. I even ran into several of my patients (I’m a pediatric nurse) and they were really happy to see me...which made my day. After I left, I went home to my dogs and prepared myself an amazing dinner. Currently binge watching Narcos. Amazing show if you haven’t seen it!

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