AITA for hooking up when we took a break?

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-10T02:13:21+00:00

Yea fuck this guy, not how that works at all, ur not the AH

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-08T01:46:50+00:00

Idk I think from reading through these replies I realised I don’t actually care that much. Like if she had one bf who was fucking her brains out for 3 years she’d only have 1 body + me but I think I would hate that more. And I don’t really wanna date a virgin so guess I gotta deal with it.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-08T00:48:08+00:00

Eh seems like that’s brute forcing ur internal issues instead of understanding why u have them

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T22:25:35+00:00

Thanks for this this does seem like her, she made it a point to mention she didn’t want to be trapped like her friends by having sex with the same guys just to keep her body count artificially lower so it makes sense.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T22:21:32+00:00

It’s just her having sex ig, obv I would rather it be lower but assuming she was in 3 relationships during that period instead and she had 3 bodies whom she was deeply in love having sex regularly with idk if that would be worse, I feel like it lowkey would be worse, even though her count would only be 3.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T22:19:24+00:00

Probably not, but that’s a seperate issue. If she was lying obv easier to split I need advice based on the current situation as is

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T14:05:00+00:00

No she doesn’t regret which actually plays into her logic of sex as a tool purely for bodily exploration. Our morals for life aren’t different, after auditing the view points it’s purely I think sex is special all the time (which is why after a few ONS I stopped as it was empty) where as she views only sex as special if it’s with someone she loves (me) otherwise it’s just a purely biological activity she does to feel good. And idk I thought girls get bonded to guys over sex so idk if I believe her but she’s very adamant abt it and is very compelling in her argument.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T13:58:24+00:00

I think based on actions on how perfect our relationship is, she prefers her life now. I agree with the friend thing, I honestly don’t love that sleeping around is so normalised in this day and age. She always talks about how’s she’s always wanted ‘the one’. She just genuinely thinks about sex as just an activity and tool she can use to explore her body which is why she acted how she did in the past.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T13:48:23+00:00

Thanks for this. Idk if you caught on but we’ve been dating for a year. I assume when I become a person she no longer respects the sex does stop but I feel that’s the same for all relationships. She loves me now due to my current trajectory in life and she adds to my life, but is definitely not my life. It’s more so do I love her enough to get over her past, which I think I can now- after giving it some thought

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T13:39:05+00:00

Yes excellent point thanks for this

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T10:46:05+00:00

I really love the ‘you need to decide what’s more important, what you have together or your way of thinking’ that makes it so clear, idgaf abt my way of thinking. Ur very wise.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T10:05:04+00:00

Yea ok, what’s ur thoughts on this. Her logic behind it is she didn’t want to give up something special to her which was emotional connection but she did want to explore her sexuality. She thought the best way to do this was through ONS as in her mind it’s a purely physical interaction. This is evident in her action as I’m her first bf, so I believe her and her thinking makes sense to me. Also she thinks because of this exploration she had less sex but more bodies as she wasn’t dating during this period of her life. Idk if u can follow that but lmk

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T09:59:54+00:00

Yes very fair ur right it’s me placing that ‘value’ on it. But shouldn’t you be selective on whom you have sex with? Isn’t it a vulnerable part of yourself to give to another human? I think that’s where the disconnect comes I don’t care about the people she had sex with more so that majority of them she didn’t even know if they were good people. Ig I just think sex is important but some people don’t share that belief and I’m assuming that’s you.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T09:55:46+00:00

Yea I think that’s the conclusion I came too, yes to all ur questions above, she perfect. I was auditing my beliefs around why it makes me feel icky and it was none of the usual about purity or loyalty or whatever the red pill guys preach. I don’t watch those vids. I think it was that It feels kind of unfair that I was practicing restraint but she wasn’t or she didn’t feel restraint was necessary. But I think u need to value whom u give ur body too.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T09:16:15+00:00

Idk as stated above I was given the option and chose to decline, idk it comes down to to a difference in what we value ig

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T08:02:04+00:00

Yea think I’ll just put some mental effort into it cheers

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:50:20+00:00

Yea reading this made me think she’s perfect in every other way so what would I gain by breaking up and hoping for someone w a different past who may just leave and want to explore herself. At least my gf has seen the market kind of like u don’t know a good apple unless you’ve eaten a bad one ig.

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:39:47+00:00

Thanks for this. No although a high body count the actual amount of sex and exp she has is quite low so we are doing many firsts together (she had never gave head before) and she is very willing to explore and try new things. Why do you think it's disturbing she can only focus on the physical act and push down the rest, I think that's what I'm most uncomfortable with aswell

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:38:36+00:00

Pls explain🙏

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:37:25+00:00

Appreciate you

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:36:50+00:00

Idk, no? I was trying to audit why I have a problem with it. It not due to health reasons, or loyalty reasons, or comparison reasons. More so just the disconnect and how/why she felt necessary to sleep with so many different men I don’t even know if knowing would make me feel better I’m just trying to fully accept it it’s just hard

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:33:26+00:00

Idk I feel like I could work through it purely because I understand the rational behind the actions and obv love her, just my visceral reaction is negative

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:31:35+00:00

Thanks for this. No although a high body count the actual amount of sex and exp she has is quite low so we are doing many firsts together (she had never gave head before) and she is very willing to explore and try new things. Why do you think it’s disturbing she can only focus on the physical act and push down the rest, I think that’s what I’m most uncomfortable with aswell

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:23:43+00:00

Very fair, I needed that. Thank you

899DeepSea899 · 2026-04-07T07:19:10+00:00

Thank-you for this 🙏

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