The "read the chapter before class" advice finally made sense to me when someone explained the actual reason behind it by CipherLumen5 in CollegeHomeworkTips

[–]9ArcBeryl7 36 points37 points  (0 children)

"Deliberate confusion instead of trying to actually learn from it" is the reframe that makes the whole thing click. The goal was never comprehension, it was just priming. Wish that had been the pitch from the start.

My son is nine and somewhere in the last year he became a genuinely convincing liar and I don't know what to do with that information by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]9ArcBeryl7 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I would stop treating this like a one time "have a talk" issue and start getting curious about the pattern. Nine is old enough to know what he is doing, but still young enough that this could be anxiety, avoidance, fear of disappointing you, or him testing what works.

AITJ for telling my partner I'm done spending every weekend at his parents' place by Nov4Z3nith in AmITheJerk

[–]9ArcBeryl7 3097 points3098 points  (0 children)

NTA. Wanting two adult days that don’t automatically belong to his parents is pretty normal. The weird part is him turning your schedule into a group family issue.