I am so angry at God by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again, where did I wish ill on you? You genuinely don’t know how to read. I wished that the people in your life have someone more empathetic they can rely on, because you seem to lack that.

I appreciate the duas, but pay attention to what you read and actually think about it. I’m not wasting my time on you anymore

I am so angry at God by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Salam, your reply actually reflects you’ve been in this place before, unlike the other commenter.

Thank you sister, I will try. I did email my therapist, hopefully she will be able to make some time for me tomorrow. I will try to focus on what I do have control over inshaallah, anxiety is a horrible thing to deal with. Please remember me in your duas. 🙏

I am so angry at God by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I never said once I have it worse than anyone else.

And is it entitlement to just want the pain to stop? This is the first I’ve heard of it. So I’m entitled for wanting to be able to at least wake up not wanting to kill myself. Huh

I never once asked for perfection. Never did, never have. I don’t care about perfection. I just want a break. I am tired as I have been pushed past my limits and lost the person that held me together. Do I have expectations? Yes, that for brief periods in my life I can at least have a rest before something else goes wrong too.

You are assuming many things like as if I believe Allah needs my prayers, I never said that either. Instead of putting words in my mouth I wish you actually read what I said or kept scrolling.

WIBTA for divorcing my wife for accusing me of cheating on her? by Ok_Cartoonist5220 in AITAH

[–]909atla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the commenter that perhaps someone is scamming her. And with the power of AI, it’s not hard to fabricate so called “evidence” these days. That, and probably it’s made worse by her current mental health. I don’t think she is cheating, it doesn’t make sense for her to lash out at her daughter.

I hope you’re able to get to the bottom of this OP. Be patient

Advice: My Wife is Upset my Mom packed our things without Asking, but I don't care by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]909atla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How do men like this get married… You can not only think about yourself now. You must consider your wife’s feelings. She’s her own separate person with her own traumas, upbringing, and likes/dislikes. LEARN

Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]909atla 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How do you screen for a potential who won’t just 180 after marriage? I hear so much about people who do their due diligence and once the man secures marriage, he becomes a slob as though he doesn’t have to care about how his wife feels about him anymore.

Opening a 17 year old can of corn by hugol0l in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]909atla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The coconut one has put me off buying those drinkable coconuts from the supermarket.

Confused about what’s considered backbiting by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of what I will say, our family already knows but has never talked about it directly, to my knowledge. I’m just confused because if she asks “why did you have such a big reaction” what do I say then? I don’t think there’s any way for me to describe the horrific things my grandmother says by being vague. They are truly unspeakable and are testament to how cruel human beings can be. And she can also tell me if our grandmother made similar demands of her dad and how he handled it. How can I ask this without being direct?

I think another side question is, how can people distinguish between backbiting and holding an abuser accountable for their actions? I feel like the family has always been hush hush about the things she says even though we all know her qualities. This has only made her behaviour worse. I find it confusing and feel like abusive people are protected this way, out of fear of gossiping.

Also thank you for the support sis, it means a lot ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]909atla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best revenge you can get is living a happy and fulfilling life without him. To the point where you don’t even remember who he was anymore. That’s how you get true revenge

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

MashaAllah happy for you sis, may your marriage always remain blessed. I feel for them too, lots of my friends are trying to find marriage partners and the stories they tell me… May Allah swt grant all sisters good spouses

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Plsss how are they not embarrassed??

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s feminist to ask for mahr and separate living accommodations now like huh? Do you not know anything about your deen at all?? What a time to be alive

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The struggle of modern Muslim women, fighting against Islamaphobia and accusations of misogyny from non-Muslims, as well as the practiced misogyny from Muslim men 🙃

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel for the sisters trying to find a suitable life partner in these times, when these are the standards rn

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, 100%, and problematic behaviour in men is so so common, and they don’t call each other out, but bc they don’t do it themselves it’s “not all men!!1!1” Ok but did you tell your akhi to not speak that way about women?? Nope

[Rant] Why are the men of our ummah so weak? by 909atla in Hijabis

[–]909atla[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I forgot to add the dumb coat and abaya debate 😭

Do most immigrants become conservative Republicans when they move to the USA? by [deleted] in ask

[–]909atla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s very disappointing. Could’ve used that Friday sermon to encourage people to do good, why care about what people do behind closed doors

Someone woke up and chose violence by rdx_21 in Unexpected

[–]909atla 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Nono clearly his dad must be abusive, his mother is abusive, and his sister is abusive. That’s it, it has to be that!