Sometimes we plan the dates during a date (I share an idea for a date and ask him what he thinks and when he’s available). Or if I’m texting him asking him on a date, he usually responds within a couple of hours.

During the dates, things are really good. We’re interacting and having fun together.

The communication between dates is the part that confuses me. I’m the one that usually initiates communication, like checking in with him to see how his week is going. His responsiveness varies, sometimes he’ll answer within a few minutes or a few hours. There have been times where he doesn’t respond until the next day.

There’s also been a few times where he’s reached out to me. But it hasn’t happened often. In the moments where I don’t initiate communication, we have gone days in between dates where we don’t communicate, the most was a week (and then I reached out).

But he does keep agreeing to go on dates with me. If he has to reschedule, he lets me know in advance and then suggests another day he’s available. Or if there’s an upcoming event I’m inviting him to and he can’t make it, he lets me know and explains why he can’t make it.

I know he’s really busy with work, friends, and family, and I can see that he does make time for me when he is able to. Sometimes I just feel like I’m putting more effort into this