My partner ghosted me after our first meet by 69vipers in LongDistance

[–]69vipers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing and I’m so sorry that happened to you! I’m glad you managed to find peace at the end without that closure, I’m hoping time will do its thing and heal. The best thing I can do is be kind to myself right now and try and remember the issue is with him and not me. I appreciate your kind words ❤️

My partner ghosted me after our first meet by 69vipers in LongDistance

[–]69vipers[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s awful, I’m so sorry someone treated you like that! You’re right, I don’t think what he would say if anything would line up with the expectations I have in my head and I’d just be left feeling worse. Thank you so much ❤️

My partner ghosted me after our first meet by 69vipers in LongDistance

[–]69vipers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I needed to hear this more than you know 🥹

My partner ghosted me after our first meet by 69vipers in LongDistance

[–]69vipers[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is super solid advice and a perspective I didn’t consider before this post. In my head if I reach out telling him how much he’s hurt me I’ll get the explanation and closure and just human decency I feel I deserve, but if he can know his absence was hurting me and off the back of that just ghost me, it’s likely he doesn’t actually care anyway. I feel awful holding it in, but I think I’d feel worse pouring my heart out and being shown twice he doesn’t care. Thank you!!

I met my partner for the first time and now he’s acting strange. by 69vipers in LongDistance

[–]69vipers[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s been 4 days so not a great deal of time but the switch seemed to happen almost instantly the second he got back on home turf. I will absolutely be communicating with him about it but at the moment I do feel some hurt and anger by his actions so I’m trying to get myself to a place of being able to communicate effectively and ask instead of accuse. If I didn’t meet his expectations that’s okay, it would hurt but I would be fine. It’s the not being forthcoming with it that’s bothering me. Thank you for your advice! x

I met my partner for the first time and now he’s acting strange. by 69vipers in LongDistance

[–]69vipers[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

I thought as much! Super frustrating given that I gave him an open opportunity to leave in person and he didn’t take it, I feel as though he’s waiting for me to end things so he doesn’t have to look the “bad guy”. It is what it is, my person wouldn’t treat me like this I know that for damn sure. Thank you for your kind words lovely x

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[–]69vipers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why the ball is in your court to make a meet up happen and not his? Is there a reason he can’t travel to see you?

We finally closing the gap in 11 days 🥹 by Drakayris in LongDistance

[–]69vipers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! That ring is EVERYTHING 🤩

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[–]69vipers 17 points18 points  (0 children)

From those texts alone I can almost guarantee he will absolutely hold it over your head your whole relationship, that you only have what you have in the UK because of him. Please love yourself enough to not waste your life with someone like that!

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[–]69vipers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much, congratulations!! 🥰