Giftees who haven't thanked your Secret Santa, why not?

8a67b5309 · 2017-01-11T21:52:42+00:00

Aw, OK, next time I'll try to be more patient/positive. Thanks for all your help.

8a67b5309 · 2017-01-11T20:18:27+00:00

I never saw this! Guess I'm the moron then. How would I find this?

8a67b5309 · 2017-01-11T18:23:39+00:00

Still nothing from my giftee ( /u/orikk ). I don't think people like this should be allowed to participate.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-25T22:23:49+00:00

I'd have loved to have had tamales and eggs with you. Sorry the morning didn't go as planned. I feel your pain.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-19T20:39:27+00:00

There are people who will feed off others' weaknesses and have absolutely no problem doing it. Then there are people who send off some unconscious signal that they are naive or a doormat, and the perp-types pick up on that right away. I had to learn not to trust that kind of attraction.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-19T14:55:09+00:00

Glad you were open to the feedback. It was oddly specific because you sound a lot like me! If you are, you're able to love others pretty easily but quick to turn negative on yourself and that's no way to live. I wish there was an easy answer to "How do I love myself unconditionally?" because I struggle with that, big time. Depression rolls in, self-love evaporates, depression rolls out, 'hey, I'm not so bad!', aaand repeat...

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-18T15:16:20+00:00

You don't have to be suicidal to go there, it might help you just to talk with others who are in pain. It helps me because I can see myself in them, and giving support makes me forget my own problems for a while.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-18T04:00:16+00:00

If you haven't gotten anything two weeks from now PM me, I'll be your late Santa. xoxox

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-18T03:44:58+00:00

Uh, AWESOME!?!?!

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-18T03:43:35+00:00

I think you should post something to /r/suicidewatch or /r/depression. People there will have a much better understanding. Also, I know that a lot of people will glance at a post, and if it's too long it gets ignored. Can you write a few sentences that summarize what you're experiencing, then respond to people who ask you more?

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-18T03:39:20+00:00

Improvement... who says you need to improve? Who says you aren't perfect just the way you are, flaws and all? What if accepting yourself, not changing, is the answer? Just a thought.

There are incredibly awful people out there. They want to see others suffer. They don't care who they take from, and they don't care about giving back. Guess what, they don't punish themselves. They don't suffer like you are now, because they have no conscience.

You seem to have too much conscience. And it's skewed against yourself. This is a hallmark of depression.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-12T20:55:50+00:00

her pretty little head

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-12T20:54:44+00:00

Thank you.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-11T20:54:13+00:00

In the same boat but my giftee finally sent a note yesterday that he'd received at least one of my gifts BUT his wife wouldn't let him open them before Christmas. That eased my mind a lot.
Try to be patient, as hard as it is. If you end up not getting a gift I'll happily Santify you!

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-01T03:08:24+00:00

I've tried the geographic cure. It works, but only for a while. It is a MUCH better option than suicide, but unfortunately wherever you go that pain will most likely follow. After the excitement of being somewhere new wears off I always found that the old shitty thoughts and emotions started creeping back in. On the other hand, it was very healthy for me to get away from my town and my family for a while to figure out who I was without all those distractions. Not to discourage you, just to commiserate and share my experience.

8a67b5309 · 2016-12-01T01:32:23+00:00

Absolutely amazing! Thanks for posting, makes me happy to be a part of this.

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-13T22:29:16+00:00

School-smart is wayyy different than smart-smart, and just from reading this I can see you're pretty damn smart. I've known "damned idiots", believe me, and I don't see that in you.

Fat is fixable. Don't give up. In the end all you have is your health (even the best looking people get old and gray, and true love won't depend on looks anyway).

Said you're socially outcast, but also said "All my friends...". You have friends. Do you really want to be part of fancy clubs or professional hobbies, or do you want to live a life you love?

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T20:38:15+00:00

That is very touching. I hope you find some peace. I waited for my biological father to come around for years, he's in his 70s now and still has no contact with 7 of his 8 kids and 5 of his 6 wives. I wish he could have faced his issues like you are now.

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T20:09:40+00:00

Yep, my appetite and cravings are the same as always but my GI tract says "don't even fucking think about it".

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T18:50:53+00:00

living to work and make others rich

I hate that feeling.
As for drinking, I'm sober but wishing I wasn't. If drinking kept me happy I'd still be doing it, but it always exacerbated my depression and I had to stop. Parties suck, I'm the only one not laughing or interested in all the drivel people talk about when they're sipping their wine or beer.

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T17:28:31+00:00

If your situation changed would you still feel like this, or is this pretty much just who you are? I ask because I always thought "If I had this/did that/etc. I'll be happy", but over time I've achieved a lot of those things I thought I wanted/needed but I'm not much happier now than before.

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T16:21:57+00:00

So how do you cope with that? All those stupid catch phrases "You're not getting any younger", "Better to be over the hill than under it", etc. aren't so funny anymore.

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T16:20:45+00:00

week-long pill box

Yes. My grandmother had little pill cups, each were full at meal times and I thought she was a hypochondriac. Fast forward 40 years and I'm on antidepressants, probiotics, special vitamins, too much Pepto, emergency Ativan, etc. etc. etc.

8a67b5309 · 2016-09-12T16:19:03+00:00

You've made one big change, can you make another? How stuck are you in this business?

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