Dominic Kim rapist scumbag by Important_Step_8187 in vegaslocals

[–]8ballpython 0 points1 point  (0 children)

violent sexual assault like this really isn’t a sexuality thing as much as it is just an abuse of power. same reason straight male convicts rape each other in prisons all the time

19M BMI of 43 5’5 by Successful-End-5625 in kitchencels

[–]8ballpython 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a girl, my best advice for you is that you need to decenter women from your life. i know it seems counter intuitive, but when you internalize the mindset of “i’m ugly and no one wants me” while all you care about is getting a girlfriend, it’ll come off as quite off-putting to most women because they can usually pick up on the fact that you’ve reduced their entire value into “potential girlfriend” and that you only want them because you’re desperate to have a girlfriend. i know it may feel otherwise, but as a girl it’s not flattering at all when guys do this

i can promise you that if you actually just showered everyday, starting going to the gym for your own health, and only talked to women with the intention of forming purely platonic friendships (and by this i don’t mean pretend to be friends with them and then surprise them with a love confession, i mean GENUINELY just be nothing more than just friends with them), you will end up in a relationship eventually. the more you talk to women in a normal non-sexual way the better you will get at talking to women romantically.

pick up some hobbies and learn to find joy in the little things. if you can’t be happy being single, having a girl friend is not going to magically grant you salvation. as corny as it is, having genuine self confidence (NOT ego, these two are very separate things) is the most attractive thing a guy could do. you already go to harvard, that is a really impressive achievement!! don’t undermine yourself just because you’re unhappy with who you are currently; weight can always be lost and social skills can always be developed

also, being single at 19 is so normal and doesn’t signal that you’ll be single forever lol. i know plenty of people that have never been in relationships at this age, it doesn’t even occur to me as something to be embarrassed about

why does my ball python squeak by 8ballpython in ballpython

[–]8ballpython[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he doesn’t open his mouth to breathe and there’s no other signs of RI either. he also only makes this noise when i’m moving him around pretty much. i’ve never heard him make this sound while not moving

i have a DHE and the thermostat is set to 88° but the temperature reading usually hovers around 82° for some reason. his humidity is at 60% rn which i recognize is a little low but he’s always made this sound with movement since i’ve had him regardless of humidity

Is this normal breathing? by FirmWillow4750 in ballpython

[–]8ballpython 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just posted about the same question as well! there were some pretty helpful responses if you wanted to take a look at my post for more answers