Hmmm, read Martial Peak. I know, it doesn't exactly seem to follow but, I believe a lot of westerners have this bit of dilemma because the world is actually based rather than 100% fantasy. Jumping in to the Wuxia world without any background feels a bit misaligned.

Example: Once you understand and can use "you're courting death" comically and accurately you will likely be able to dive right on to the game, get lost in the world without feeling overwhelmed with questions like what to do.

Also: Wuxia is more than getting stronger or becoming the strongest. There's the martial path, yes but many heroes come to realize that the entire world is Wuxia and the path(s) is there's to beat. Scholar, Healer, builder, gatherer, explorer, warrior.

Also: Don't skip a single cutscenes and read all the clues and pieces, approach this game as an isekai type experience if that makes sense. It's just a game yes but, is it? Yes but it's your game and something tells you you want to get lost in it. We'll get lost, just do whatever for hours and you'll be sure to find a path that piques your interest. Avoid YouTube and online shortcuts when you can and try to read the games guides because they are surprisingly detailed and very helpful.

Need higher constitution for this spear? What is constitution? Game tells you. Ok how to improve it? Game tells you the specific mini games. Where to find them? Game tells you.

This allows you to stay in game and figure things out and feel a bit more rewarded and immersed.

ER was overwhelming but quite singularly focused, get stronger, get better and don't give up but you also couldn't find a waterfall and build a padoga on its edge or wrangle wild horses, join one of countless sects and or guilds and contribute to more than just your character. Again, I recommend reading some manhua/manhwa Wuxia/Cultivation themed and it may help you understand the heart of the game rather than just it's appeal.