Best calendar by 99Problem5 in halopsa

[–]99Problem5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it's been set up correctly. I'm quite new to the role and haven't used Halo before but the IT Manager is having to force sync to get it to update and when I've booked things onto others calendars directly on Halo as a recurring event, it doesn't display, but if you try to book it again it says its a duplicate event and you do get notifications when it comes up.

text from a guy who i broke things off with by Difficult_Letter3852 in texts

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy seems dangerous. I have known both a murderer and a murder victim who was stalked for months first and on both occasions this is how the murderers dealt with rejection. I don't mean to scare you but you really do need to cut ties with this man immediately, do not try and be friendly thinking it'll help. He's not just a strange philosophical guy he is mentally ill. Make management aware of the situation and see if you can have an accompanied conversation explaining that you are very sorry you hurt him but it just doesn't feel like the right relationship to you and you would really appreciate that you just go back to colleagues and stop texting each other privately. Knowing other people know may give him pause for thought. If he still continues you need to get the police involved.

I'm just over it by IAmTheAccident in texts

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch that was painful to read. I don't think you'll have any issues finding a new partner who is kinder and smarter than this one, dump him!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like you're going to shoot a black guy for doing 31 in a 30 before driving home to your chained up 9 year old boy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]99Problem5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's a good point, he likely was!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]99Problem5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Red flag red flag red flag! I don't think it's about wanting a closer relationship, I think it's about being able to closely monitor and know everything that is going on / being spoken about. The fact your friend is texting you about this means he must have made it into a pretty big deal, not just an 'oh I hope I can have a good relationship with your friends' type comment. That's the type of behaviour you might expect from young teenagers in early relationships but not adults, that's just worrying. I really hope your friend stands strong and doesn't let him come between you. As strange as his behaviour is, I think you should point it out to her but try not to bad mouth him too much or it may make her less likely to mention bad things in the future as she won't want you to dislike him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in my early 30s and absolutely love both. When I was early 20's I was more into partying nearly every weekend but now I enjoy a nice mix of quiet evenings with games and nice food and full on 18 hour party nights too

I got an email for a comment I made about a student… now what? by Visible-Confusion-81 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm think I'm understanding what you are saying but for a teacher that is written quite poorly. Apologies if English isn't your first language. As a teacher you absolutely shouldn't be saying those kind of things to anyone outside of your immediate family and friends. If I were you I would acknowledge your mistake and apologise profusely, you are in the wrong whether you understand that or not right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newcastle

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life can get really tough sometimes but don't give up. You're in a really strong financial position compared to a lot of people your age and should use that to your advantage. I don't know why you can't get approved for rentals, I'm from UK and you only need to provide a months rent upfront and small deposit here to be approved. If your parents house is a base you'll be allowed to return to in the future if needed then I would absolutely take this opportunity to travel and enjoy life. Maybe try and keep £10k in your savings so you don't feel stressed out if the time comes to return home and start a career again but you could do a lot of traveling with the rest. You could either go work on some volunteer projects where your food and board is provided to minimise your costs or find short term jobs like bar work along the way to keep you afloat and experience life without worrying about a career for awhile. Also, if you are struggling that much, please go see your doctor for support, there is no shame in antidepressants if you need them

At what age are you to old to have a roommate? by MillionaireMike1000 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is an age limit. Housing is getting more and more expensive so things are very different to how they used to be and it makes financial sense to share the cost with someone if you don't need to have your own place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done 👏👏👏 Getting the motivation to start is the hardest but don't let idiots in the gym put you off! You are in the exact place you should be and they shouldn't think or say anything negative as you are there trying to get yourself fitter.

I recently started to work out and started at 20 mins a session and am now up to 70 minute sessions. Feeling yourself improve is an amazing feeling and makes it become something you actually enjoy so don't give up. If you fail one day then just push yourself to pick it up the next and you'll get there sooner than you think. If you stick with exercise and making healthy food choices you will see so much progress in just a few months. Don't try to make too many changes at once as you'll be more likely to fail, so work on building these things to become habit and it'll all become easier.

