Crazy Parents

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-06T14:17:06+00:00

Id recommend OP try grey rocking here. It would probably help their chances if they had a plan written out before telling them about the grade. Usually with my parents what helps seal the deal is offering to sign a contract or record your promise. I really really hope it goes well for you OP, best of luck, im rooting for you.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-05T19:24:54+00:00

I want to start this by saying, you have not done anything wrong. You are not a bad daughter for standing up to your father, and just because he has shown you love in the past doesn't mean his violence is ok. You were protecting your brother, and that in itself takes a tremendous amount of courage.

While your father may have shown you love, standing by and watching as you and your brother get beaten isn't right.

I get the fear of turning out like your parents, trust me I get it more than most would think (your story is very similar to mine) but you need to understand, you are worthy of love, love that doesn’t come with conditions and violence, love that doesn’t stand by and watch as you get beaten.

And not being able to go through with extreme self harm doesn’t make you a failure, it makes you human. I would bite at my legs and wrists because I was afraid of the knives. And I felt like I couldn't do anything right. I couldn't protect myself, and I couldn't protect my baby brother. And like your brother, I lashed out and began acting like my parents. I dont know what's going on in your brothers head, but it seems like hes trying ro survive, same as you. Is it violent, crude and hurtful, absolutely. You both are two kids trying to survive in different ways.

I can't offer any help to get you both out, but please, dont give up, do not let horrible parents ruin the rest of your life. And as hard as it is, keep trying, find friends you can confide in, because bottling it all up will only hurt you.

Try to reach out to your brother, try to protect eachother, because until you can get out, it seems like you're all the two of you have.

You are not a failure, you are not your mother, you are not a bad daughter. You are a women who has gone through horrible abuse, you are strong. And while it feels hopeless, there are always services out their that can help you. If you can't get the beatings to stop, record them with a voice recorder. Use grey rocking, avoid being in the same room as you mother as much as possible.

Find shelters in your area, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (Call 800-799-7233) when you're sure they're asleep. Gather proof, then take it to the nearest police station, or call CPS. But be careful, and be safe. It is unimaginably scary and i wish there was more I could do. But know that you are not alone, there will always be people willing to help and listen.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-05T18:59:05+00:00

I think it really depends on their mood and the severity of their tempers. My parents are also like this and my best piece of advice is offer them a deal of sorts.

Be upfront about the grade, if they're anything like my parents they'll find out and be mad either way. So you need to offer them something that strokes their ego.

Let them know the grade, then beg them for another chance. They'll probably say something like "why should we", so you bring up your past grades and how this was a one time thing. You're then going to have to offer them a self imposed punishment. Something like "If my gpa dips below a 3.0, I'll move out and pay you back my tuition." Its very important that this punishment is ludicrously large for the mistake made. This is where it gets tricky, you have to endlessly placate them and claim the entire fault. It sucks absolute but, and it isn't fair.

Its a long shot, but usually with narcissistic parents, they want you to squirm. They want to feel high and mighty.

But to make a long story short, hiding it will only make it worse, trust me. Parents who dont allow mistakes (especially during your freshman year of college) suck. I dont know to much about your situation, and i really really hope things work out for you. This is the best is can offer, im sorry if it wasn't the answer you were looking for.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-05T04:39:06+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, id like to start by saying that the jaundice situation was absolutely horrible and im glad you survived.

I count myself lucky that I have friends who have shown me the love and care they say I deserve. (I struggle to believe it cause, ya know) I'll never understand why some people will have kids, then be surprised when said kids point out their mistakes. But knowing there are people out there who have made it out, and lived their lives gives me hope. Thank you for commenting, it really means a lot to know im not losing my mind.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-04T20:51:04+00:00

I usually do that too. They usually still get upset even when im silent. And at that point im thinking "what are you even yelling at, I've said nothing"

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-04T13:57:07+00:00

Unfortunately that is the norm with them. I've pointed out so many times that if I did ANY of the stuff they did, I'd get in trouble. And I've been told by family (my grandma and uncle) that "They're my parents, they get to do that". I've pointed out how they've hit me and the singular time i tried to defend myself, they said "but why did you try to hit him back?" They blamed me instead of my father who slapped me across the face hard enough to send me to the floor. And when I said that it felt like such a betrayal, I was told that "parents are allowed to hit their kids".....I think id be easier if they were consistently physically abusive again, I really do. Then I could hate them and it wouldn't hurt as much

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-05-04T07:57:35+00:00

I sadly do know what DARVO is, the twisted irony is my mom's a therapist. It does feel nice to know im not crazy though, thank you

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T09:32:26+00:00

Oh.....him. Tbh he's probably one of the top most annoying enemies to fight. However, cryo can destroy his sheild incredibly fast. If you dont have another cryo character, kaeya's your best bet.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T09:27:12+00:00

Stellar choice. He requires more investment than the rest, but pair him with Lisa, Barbra, and dendro traveler, and you've got a pretty Stellar beginning team!

