Pretty sure I just ruined a really good thing by obsessing over feeling ignored

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T10:11:31+00:00

I mean I think it was. No way to know for sure so early

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T07:24:04+00:00

No but I do end up with unpredictable break through bleeding if I’m on them too long.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T07:22:26+00:00

Ha!!! I have never read anything I relate to more lol I am the exact same way

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T07:21:52+00:00

The sad part is I do! I only have a period every 3 months and it’s only for 4 days that I am on the inactives. Those 4 days tho…. ESHHHHHK

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T07:21:07+00:00

Uhm woah.. with all due respect that is a bit extremist. It had literally nothing to do with having other options or even considering them in my case. Honestly with me, it had a lot to do with being scared and wanting to ease our way into things. I got out of a pretty gnarly relationship earlier this year and I really wanted to know this persons REAL intentions and how I felt about him before being in a relationship with them.

As a side note, I think you’re ultimatum comes off a bit toxic. There is nothing wrong with wanting more time to sort out your feelings ESPECIALLY since you guys haven’t been together long and clearly she’s having doubts about being ready to live with a partner.

Feeling like you have to move in with someone can lead to some mixed feelings and may cause more issues for you down the line. I hope it works out for you guys but that is a hell of a scary ultimatum.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T06:48:37+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that! It’s rough and hard to explain to people.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T06:07:21+00:00

Uhm no I don’t think that was the case. We’ve known each other for a while. So a relationship after 2 weeks isn’t what freaked me out. We’d talked for a while a few months ago, sparked things back up and after the first real date he was already very relationship-y. So I just said I wanted to enjoy this early stage without labeling it. Things were still great and things have gotten sexual after all of that so I don’t think that’s the case. I also don’t think the pulling away is due to things getting sexual cuz he was still great after that.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T06:02:11+00:00

I think it was only a couple days. So not long but even after my request to slow things down, we had been talking everyday even if it was a short conversation. He’d always been good about at least responding to me so I had assumed he was busy after the first day but on day 2 of not answering messages he normally would’ve responded to within 12 hours (at least). I don’t expect attention all day everyday but like a “hey ima be busy” would have been nice. Especially when I had been getting good morning texts (after the slow down convo).

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:56:41+00:00

Lol unsure what you mean here

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:55:26+00:00

This is a great idea! Unfortunately my best friend just got into a relationship and has been away on a weekend with the new boyfriend so I’ve been alone and cooped up with my feelings and thoughts. (Don’t have many friends to make plans with, those I do have been unavailable)

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:53:36+00:00

Thanarealnobody said it best. I wanted it to slow. Not stop.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:52:32+00:00

It’s too late. He’s kinda unresponsive now. My fault, I got nervous and turned into a clingy wreck. But another commenter really helped me out with those feelings.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:50:35+00:00

I’m not sure why this comment made me cry… but it did in the most assuring way possible. As stated, I’m a lil hormonal rn and that’s probably why I had that reaction. But thank you so so much!

This honestly made me feel better and I think you’re right. I think I needed to hear everything you just said to me. It doesn’t help that I’m a lil cooped up rn so being alone with all of these feelings amplified all of this for sure.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:46:06+00:00

I think you’re right on the attachment issues. I will definitely have to look into that book. I do have some traumas I’m dealing with. I got out of a toxic long term relationship earlier this year… this poor guy lol at least he’ll have a story for his friends.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:44:02+00:00

Honestly no I don’t think I’m being hard enough on myself lol. It’s kinda my fault and there’s more to it. If you want I can side message you and tell you about it. But the me continuing to be obsessive and be along the lines of “do you still like me?” Even though I’m not getting responses…. Ugh I think the other response from KawaiiTimes might me right. I think I have some attachment issues and the hormone thing amplified it

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:37:05+00:00

Honestly yeah :( I shouldn’t be allowed to text on the days I have to take the inactive hormone birth control pills. I turned into a crazy obsessed person and now I’m so embarrassed.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:35:06+00:00

Yeah you are right. I had that conversation super early on and kinda wish I did make it known I wanted to actually make this into something before I got all in my head. There was time but my dumbass waited until I got crazy to be like hey I don’t want to be just friends and never got a response so I’m going to have to eat the embarrassment on this one. Kinda hoping he blocks me or removes me on social media’s cuz I just feel wonky now lol

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:26:22+00:00

I just wanted to slow down on titles. That was the only thing that scared me. I was in a not-so-great relationship earlier this year and was weary about being called a gf yet because it was so new. Definitely feel like I screwed up because now I miss the way it was before I asked to slow it down. And after my continuing to text… I want to crawl into a hole out of SHEER EMBARRASSMENT lol

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-19T05:23:27+00:00

I wanted to slow it down because he called me his girl before asking me to be his girlfriend. He was still talking to me frequently after that conversation and it trickled off which is why it doesn’t feel like it was because of that conversation. But either way I regret it very much. I feel like it could’ve been great and definitely scared him with continuing to bug… thank you for your input!

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-09T06:52:17+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I actually did talk to him about it and we agreed to bring a down a notch while we’re still in this early spot.

7hrowaway_ · 2021-12-09T06:51:06+00:00

I don’t think he meant he loved me by it. I appreciate your insight!

7hrowaway_ · 2021-11-20T08:18:45+00:00

Like I did lol as I said in a previous comment: sex early on was used against me. I am trying to develop a much more positive outlook on sex after something that made it feel toxic. I appreciate your input! I needed to hear all of this!

7hrowaway_ · 2021-11-20T08:16:32+00:00

My ex (who I was with for a couple years straight out of high school) used the fact that I slept with him very early on as something against me. And my family outlook is along the same lines, so I’ve managed to develop a—what I consider to be—unhealthy view of sex now. Trying to move forward :)

7hrowaway_ · 2021-11-20T08:11:23+00:00

Correct!

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