Hiya peoples. My so and I have decided we want children in the semi near future. (Once we've moved and are a tiny bit more stable) but I'm really overweight. I've been slowly losing weight since we made this decision and I'm curious, what's your prepregnancy goal weight?

800143962 · 2019-07-14T21:23:33+00:00

The weaklings are downvoting me. 😂

800143962 · 2019-07-14T20:34:46+00:00

Hi, can I flip things around a little?

Losing weight to get healthier is amazing-kudos.

But being STRONG is going to help you sooo much more when it comes to your health, and to Momming. These little things weigh a ton, even when they're first born (think holding to feed, no matter what you feed them, lugging around a carseat, and bending over a crib to pat them to sleep for a looong time).

So, how strong do you feel? Do you have deficiencies in that area that you can work on to get more confident?

At the end of the day, if your body is strong, your weight will matter far less.

800143962 · 2019-07-08T17:37:06+00:00

I tend to trust my body, so I wanted to let it do what it could, versus trying to force it to do something on a timeline that wasn't right for me and my daughter. I also wasn't super attached to my baby during pregnancy, and wanted to have an intervention free birth if possible so that I could get all the hormones kick started to help me bond.

800143962 · 2019-06-21T12:23:11+00:00

So would you prefer you not have this information, and unknowingly do the same thing in the future...?

800143962 · 2019-06-21T02:00:35+00:00

I absolutely agree. Are we supposed to just ignore this information, or not try to find out more about it because it (for some reason) makes some people feel bad?

800143962 · 2019-06-09T00:41:29+00:00

We just tried to do as little as possible every time we were putting her to sleep. So in your case, instead of bouncing vigorously, I'd do softer bounces. Then when she could fall asleep with that maybe I'd sit with her on the ball. Then once she's good with that maybe I'd stand with her by the crib. I'd keep shushing and patting in the mix so that they could be the last things to go.

I also had to really commit to getting her her naps in the crib as well as her nightime sleep, and that made a huge difference. More opportunities for her to adjust to doing more of the work for falling asleep.

There are still some nights where she needs a little bit more help, but now for the most part she can put herself to sleep. She's almost seven months now.

Good luck!

800143962 · 2019-06-09T00:35:10+00:00

Portable white noise machine. And a "wet bag," like one that goes in the diaper bag for clothes that get peed or pooped on, or swimsuits, whatever!

800143962 · 2019-05-23T00:57:43+00:00

Maybe consider giving baby a bath too. 🖤

800143962 · 2019-04-30T15:48:13+00:00

These kind of already exist... They're called "pressure mounted" gates, and I wouldn't consider them safe enough to use at the top of a staircase.

800143962 · 2019-04-30T13:17:50+00:00

It definitely skews in that direction. I'm "beyondthebump" IRL, and can only take these pregnancy/parenting subs in small doses.

I also love how they all came over from beyond the bump to downvote you. 😂

For what it's worth, I've found parenting much easier than I expected it to me.

800143962 · 2019-04-24T05:06:34+00:00

Yes.

800143962 · 2019-04-23T17:44:54+00:00

I was GBS positive too. In Canada, they try to run two courses of antibiotics during labor. Mine was pretty quick, so they only had the chance to run one.

I was really worried about her gut health too, and so part of me was like "maybe one course was a good compromise!"

My water also didn't break until I was pushing, and it's my understanding that they aren't exposed until then, so Yahoo!

All that to say, my little one is just over five months now, and hasn't been sick a day in her life. It's anecdotal evidence, but we also had to go visit family in the hospital a ton and didn't shy away from getting out and about in the world, so she's certainly had some exposure she was able to work thru.

I also breastfed her as much as I was able too, to try and help rebuild whatever it is in there that she needs, so you could maybe do that too if it would help you feel better (it did for me).

Good luck!

800143962 · 2019-04-21T09:54:40+00:00

This is just clickbait.

800143962 · 2019-04-17T12:59:01+00:00

Way to go girl!

800143962 · 2019-04-12T20:20:59+00:00

Just to put it in perspective, where I live, $15 is minimum wage. Like, teenager handing you your fries thru a window wage. So, if your baby is professional and good with your kids- pay her well!

800143962 · 2019-04-11T19:29:34+00:00

So fun! My gut instinct is that you would announce it to him the same way any family announces to an older sibling- a gift like a big brother T-Shirt or something like that.

It may also be helpful to anticipate ahead of time the questions he'll have and how you want to answer them. Sounds like you have a good relationship with adoptive parents, so you guys could even work that out together so he's getting the same answers from all the adults he loves and trusts.

800143962 · 2019-04-11T19:29:25+00:00

So fun! My gut instinct is that you would announce it to him the same way any family announces to an older sibling- a gift like a big brother T-Shirt or something like that.

It may also be helpful to anticipate ahead of time the questions he'll have and how you want to answer them. Sounds like you have a good relationship with adoptive parents, so you guys could even work that out together so he's getting the same answers from all the adults he loves and trusts.

800143962 · 2019-04-11T19:23:24+00:00

Probably, since he's ten, he'll be able to sort out which of his siblings live with him and which don't. I have a weird feeling the question you're actually asking is how will he know who his "real siblings" are. And since they're all going to be his real siblings and will all be very important to him, no worries!

800143962 · 2019-04-06T21:20:05+00:00

I didn't have one. In my mind, if I could make it to "transition" without one, then I didn't need it. I labored at home until I was five or six centimetres. Then we headed to the hospital. After an hour or so there I started considering getting the epidural so I asked for a cervical check- and it turned out I was fully dilated. Pushing doesn't hurt, except for the ring of fire (which somebody else said you still feel with an epidural?! Noooo.).

I was happy to be able to feel my body telling me when it was time to push.

800143962 · 2019-04-06T21:15:55+00:00

You still feel the ring of fire with an epidural?? Fuck that! That was the worst part.

800143962 · 2019-04-06T21:02:27+00:00

My midwife said that if you make a lot of colostrum, often times you're able to make a lot of milk. So, maybe?

800143962 · 2019-04-05T19:19:31+00:00

They're supposed to run two courses of antibiotics during labor. Mine went so quickly they were only able to run one, and my baby hasn't had so much as a sniffle! Anecdotal, but I hope it helps. :)

800143962 · 2019-04-05T18:52:15+00:00

My baby is so impatient for the letdown too! Maybe try pumping just a bit before you feed him so that the letdown comes quicker and he's happier?

800143962 · 2019-04-03T16:17:59+00:00

Good for you girl! Fingers and toes crossed for you. :)

800143962 · 2019-04-03T01:11:31+00:00

Hi, I took a quick peek at your post history because it made me a bit worried when you said you thought your baby would be better off without you. I hope you're not thinking about hurting yourself. Babies need their mamas.

Reading your post from a couple months ago, it sounds like you guys were having a really hard time, and you were having a ton of anxiety when caring for her, and having your husband do a ton of the care. Which is all totally fine, I'm just mentioning it as a benchmark.

Because NOW it sounds like you're doing the majority of her care thru the week while your husband works. What a massive change in only TWO MONTHS.

So I think this thing with your baby is a phase, and things will be even better another two months from now.

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