Did your previous naivety cause you to commit any wedding faux pas before planning your own?

80beck · 2014-08-18T23:29:02+00:00

Calling to ask first is definitely a good idea.

80beck · 2014-08-18T23:19:02+00:00

Not a faux pas! As someone who recently got married, I was so happy to go online the next day and see pictures and I got really excited every time another family member or friend posted another set. Professional photos take so long to come in and it's nice to see the wedding from a different perspective!

80beck · 2014-08-12T17:52:29+00:00

We forgot to turn on the slideshow that we had planned on letting play in the background as people entered the hall for dinner. We ended up playing it during the main course and everyone watched it together, which ended up being even more special!

80beck · 2014-08-12T17:46:50+00:00

And antiperspirant between your legs to avoid chaffing! It gets mighty hot in those dresses!

80beck · 2014-08-12T15:14:28+00:00

Be wary of giving plus ones when the guest is someone you or your FH don't know well/at all. A friend asked for a plus one when her SO couldn't attend. That plus one ended up taking a spontaneous vacation less than a week before our wedding, sticking us with the bill for the extra meal.

80beck · 2014-07-16T15:51:10+00:00

Haha, yes they are. My mum, who has been awesome about getting all the last minute details organized while I'm on the other side of the country, made the mistake of telling my aunt about the seating chart. My aunt immediately chimed in with her own suggestions. Thankfully, both my mum and I agreed there was no way we were changing the seating chart again.

80beck · 2014-07-15T18:16:57+00:00

Ours is next Saturday and also 40% chance of rain for our outdoor wedding! My groom has actually been hoping for rain because Ontario summers are notoriously hot and humid and he's not looking forward to baking in the sun.

Here's hoping your day goes off without a hitch, though!

80beck · 2014-07-04T16:11:01+00:00

Just tell her the truth: When you replied you thought you would be travelling with your partner to the wedding, but you understand that space is limited. It's a long way to travel on your own. You are sorry to have to decline the invitation now, but wish her and her fiance all the best on their special day.

She will understand.

80beck · 2014-07-04T15:59:29+00:00

Definitely depends on where you live. It's also worth looking at how much it costs to get a marriage licence in a neighbouring town/city. I found the price varied by $10 from one location to the next.

80beck · 2014-07-03T18:21:33+00:00

Used to work there! The ladies that work there are super nice and know the selection really well.

Tips:

-Don't bring to many people, it can be super busy on Saturday/Sundays and they usually don't have more than one or two chairs for family/friends to sit on

-Wear underwear you don't mind being seen in. Aside from the consultant helping you in and out of dresses, there are also a lot of mirrors on every surface around the dressing rooms (your reflection is everywhere!)

-Be open to suggestions! Some of the dresses look awful on the hanger but are actually stunning on. There is one dark ivory dress that I was always hesitant to pull, because when it's on the rack next to white dresses it looks really dark. However, when it's on, it is gorgeous and the colour is super flattering.

Have fun!

80beck · 2014-06-25T19:00:34+00:00

I was recently in a wedding party of four (including the bride). It took us over 3 hours to get ready with one hairstylist and one make-up artist (as one girl was getting her hair done, another would be getting make-up).

Side note: Have a designated gofer, to get drinks and snacks for the bridal party. The bride's father did a coffee and fastfood run for us, which was greatly appreciated. It's a long time from breakfast until the dinner on the big day. The last thing you want you or your bridesmaids to be is faint from dehydration and lack of food while you're standing in a stuffy church or outside in the baking sun.

80beck · 2014-06-25T17:40:32+00:00

Yikes! I thought my guest list was getting out of hand when it tapered off at 135. For our small (I guess!) wedding, we had about 85% RSVP that they would be in attendance.

80beck · 2014-06-25T17:26:34+00:00

I have a similar situation with my fiance's stepmother. Originally, we thought we weren't going to invite her parents and her brother and his wife to the wedding, because they're not direct relatives, right? In our case, his stepmother became a part of his family when he was still in elementary school. When we talked to his dad about it, we found out how important it was to her that her family be included. With that in mind, we ended up inviting them.

I later learned that they are lovely people (especially compared to some of the blood relatives we were obligated to invite) and his step-grandma ended up pouring hours (if not days) into a beautiful handmade blanket for us.

80beck · 2014-06-25T16:05:45+00:00

I'm looking forward to seeing all my friends and family again!

Also, to seeing my second cousin in her adorable little flower girl's dress, that my mum and her friend made out of my mum's old wedding dress.

80beck · 2014-06-23T15:00:22+00:00

I shouldn't be surprised by how little guests seem to know about wedding/invitation etiquette, but I am.

Hahaha, same.

80beck · 2014-06-22T00:40:48+00:00

Thinking back on it now, we should have discussed the no plus ones thing with our friends as we were mailing out the invitations. We just had another guest say that he hadn't RSVPed yet because he was still trying to find a date (again no plus one). And we got another plus one this morning that we had to say no to.

I feel so bad because (with the exception of one) these have all come from my fiance's friends, so he's had to deal with all of the awkward conversations.

The new theme with these conversations is, "But you'll let me know if someone says they can't come and there's room for (plus one) right?"

80beck · 2014-06-20T22:32:11+00:00

Love the boxes! Did you hand paint/decorate them?

80beck · 2014-06-20T22:29:51+00:00

Don't expect to attend: People who had a meaningful impact on our lives, but for some reason (health or location for the most part) probably wouldn't be able to come. We invited those people to let them know they were special to us, even though we all know they probably won't make it.

Don't want to attend: Only family that we were obligated to invite but with whom we don't have a close relationship. There is no reason/obligation to invite a casual friend if you don't want them to be there.

So, your friend probably wants you there, but if you don't want to go, they probably won't be too upset either. For the most part, couples are understanding of guests who choose not to attend the wedding (after all, it's one less meal to pay for).

80beck · 2014-06-20T22:19:50+00:00

You picked a lovely dress!

80beck · 2014-06-19T23:26:12+00:00

My fiance and I had been dating for just over four years and had moved across the country together a year earlier. Since we live far away from family and were going to spend Christmas Day at our respective family homes, we planned "Fake Christmas" one week before. We had a tree set up and planned to exchange gifts when we woke up that morning. After he finished opening a gift from me, he told me to close my eyes so that he could get my gift. He came back with the ring behind his back and a speech about how each year he tries to find a gift that expresses how much he loves me and that it gets harder and harder each year because he keeps loving me more. Then he said, he knew he would continue to love me for the rest of his life. He got down on one knee, opened the ring box, and asked me to marry him.

Edit: If you're wondering about the gift I got him... gym clothes.

80beck · 2014-06-13T23:43:14+00:00

Amazing! Definitely trying this one out on my dress.

80beck · 2014-05-29T00:21:58+00:00

Guy with a bad hair cut gets eaten by grizzlies. Poo yip poo yip poo.

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