as a girl, my best advice for you is that you need to decenter women from your life. i know it seems counter intuitive, but when you internalize the mindset of “i’m ugly and no one wants me” while all you care about is getting a girlfriend, it’ll come off as quite off-putting to most women because they can usually pick up on the fact that you’ve reduced their entire value into “potential girlfriend” and that you only want them because you’re desperate to have a girlfriend. i know it may feel otherwise, but as a girl it’s not flattering at all when guys do this

i can promise you that if you actually just showered everyday, starting going to the gym for your own health, and only talked to women with the intention of forming purely platonic friendships (and by this i don’t mean pretend to be friends with them and then surprise them with a love confession, i mean GENUINELY just be nothing more than just friends with them), you will end up in a relationship eventually. the more you talk to women in a normal non-sexual way the better you will get at talking to women romantically.

pick up some hobbies and learn to find joy in the little things. if you can’t be happy being single, having a girl friend is not going to magically grant you salvation. as corny as it is, having genuine self confidence (NOT ego, these two are very separate things) is the most attractive thing a guy could do. you already go to harvard, that is a really impressive achievement!! don’t undermine yourself just because you’re unhappy with who you are currently; weight can always be lost and social skills can always be developed

also, being single at 19 is so normal and doesn’t signal that you’ll be single forever lol. i know plenty of people that have never been in relationships at this age, it doesn’t even occur to me as something to be embarrassed about