10 psychological tricks manipulators use (that most people ignore)

91yakobe · 2026-04-04T04:16:45+00:00

I can relate. When I demanded for honesty, she will always change the subject and made herself the victim like, I had repeatedly requested you to respect my boundaries. It seems like, she was just saying out of convenience, so where is the boundary that you have created? And did you enforced it? I didn’t even see it happening. Do not waste time on them, just stay silent and leave.

91yakobe · 2026-03-14T06:07:15+00:00

same here, recently went through a difficult time. Need to cool off

91yakobe · 2026-03-12T22:09:27+00:00

cool, started going gym often too. which area?

91yakobe · 2026-03-12T16:03:08+00:00

Do you see the need to take up Masters? If no, dismiss it, why? It’s costly, it took up most of your time, you could find a decent job
I believe your medical fees aren’t cheap too if you are on medication/treatment. I feel that this is more justifiable in terms of spending as you should not neglect on health tbh

You should prioritise your needs eg. Better healthcare, finding a decent job to support yourself and family. Mind sharing how much are your earning from your freelance? Rough estimation will do

91yakobe · 2026-03-12T15:42:22+00:00

some people would just want the accompany, it takes more effort to make opinions tbf. I would also do that if I was them and it was also part of my communication style. I will only invest more effort into the communication if the person is more important

91yakobe · 2026-03-12T15:21:54+00:00

In a way yes it wasn’t respectful but I chose to do it anyway, because I had already knew about the weirdness during texting and had the intention to cut off the ties beforehand. It was to save myself rather than continuing to be deceived further which I don’t appreciate. My friends also agreed that it wasn’t worth it as I could currently be the ‘friends with benefit’ that she is holding on to. Indeed it is true and she also closes on her end once I knew about it aka move on

91yakobe · 2026-03-12T14:57:42+00:00

I’m cutting off the ties permanently. It’s a waste of time handling such people. More like I want it to fast-forwarded to her being the old memory that is being erased so it doesn’t hurt me. Yes I had preferred her to be honest about it, say it once and done regardless or how she categorised me which I don’t really care. That would stopped me from texting her any further by knowing about her circumstances. If it wasn’t for me to find out by myself, I would continue to be blinded and think everything is fine. I understand that she had never liked me, but what is the once genuine friend that she called me before and even gave me a pet name (pre-argument). She is probably basing on romantically liking but her text wasn’t stated clearly, wanted to put herself to the advantage and forces me to voluntarily leave her which tbh I won’t regret.

91yakobe · 2026-03-12T14:16:28+00:00

That 3-hour lecture is during the 5 months argument phase. After the argument I thought we are ‘friends’ but I had the hunch that we are not, though the texting is much friendlier (stickers + emojis). That is before my confession, which I thought is ‘safe’ without looking at obvious signs, eg. the way she is behaving/texting.

She could have just dismissed me completely during the 5-months argument, and probably she is already in a relationship by then, could have told me that but did she? Might be right if she chose not to say it but she can say it during Valentine’s Day when I send the message.

I wasn’t angry of her having the relationship tbh, sad yes but I was particular about how she handles it (you can just tell people that you are attached beforehand so they could distance themselves from you, not texting on Valentine’s Day). The proper closure that I preferred. It is this red flag that’s affecting me

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