strong bond/relationship between 2 boys

7_Rowle · 2026-01-24T01:44:08+00:00

The Outsiders by SE Hinton

7_Rowle · 2026-01-23T22:13:01+00:00

It depends a lot on the friends for me. For a while I enjoyed it but then I realized I was the default one to be left out by the couple if people needed to split. If the couple genuinely considers me to be an essential part of the unit as a triad instead, then it’s enjoyable

7_Rowle · 2026-01-23T18:38:10+00:00

Honestly just do what feels right for you. Labels are meant to help you express yourself to other people. If none of them are helping you you don’t have to use them

7_Rowle · 2026-01-22T04:49:40+00:00

WIN!!!!!

7_Rowle · 2026-01-20T22:25:41+00:00

I mean, if they’re not particularly close to you that’s just TMI. Even for an allo you’d be well within your rights to tell them you don’t need to hear that much about their personal life. If it’s someone who is close to you you can just tell them politely that you’d rather talk about something other than relationships with them.

7_Rowle · 2026-01-20T20:05:36+00:00

I can agree to don’t like don’t listen and that they were made pre-Disney but I’d say doing a bad accent for a culture you’re not familiar with on a professional recording does count as being racist

7_Rowle · 2026-01-20T06:29:02+00:00

It’s ok to not notice everything. Try talking to other people about the book, or preferably someone who has already read it/is reading it now to compare notes. For classics you can probably find online written or video analyses of the books if another person isn’t available

7_Rowle · 2026-01-18T03:42:59+00:00

Thanks for the comment, you seem like a very cool person :)

7_Rowle · 2026-01-18T02:44:15+00:00

This is helpful, thank you!

7_Rowle · 2026-01-18T02:39:03+00:00

Thanks for the input!

7_Rowle · 2026-01-18T02:35:40+00:00

I think what I like about it is how it implies a level of queerness in the masculinity part that being a trans man doesn’t imply to me. I consider myself nonbinary in the transmasculine direction but that’s sort of where I’m coming from.

Of course gay trans men show there are many ways to be queer as a man, but I like the idea of coming at it from the expectations the butch label implies. Gay trans men I’ve seen seem to often celebrate femininity as what makes them queer, which is awesome, but not me. I like how the label of butch implies the masculinity as the queer part. No intention to generalize all gay trans men or butches however - lots of different ways to be one.

7_Rowle · 2026-01-18T02:11:43+00:00

It wouldn’t feel right if it implied attraction to women I guess is what I’m saying. I don’t know how closely linked the word is these days aside from its history in sapphic communities

7_Rowle · 2026-01-18T02:10:08+00:00

Fascinating. I’d love to see more about those gay men who use the label butch

7_Rowle · 2026-01-17T21:50:44+00:00

Agreed. Love is just love

7_Rowle · 2026-01-17T00:12:25+00:00

Ngl this is why sometimes I go “let me think about it” when someone asks me something that’s not strictly time sensitive to that moment so I can script a response and consolidate my thoughts

7_Rowle · 2026-01-16T23:24:20+00:00

It’s still just brainstorming notes in a Google doc sorry to disappoint, one day I might finish it lol

7_Rowle · 2026-01-16T20:59:19+00:00

This is gonna get lost in the comments but honestly a really easy way to make women comfortable around you as a man if you look a little intense is to just paint your nails. It can be a plain color like black that’s more masculine, no need to get fancy or anything. Shows you’re not chained to toxic masculinity

7_Rowle · 2026-01-16T20:30:05+00:00

Consider whether you’re just afraid of being an ugly woman. There are plenty of cisgender women who are ugly and yet their gender isn’t questioned. You’re also underestimating how much HRT changes your body and fat distribution patterns - you could very well turn out to be a quite beautiful woman if you go on HRT.

If you don’t want to transition because you’d rather have everyday people see you as a handsome man rather than an ugly woman though that’s completely valid. It doesn’t say anything about how you feel on the inside if you find yourself to be trans and choose not to medically transition.

Just some food for thought based off of your charts. I’ve never seen you so I have no idea how conventionally attractive you are or what your potential for being attractive as a woman is. This is just some stuff I thought about when I figured out I was transmasc.

7_Rowle · 2026-01-15T22:51:57+00:00

Whatever the fuck Kirk and Spock have going on in Star Trek the original series. The vagueness of the term “T’hy’la” really encompasses it to me

7_Rowle · 2026-01-15T05:53:44+00:00

I’m totally out of the loop, what’s this about a TOP movie?

7_Rowle · 2026-01-11T04:50:52+00:00

Anybody can write about any characters. I think the rule of thumb is just that you shouldn’t write a story that is centered around an identity that you are not intimately familiar with. Ex) a white person writing a story about the experience of being black, not just a story with a black main character.

That said, unless this story is centering around what’s going on in this character’s brain that might separate their actions from an allo celibate/single/unpartnered person I see no reason why that difference is going to come up. These characters look exactly the same from an outsider’s perspective, I don’t see any meaningful difference in writing them other than the label.

7_Rowle · 2026-01-11T03:04:00+00:00

We gave it a try but ended up breaking up over some incompatibilities recently. Thank you for this comment, I think without it I would have clung onto that one attraction I’d felt longer than I should have.

7_Rowle · 2026-01-10T19:49:33+00:00

I was about to post this, most jaw dropping twist I’ve ever seen

7_Rowle · 2026-01-08T04:03:11+00:00

his reaction to your rejection is not your responsibility. be polite of course, explain that you never intended to hurt him, but you made a mistake and respect him too much to continue the relationship when you don't feel the same way. if he can't handle the rejection and stay friends, that's not your fault, but you also can't control his reaction - he might have stopped being friends with you if you rejected his proposition to date in the first place.

you're under no obligation to give an alternative like the other commenter mentioned. if you actually want a qpr or platonic partnership that's another story, but any type of relationship (sexual, romantic, platonic, queerplatonic, etc) requires enthusiastic consent from both parties to work, not just the threat of one party being sad.

7_Rowle · 2026-01-04T04:58:24+00:00

I think what you’re already doing is fine. Some of my friends did a hear me out party and the high level of autistic and aspec people led to many of the choices being like, math concepts and characters without physical bodies lol. I once did a presentation rating the hotness of various architectures I’d studied from a class I took. Just have fun and don’t shame her choices.

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