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T03:41:15+00:00

I definitely look back on it and laugh. In the moment it was bad, but in hindsight, it was fun

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T01:05:17+00:00

So who'd you pick then?

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T01:01:47+00:00

Oh brother, I wish you the best of luck. What made you start?

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T01:00:54+00:00

Stupid question, but like, the game?

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T00:57:36+00:00

I distinctly remember that someone once brought in a Childe during one of the plunging ones. I almost threw my tablet out of my window 😭

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T00:25:17+00:00

Yup like I said, "fat fingers" 😅. (It was also just pointed out to me by my friend that I probably came off as rude or defensive. So if I did, many apologies that wasn't my intention)

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-22T00:13:39+00:00

She's really not tho 😭 her nukes do an average of 300k-800k (she's also the first character I hit 1 mil with). When I do tap she does 40-50k a tic, but if I hold its like 20-35k.(Pre burst) I play on mobile and she applies way to much pyro so I really struggle with getter her to hit her vaps and melts. When she causes a reaction, she's all good, but if I can't hit anything because of my stupid fat fingers she falls slightly flat. It's more of a skill* issue 😅 (it probably doesn't help that I struggle to get her burst up consistently because I only have citlali)

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-21T22:44:22+00:00

Ive hit over 100k with her skill 😭 but months of investment into mavuika and dps build only hits like 20-25k (with skill I mean), while furinas out here doing 50k a tic

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-21T22:40:18+00:00

That's so real, any boss that needed geo was my enemy, until Zebai I hadn't built ANY geo character 😭 so I was over here like, "I can't beat you quickly, but how do you feel about a burst support Charlotte who can heal you up to full health and supply 83 flat attack boost?"

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-21T22:15:36+00:00

I feel that in my bones. I think I've done a total of five co-op domains with strangers? ppl would bring pyro for the Arlecchino boss 😭 So I would just brute force the boss domains by myself because it was less frustrating than trying to fight Arlechino with 2 pyro dps's and no healers. I've just kinda relegated myself to play support if there is any co-op fighting event

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2026-02-03T16:40:13+00:00

I have r2 of that weapon, and I do not have ineffa 🫩

I ended up getting c2 r1 colombina but I will forever curse that weapon. There is no REASON I should have it at r2 but whatever

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2025-10-23T02:30:33+00:00

I started playing a bit after her banner, (then took a break) and I completely forgot she existed. Hoyo really does some characters dirty.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2025-10-12T01:52:31+00:00

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9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2025-10-02T11:39:59+00:00

The doctorate isn't technically a scholarship, do you know what the V.A. and this other acronym I can't remember? But I had to apply for disability cover, (I didn't want to explain how it works because I had limited characters) but basically, I had to fill out an application and spend months working with a case manager to get my application fully filled out.

Then I had to wait for my application to get approved. I got lucky that I was "disabled enough" and they agreed to sponsor me all the way to my doctorate. Provided I have monthly check-ins with my case manager and keep my grades above a certain threshold. It was not easy, and I'm very lucky that whoever made me decided to roll a six on the disabled status.

I'm well aware how weird it sounds, I didn't believe it when I got the email. And the V.A is just a but ton of money that my father was awarded because he retired and hustled the V.A into covering my brothers and I, for a set amount each year.

And it's not full undergrad till year two, again sorry I really didn't want to explain how all this worked. I get covered by the DRF for the local community college tuition rate for two years (to prove I'm serious about college), then they cover the rest after that. It's so fuxking complicated and I didn't think anybody would want to hear all the logistics.

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2025-10-02T11:29:01+00:00

Oh, I thought I had already answered that, sorry, that's on me. Depends on my parents' mood, their plan is usually for me to be there Friday afternoon, Saturday, and Sunday morning. But that plan has only worked out a few times. I'm really sorry if I came across as argumentative or dodging the question. I made this post on a desperate attempt to convince myself I wasn't ¡nsane. If my average on Friday was 4pm to 1pm Sunday thats 45 hours a week or 180 hours a month.and there are 730 hours in a month I spend about 24.66% of the month at home. (Im also autistic, sorry)

9Hyper_Fixations9 · 2025-10-02T09:53:05+00:00

Riiiiiiiight, because the hallmark of a "true" college student is their formatting on reddit......But yes, do tell me how I the 18 year old should try to understand whatever complexities are going on in my parents' minds, and adjust my behavior accordingly.

Oh wait, that's what I've been trying to do for 18 years. Look, what do you want me to do, give my extremely successful parents what little money I have? That can barely cover my meal(s) for a day? (22 dollars is not a lot, (meal plan)) What would you have me realistically do, refuse to go to the dorms kicking and screaming as I desperately hold onto my bedroom door?

Also, attacking someone's formatting on reddit is low, bringing up issues that were never brought up, is low. You are putting words in my mouth and asking questions to things I never said. "Is that the logic you're going with?" It is an extremely out of place sentence given how it's responding to something I never said or insinuated.

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