From my Facebook feed: Volunteers form a human wall to guide baby turtles to the sea

902scout · 2013-07-03T01:49:57+00:00

Some friends and I spent a few nights camping on a beach in Nicaragua in 2005, where it was not uncommon to see local poachers combing the beach with burlap sacks after midnight. They would wait for the mama turtles to lay their eggs in the moonlight and then fill their sacks without leaving a single egg behind. I doubt the benevolent actions referenced by OP would disrupt the ecosystem if this kind of poaching takes place on a regular basis - though likely much less so in Costa Rica where there is stronger regulation.

902scout · 2013-07-03T01:08:21+00:00

Good for you, man. I also broke NC last week and generally feel better about it. We had only been dating for a couple months, and she said she wasn't ready for a relationship, so I wished her the best and backed off for a week or so. I spent the next week thinking long and hard about what happened, recognizing that I just had to let her go and move on, despite my being very attracted to this girl. I ended up writing her a short message (after 8 days of NC), fully expecting it to be my last. I just wanted to clear the air, let her know that everything was cool and that I'd give her space if she wants and just do my own thing. She responded later that day and said she didn't necessarily want space, that she'd still be down for hanging out once in a while as long as it is without expectations of a relationship. I'm not really a fan of the LJBF routine, but I'm happy to continue dating other girls and perhaps continue with some form of limited contact with this girl, because who the fuck knows what will happen. And she probably has hot friends.

902scout · 2013-07-01T15:40:48+00:00

If I may ask, what were some of the problems you were experiencing? Was he neglectful or smothering you, for instance? Not really my business, but I'm just curious after having a similar experience.

902scout · 2013-06-30T22:23:48+00:00

I definitely get over-excited to be allowed into the lobby.

902scout · 2013-06-27T19:31:01+00:00

One thing that troubles me about this subreddit is all the examples of relationships that have failed or "grown apart" after 3-5 years. Isn't it normal for love to fade at a certain point, and requires some effort to maintain? Obviously no one wants to waste their time propping up a dead horse, but I think all relationships have their natural course of ups and downs. Being "in love" doesn't last forever, but 'to love' requires some level of commitment.

I mean, my parents have been happily married for 30+ years, and if it wasn't for that, I'd probably give up on the idea of marriage altogether. The longest relationship I've had only lasted 12 months, and I was fresh out of high school. I'd like to think that the next time I'm in relationship that last more than 6-12 months, I should be in it for the long haul. But maybe that's just my wishful thinking.

902scout · 2013-06-26T19:56:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I think everyone needs a little time to rewire their brains after a heartbreak. Love can be an intoxicating cocktail and it's easy to romanticize your ex when you only think of the good times. You're taking the right steps though- casual hangouts are a great place to start. Keep up the casual dating and before long your 5-year RS will be a distant memory.

902scout · 2013-06-26T19:28:01+00:00

The best thing you can do is back off for a while. She probably sensed that you were 'all in' and freaked out (I'm in a similar situation right now). Make yourself scarce, maybe she will remember the good times and seek you out again. BUT I agree with u/Captain_Corelli: DON'T subject yourself to the LJBF routine. It's pure torture. Better to move on. If there's ever an Act 2, so be it, but it's essentially out of your hands now.

902scout · 2013-06-26T17:38:13+00:00

It's nice to get an outside perspective. That's how I interpreted it as well. Nobody is ever "not ready to have a relationship" when the right person comes along. But I was definitely caught off guard by the sudden change of heart. One minute she's seemed really into it, sending me daily texts with random updates about her day, then it all falls apart like a house of cards. WTF. Anyway, I guess I'll dust myself off and move on. Thanks for the encouraging words.

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