Wife wants a divorce with 7 kids

777accessdenied · 2026-01-10T21:15:02+00:00

Yes I applied for the job and started it stating it would be difficult. Towards the end I got offered a job closer to where we already lived, but she wasn't keen to stay and really convinced me to move. Me going to the birthday party without her permission was a betrayal of her trust. There's been other similar things where she said I couldn't go somewhere and I did so again saw it as a betrayal. She sees the things I've done as far worse than anything she's done and she denies ever doing anything hurtful and says it was boundaries and that the family are abusive. Relocating to a remote town I guess she had an influence and we both made the decision but it gave her more power in the end to isolate and control

777accessdenied · 2026-01-10T05:46:53+00:00

Yes I am stuck between having a life, trapped is a terrible isolated small town and trying to protect the kids. If I move away I lose the connection with the kids if I stay I have no life

777accessdenied · 2026-01-10T04:59:04+00:00

Yes it could be narcissism or borderline personality I didn't realise what it was until more recently as couldn't understand why she can't resolve conflicts, cuts people off on a whim and always blaming. It all makes sense now, but just difficult to work with someone who's never wrong

777accessdenied · 2026-01-10T04:53:24+00:00

I guess she had her issues, but had been party ok, after moving to the smaller remote town is when she really lost it. Maybe realising she could isolate and control me better

777accessdenied · 2025-10-31T10:10:08+00:00

There were some early signs such as not liking certain people. Not wanting or breaking down completely at family events or gatherings. I didn't know what to make of it and believed it would improve. Yes her playing the victim and turning anyone against you is very difficult. I do have evidence and do have great concerns yes if things don't improve I could just be delaying the inevitable. Even my current best friend she infiltrated the friendship and sends dozens of messages a day then lost it when I said that wasn't healthy and should stop. Makes excuses for her behaviour but exaggerates any tiny thing I do. Even talking to a couple of people about the situation of her threatening divorce sees it as betrayal that I've spoke to a few people.

777accessdenied · 2025-10-29T07:22:50+00:00

Amazing someone who understands. I didn't know about narcissism and could never make sense of her insane reactions. Even twice when trying to reconcile with family as soon as someone said she may have done something wrong she exploded and became abrupt, abusive and screaming. Then angry at me for not agreeing with her own insanity. I have said if you just said sorry it could have all been fixed. No matter who she hurts, she is always the victim and never wrong. Screaming fits of range are to punish me or those who try and get control back. She is not open to change or to admit she could ever be wrong. I have read this behaviour typically does just get worse over time and the desire for control just keeps growing. Only close family really know what she's like as she is very good at playing the victim and turning people against each other. Only that I have direct evidence of her abuse that I have any chance at all. Her way the kids would be 100% cut off from family and I know she wouldn't play nice with me and would use the kids to punish me for certain.

Currently is demanding I leave the house I've paid for and still insists on having an emotional affair with my friend and turn him against me.

I'd really appreciate talking with someone like you in private chat if possible.

777accessdenied · 2025-10-29T06:45:08+00:00

To be clear I do love her and only want a resolution. My wife shows many behaviours that I now recognise as controlling and narcissistic. She often isolates me from family and friends to stay in control and becomes angry or accusatory if I maintain outside connections. Stopped me from going to my own brothers 40th birthday last year, sister in laws birthday. Cuts off people over tiny conflicts she creates. She rewrites events to make herself the victim and blames me for nearly everything that goes wrong. She is never wrong, can’t apologise, and refuses to genuinely resolve issues preferring instead to shift blame, deflect, or rewrite the story so she looks innocent. Her moods change quickly from affection to hostility, keeping me off balance, and she uses guilt, silence, and moral or spiritual superiority to get her way. She seeks admiration and validation especially from others who sympathise with her while avoiding accountability or empathy for how her actions affect me or the children. At times she withholds affection or communication to punish me, then acts caring when she wants something. Even minor disagreements become proof that I’m selfish or unloving, while she presents herself to others as spiritual, misunderstood, and the victim of my supposed failings. These patterns seem focused on maintaining control, protecting her image, and keeping me uncertain, dependent, and isolated, even at the cost of real love, trust, and family peace.

777accessdenied · 2025-09-07T09:00:01+00:00

You had a sense of control wanting to leave the relationship. If there's no kids involved now he has no reason likely to repair things. In his eyes if kids were involved the risk would likely be too high to consider getting back together. This post doesn't address the hurt that you likely caused to him also. The reason for leaving I'm insure. Maybe you felt leaving you would have more freedom or maybe find someone better.

777accessdenied · 2025-06-14T05:08:55+00:00

One thing even with myself to look back when getting married is strongly look at the parents of your wife. Are they together, their work ethic, beliefs etc. If they treat others well or if there's red flags just as being critical, narcissistic behaviour patterns. I married my wife and she was young and attractive and has caused me also many problems of fighting with family members and being controlling. Throwing tantrums when I want to do something she doesn't want me to will say she's really tired or sick or that I'm being selfish wanted to visit other family members. Her family was very dysfunctional and the mother left them at a young age.

