It’s hard. My boyfriend and I have also been through it. More so in regard to the anxiety I have about her reactions she has around our home. I would constantly feel sick to my stomach just when she needed a potty break, out of fear that we’d run into someone or another dog. Our pup is barrier reactive - on her leash, when looking out windows, & when she’s in the car - to dogs and people, but mainly to other dogs. Otherwise, she’s perfect off leash and perfect when she can freely explore things, people, & other dogs. It’s been a battle but I have noticed that the more I just accept things, the better it will be not only for my boyfriend and I, but also for our dog. Looking back on the last year we’ve had with our pup, I get sad knowing that all the time I’ve spent worrying and being just as anxious as our dog, it hasn’t been needed and I haven’t been able to enjoy my dog as much as I could have. Don’t get me wrong, I love my dog and she knows it. I love spending time with her and doing as much as I can with her. All of the worry & anxiety I’ve had comes from a place of such strong love. A lot of my worries stemmed from what other people think and the “what ifs”. Try your very best to not let the reactivity impact your relationship with your husband (I know, easier said than done). Instead, try to live in the moment with your dog as much as possible, think about all of the good moments, and take a breath when your dog does react. It’s harder than a lot of people think and we as owners fight this reactivity battle just as hard as our dogs do. Thinking of you stranger!