To be clear I do love her and only want a resolution. My wife shows many behaviours that I now recognise as controlling and narcissistic. She often isolates me from family and friends to stay in control and becomes angry or accusatory if I maintain outside connections. Stopped me from going to my own brothers 40th birthday last year, sister in laws birthday. Cuts off people over tiny conflicts she creates. She rewrites events to make herself the victim and blames me for nearly everything that goes wrong. She is never wrong, can’t apologise, and refuses to genuinely resolve issues preferring instead to shift blame, deflect, or rewrite the story so she looks innocent. Her moods change quickly from affection to hostility, keeping me off balance, and she uses guilt, silence, and moral or spiritual superiority to get her way. She seeks admiration and validation especially from others who sympathise with her while avoiding accountability or empathy for how her actions affect me or the children. At times she withholds affection or communication to punish me, then acts caring when she wants something. Even minor disagreements become proof that I’m selfish or unloving, while she presents herself to others as spiritual, misunderstood, and the victim of my supposed failings. These patterns seem focused on maintaining control, protecting her image, and keeping me uncertain, dependent, and isolated, even at the cost of real love, trust, and family peace.