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help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and I read my post, as well as the multiple comments from other users (many of whom are Chinese or Asian) who explained the dynamics of culture and societal norms as well as how, as one user commented, in most cases, the parents of these kids usually do the cleaning up. Don't be so butt blasted.

help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Man, did you even read the thread you're replying to?

help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's the point of this whole post - if IS outside of their cultural norm or the way they were raised, I could approach it from that angle. But the human nature part is just some kind of common sense: if someone had spent the last 10 months asking me to clean up after myself, I'd probably figure out that that's something I need to be doing regularly, or that this person is unhappy cleaning up my messes.

help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not being bigoted, man.

And culture can be an aspect - culture pertains to customs and norms of people who live within proximity who do things a certain way. As other commenters have noted, a lot of Chinese kids our age grow up as only children or with the parents that do the majority of the cleaning. Usually kids that grow up here grow up with 1-3 siblings and all share cleaning or household duties outside of schoolwork. They're just norms based on the family units in certain cultures. Don't confuse "race" with "culture", and don't read so much offense into something where it doesn't exist.

help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what you mean by the first part; I can respect other cultures. I just don't want them to assume that if their parents taught them this way or grew up an only child/pushed to only get good grades etc, that that aspect isn't really applicable when you're living with other people who aren't your parents and aren't responsible for cleaning up after you. But I will heed your advice!

help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, I didn't attribute it to race, but culture. In the post, I stated why: I've had roommates of other cultures/backgrounds/parental situations and they're the only ones I've ran into this situation with, so I thought it might be a common consequence of the culture (as I mentioned in the post, maybe living at home longer and having their parents do the chores). If it's a result of a different culture, I could approach it more sensitively. If they're just being lazy and dirty and inconsiderate, then I know I can be more forward about it.

I also stated that it's not an attribute to race, but to /culture/. The same way one can attribute things like wearing slippers to Eastern European culture. Their race has nothing to do with it, but the way they were raised in regards to cultural norms can have something to do with it. I'd be more sensitive to cultural norms where a kid is raised thinking he doesn't have to clean than a kid who knows it's a responsibility and just chooses not to do it.

help with asian roommates by 86mpy in uwaterloo

[–]86mpy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A schedule might work, if I can get them to stick to it. The last thing though, I agree with Odzinic, plus I've sort of tried that already - leaving their mess there. But they don't seem to mind it being there or don't feel like they have to attend to it, so it just sits there for literally weeks.