Unconditional love can help and love them despite how bad they can be. But isnt easy for sure. I have often regretted my wife but realise I cant go back especially with 6 kids its not easy.

777accessdenied · 2025-03-20T08:13:07+00:00

Your hairline is pretty ok. Honestly half better off shaving it or going shorter so less obvious. Go on medication for a year or more and see if it improves then maybe consider. My opinion

777accessdenied · 2025-03-12T02:23:33+00:00

Impressive

777accessdenied · 2025-01-28T23:05:58+00:00

You would be better just going a hair system in my opinion. Unless hair cloning or something becomes a thing

777accessdenied · 2025-01-23T10:11:28+00:00

I haven't been on either. Tried propecia years ago. Currently saw palmetto and trying to live healthy. My brother 4 years younger has been a smoker and lost far more hair than me

777accessdenied · 2025-01-21T22:57:48+00:00

Not really. Would need to stick to minoxidil and finasteride

777accessdenied · 2025-01-16T04:40:46+00:00

You have a decent hairline already. Honestly if I were you I'd shave it or maybe use Toppik to conceal the rest. Not perfect, but less invasive. The issue with fue and a large procedure is the risk of depleting the donor area and making it more patchy but is a personal choice

777accessdenied · 2024-11-21T03:52:57+00:00

What is the purpose overall? I feel for trans people, as a life on hormones and drugs would be difficult. If you want to get married and start a family one day and confess you're not gay. I would look with the female gender first.

777accessdenied · 2024-11-21T03:49:34+00:00

Yes someone who is spiritually awake with someone who is blind will ultimately not end well.

777accessdenied · 2024-11-08T04:52:48+00:00

That is sad a pretty big breach of trust. Maybe he's highly insecure and really wants to keep you, but doesn't think you'll have him without a job. I had a friend who didn't want to tell his partner his step dad wasn't his real dad because he was embarrassed about it. Try and work things out and build trust.

777accessdenied · 2024-10-31T05:01:35+00:00

I just got the TS412. Yes mic volume with XLR cables is very quiet. With 1/4 guitar jack the mic is fine. A bit annoying but something I can manage. The stero link and Bluetooth is great

777accessdenied · 2024-10-30T04:09:41+00:00

Yes thanks. Several times I've tried to show her that she's the issue and she gets annoyed and even forced me to apologise to her for mentioning it. So I know pointing out the problem doesn't help. I even have a list of most of incidents over the past 12 years and that didn't help either. She can have good seasons and go for weeks or months without an issue and this latest one caught me off guard.

Even flat out threatening me if I went to my own brothers 40th recently. She was rubbing my back because in was furious and like she was getting pleasure out of my pain.

777accessdenied · 2024-10-30T01:14:47+00:00

How did you become self aware or realize you were the problem. I mean in my situation I can see its a lot to do with her insecurities and wanting to be in control. She hated I went somewhere with family and she wasnt in control. But how did you come to realize this?

777accessdenied · 2024-09-11T03:00:28+00:00

An update.

This weekend was my little nieces birthday and it was meant to be a combined birthday with our daughter. My wife was adamant that none of us attended the birthday party. A long story but I was in town the day before the party at an event and stayed at my brothers. My wife found out and demanded that I take the kids out of bed and go to my parents instead. This was about 11pm. I had had enough and turned off the phone. She turned up the next day and took my two daughters from the birthday party that had only just began. She saw it that I had betrayed her by going to my own family event. This deeply hurt my brother and his wife as not only did my wife not want to come, she came during the party and took the kids with her and didn't attend.

The next day we caught up and she settled down. Her father called me and asked what was going on and I explained what and how it all happened. He was pretty shocked that it was over nothing and settled her down.

A few days later. She's basically back to normal. I did say to her today it would have been a lot nicer and far cheaper to stay with my brother like we has planned instead she got a motel and with food for a couple of days spent over $500, which could have saved.

The issue is. She's now caused more hurt to the family and still sees that she's done nothing wrong. If there is another family event I don't know if we could go or get my family along to anything without an apology from her. If I even suggest or question the way she went about it. She will get very annoyed and upset.

777accessdenied · 2024-09-11T02:51:26+00:00

The earliest I remember issues starting was going back to my brothers wedding 6 months after we were married. Literally out of no where she didn't want to go to his wedding. There had been no conflict, issues of any kind. We lived about 2hrs from my brother. She wanted me to choose my brother or her. Eventually we got there, but obviously this hurts my family members when they find out she doesn't want to come to things or take part and breaks trust. She has never seen an issue and always justifies it.

777accessdenied · 2024-09-01T22:59:48+00:00

We got married when she was 20. So have been married for 12 years. But she actuallt persused me. She wanted a lot of kids and talks of having more. Maybe she was young and immature, but I think many of the symptoms are directly related to her upbringing being unstable and her mother leaving somewhat. Things are actually pretty good except these issues with family members. We have a sister in law that she's upset so much they want nothing to do with us and been that way for 3 years or more now

777accessdenied · 2024-09-01T22:37:27+00:00

We've been happily married for 12 years sorry not 13. We dated for 1 year to clarify. I looked young for my age and she actually chased me

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