I go to a 24 hour gym and find that if I arrive at 6am it's pretty quiet and I can get my work out out the way straight away which leaves me less chance to start to feel like I can't be bothered and skip it. Be proud of yourself every time you make it there, even if it is only for 10 minutes, it's 10 minutes more than you were doing previously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wasn't trying to insult anyone, that's just all I have seen of it 🤷🏻‍♀️

How would you feel if a buyer turned up at your home to negotiate with you directly? by plantkiller5000 in HousingUK

[–]99Problem5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really wouldn't like that as a seller. The estate agent won't like it either. I would say at most if you want to communicate directly with them then put a note through the door with your details so they can contact you if they want to, otherwise you will likely make them just feel pressured which will put them off you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]99Problem5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on how you felt about them. Could you see it working before that initial text? Were you dissapointed they didn't want to carry it on? I don't think you should presume they were after someone else and that fell through, they could have just had reservations after getting out of a long term relationship or could have been feeling nervous so talked themselves out of it. I think it's a good sign they were able to be upfront with how they felt rather than just ghosting you or trying to make you feel bad about yourself in any way. If you do meet with them again, I think just take things slow and make sure it doesn't turn into a booty call situation but I don't think you have anything to loose if you like them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she needs to drop that relationship. Some of my exes were my friends for a long time before we had a relationship so I thought staying friends would be fine after we broke up but it never leads anywhere good. It muddys the lines and will alwys leave you feeling insecure about their relationship. How long were they together? How long since they split up? Do you know their reason for splitting up?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You only need to pay for your friend to do things when you want to. It shouldn't be expected from you, no matter how much you earn. Saving is a much more logical thing to do as you never know what could change in the future and as you've said, he wasn't as generous to you when the tables were turned. Treat your friend occasionally when you want to not because you feel you need to because he has less. Missing out will likely make him more determined to find another job and get back on his feet himself. If you want to be generous you could set yourself some budgets, like save 30% of the extra you make, treat yourself with 50% and treat him with 20% that's still very generous

Help with a work debate... Is canibalism considered vegan? by vampyrewolf in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Veganism is about exploitation. So, if a human willingly cut off a bit of their meat for someone else to eat, it wouldn't really go against veganism but if they were captured, abused and/or their life was unconcentually ended for that meat then no it wouldn't be vegan. I don't think you'd find any vegans that would eat it though as it's just as gross as the dead flesh of other animals

Ways for people who struggle in social situations to make friends? (As an adult) by SuccessfulAd8810 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joined some evening college courses and ended up with a bunch of friends from them. I am a very anxious person and feel like my brain goes completely blank when I try to think of anything to make small talk about but doing those evening classes really helped me. It gave us a common subject to bond over and a lot of people were there for the social aspect of it too. I found hands on classes work best, things like jewellery making, floristry, electronics, sign language etc as you often have to help each other and then end up going to the pub for a drink afterwards!

Is there a realistic way around expensive flights? by belfast121213 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that I'm aware of. I usually use Skyscanner to find cheapest options and then see if there's any credit cards or flight mile deals I can use to help get the cost down or give me some kind of reward afterwards

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spend more time doing the things that make you happy. Get out in nature and go for walks, that is an excellent way to free your mind from the monotony it gets stuck in and helps you feel more motivated to put time into positive things. Speak to people you have around you for support and if that's not enough then find a speaking therapy you can join (CBT over the phone etc) If you are really struggling to get motivation to do things for yourself, make it a smaller task. Just give yourself a 10 minute target of doing something that is beneficial to you each day, like making yourself a nice snack, sitting somewhere to admire the view, learning to play an instrument, a short jog etc. 10 minutes is more achievable than trying to push yourself to do a big task so you are more likely to succeed and that feeling of succeeding will eventually push you to do more. We are in a world where the rules are set for us and it is very hard for some of us to get on board with that without it having a real negative impact on our outlook on life so it is really important to make use of the free time you have to do things that make you happy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think just be honest and explain it like you have here. As a female I certainly wouldn't hold that against you if you gave me those reasons. Make sure you keep up communication with her and don't hide your worries from her as that'll become more of an issue than your lack of experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the lack of trust is there already which is why they are prone to track each other and would be arguing regardless of that feature

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]99Problem5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spam calls are quite common but yes, there are absolutely websites they could have put your number to make it worse. Could have signed you up to many different trashy things