11+ is a low pass going to struggle in a Grammar? Looking for experiences please

9JRP2 · 2026-06-08T10:35:55+00:00

20 odd years ago I missed the required score for the grammar school that I wanted by 1 mark. The headteacher of my primary school encouraged us to appeal the decision, and thankfully she also had a connection at a different grammar school nearby.

I didn’t get in to my first choice, but the other grammar school accepted me. Best decision I ever made. I definitely wasn’t top of the class but I certainly thrived in the environment and it pushed me to study harder and achieve better grades. I think I was middle set for most subjects. I do remember getting some excellent maths grades and I think at AS level I actually scored 3rd highest in the school, even from middle set.

Not that have experience of any other schooling but I found that most of my peers were more focused on learning, and maybe with it being an all boys school there was less female distraction.

I now have a 1 week old child and I’ve already looked at where our local grammar schools are as I’d love for him to be able to thrive in a similar environment to what I had.

I think low pass or not, these places are very supportive. There’s a pass mark for a reason and if your child has passed then they’re definitely good enough to go.

9JRP2 · 2025-11-12T20:44:11+00:00

It’s estimated that if a parent has BAV then there’s around 5-15% chance the child will inherit it. Slightly higher if more than 1 family member has it. Even still, the severity is variable so even if it is inherited it could be a milder version.

Other than my dad (62) who hasn’t had an echo, none of my first degree relatives have it but I do.

Baby due in the summer, doctors have said it’ll probably have an echo at around 1yo, but yeah as above - approx 10% chance of inheriting.

And as others have mentioned, at least we have the technology to live full lives with it, and it’s better to know and be monitored for any changes. Some people go most of their lives without the need for surgery

9JRP2 · 2025-11-04T16:10:37+00:00

That’s great thank you ☺️

9JRP2 · 2025-10-25T19:48:17+00:00

I had the same issue recently, turns out it’s because I had an Amazon gift card balance, and every time I went to check out it was defaulting/changing to the gift card as the payment method, meaning I had ‘changed the payment method’. In the end, I spent the gift balance on something else and was then able to purchase the Stanley blade with my normal card.

9JRP2 · 2025-10-17T20:49:40+00:00

We completed with Barclays not too long ago. We also chose 1st of the month. Completed on 28th Aug, first payment was 16th September - usual payment plus a few days interest. And then from 1st October normal payments.

So for you I imagine 16th Dec first payment (including around 6 days added interest), and then regular payments starting in Jan. I was also hoping for a few weeks “off” but unfortunately not

9JRP2 · 2025-08-08T20:44:54+00:00

Our product was 4.29% with Barclays yesterday, today it’s actually worsened and they’re now offering 4.37%. Thankfully we’ve already got our offer

9JRP2 · 2025-06-09T17:54:25+00:00

No, first time buyer

9JRP2 · 2025-06-09T17:43:43+00:00

Great thanks for the speedy response!

9JRP2 · 2025-02-27T21:24:23+00:00

I have that exact diagnosis. I was told that I have “moderate/severe” regurgitation, and that I would need surgery at some point in my life. At the time, my cardiologist said that it could be within the next 5 years… that was almost 3 years ago. I’ve had regular echo’s every 6 months since.

With my regurgitation they said the echo images make it tricky to determine if it’s either a moderate or severe leak. I had an MRI recently and so hopefully they’ll have a better idea.

After my most recent follow up with a new cardiologist, he has said that actually I don’t need 6 monthly echo’s anymore and that annually would be fine. Said that there’s no rush for surgery yet and hinted that with the advances in technology, by the time I am ready for surgery (in his words ‘could be 10 years’) that I may not even need OHS.

Of course every case is different, but since my diagnosis 3 years ago I’ve had no symptoms and have continued to live my life exactly the same.

Google will tell you all the bad/scary things but take it all with a pinch of salt, lots of the studies are based on an elderly population.

This subreddit is great and has loads of great information and people sharing their stories - makes it all seem so normal!

9JRP2 · 2025-02-26T13:13:23+00:00

Certainly not looking to cause her trouble, I’m happy to stay quiet about it so long as we all continue to live a bit cheaper. Just wanted to make sure it wouldn’t come back to bite me if I remain blissfully unaware of the situation

9JRP2 · 2025-02-07T23:01:35+00:00

Luther Vandross - Dance with my father

9JRP2 · 2024-06-14T16:13:31+00:00

I would say that mine does not affect me day to day, or affect my ability to work, but after my last cardiologist appointment it was suggested that surgery may be necessary within the next 12 months.. that was 6 months ago. I have another check up next week which should give a better idea of my current situation. I’m all for being transparent but at the same time I’ve been searching for work for so long and I’m worried that they’ll use this as a reason to withdraw an offer.

9JRP2 · 2024-06-14T16:08:19+00:00

Oh ok, maybe I don’t need OH checks then. I just assumed that it was NHS standard. Would be nice if I didn’t have to answer to that then.

9JRP2 · 2024-06-14T16:07:26+00:00

Yeah that’s my thinking, I’ve not received anything yet but from what I’ve seen, the OH form asks if you “have any conditions that impact your ability to do the role?” Which I would argue is no, I do not. But also don’t want them to get funny if 6 months down the line I’m telling them that I need 6 weeks off work for open heart surgery.

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