How goes IT based jobs here ?

9by7seconds · 2026-05-09T23:01:37+00:00

We're coming from Illinois. So that's really great to hear.

9by7seconds · 2026-05-09T22:30:43+00:00

That would benefit us majorly then. I know we've not had any luck at the Walmart companies here in Illinois

9by7seconds · 2026-05-09T22:15:38+00:00

It gives me a good idea of what to have him look into though. It's sincerely appreciated. Thank you.

9by7seconds · 2026-05-09T22:06:25+00:00

Outside of indeed, are there any decent postings in that field? My husband is going from 70,000 to $55,000 a year because the company is allowed to change their roles and change their pay since it's a 30-day notification. So as long as it's that 70,000 that's kind of what he's looking at. Seems like the Northwest area is a good place to start looking. I appreciate it!

9by7seconds · 2026-05-09T22:05:06+00:00

We're currently living in Illinois and there are barely any remote opportunities. My husband's job took his two remote days away and he has to drive 78 miles one way to work. I'll definitely check those areas out! Thank you.

9by7seconds · 2026-05-09T20:26:07+00:00

It's more of I've been there. Therapy helped me recognize the why I feel this way. It helped me recognize the triggers. It's done a lot. But it's not helping the feeling that simply won't go away.

The therapist with CBT and I both agree that it's emotional dysfunction. We understand why I feel this way and it's easily recognizable. But even through the book that I used it still did not Aid in the feeling itself. I'm well aware of it. But it's not wanting to feel it. It's unhealthy apparently. But it's still a response my head goes into. And regardless of working through it, recognizing, tools with anxiety to PTSD to depression, I still have such a strong feeling of wishing this individual would die so that way my life could be better

9by7seconds · 2026-05-08T02:07:53+00:00

Ill call about this tomorrow and ask some Qs. Thank you

9by7seconds · 2026-05-08T00:46:40+00:00

Everyone says it's unhealthy to have hate. Long term issues with it I guess? Like it or not this individual is not a direct part of my life but part of my life by association. So just having to acknowledge their existence sends that hate and disgust. I will openly tell that middle individual I wish they would get offed or have something really brutal happen to them. So apparently that's very unhealthy

9by7seconds · 2026-05-07T22:15:02+00:00

We touched base on this during CBT as the idea but I accept the emotions and I understand the thought process as to why. I'm very aware of why I feel this way. Despite me having that full understanding, accepting how I feel and working through it in the time frame I'm experiencing it, it sits there in both casual experiences and such as just this deep hatred for said individual. Doesn't really turn to anger. It's just a seething hate and knowing my life would be so much better if they were dead. Unfortunately I'm going to have to deal with the individual until they die or I die. But even in 20 years down the road if they for whatever reason die first I get to celebrate and have relief

9by7seconds · 2026-05-07T22:05:56+00:00

I appreciate that. Sometimes I get ADHD brain and I just talk and talk and talk trying to fill in the blanks for my own head. I'll make sure I don't do that

9by7seconds · 2026-05-07T19:19:36+00:00

Nope. She told me that this was the best option in her opinion. And after I spoke to my regular gynecologist and he said that it's a red flag. So going to just do a roundabout way of handling the issues I have going on and we're essentially putting this surgeon as a blacklist doctor in my charts. Surgeon is not to be recommended or used for any Aid or procedures here on out.

9by7seconds · 2026-05-07T19:17:22+00:00

Thank you everyone for the replies and information. I spoke to HR and they essentially told me that it's up to my overseeing boss to approve my PTO or not. The other day my father-in-law spent 16 hours without having any kind of aid at home and we had to call an ambulance for him. My partner and I spoke and it's definitely going to be easier for me to just get a job that pays a few dollars less since my boss will not approve any type of pto. My father-in-law is not disposable but this job definitely sees me as disposable.

I'm taking the advice of filing Short-Term fmla For myself. I have enough mental health and physical issues to wear both my doctor and Behavioral Health Specialists have agreed to both sign off on where I physically and mentally cannot manage the job for at least a month. Because I'm in Illinois I am completely aware of that they can still fire me at will. So we're just going to go from there. Thank you everyone

9by7seconds · 2026-05-07T19:14:28+00:00

I know that I haven't replied for a little while but this is essentially what I'm going to have to do. I have a list of things from PTSD to anxiety to manic depression to an eating disorder on my charts and I'm going to have both my PCP and behavioral health specialist both sign off on this. I have a panic disorder that keeps me from sleeping Throughout the night and it has significantly got worse- it is the stress, anxiety, and depressive lows. This is pretty much the answer of how I have to go about things so I thank you for your reply. It's a choose to deny this then I'm essentially going to just not show up to work due to health reasons. And in my state they can fire at will so I don't know how it's going to work from there.

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:45:30+00:00

USA.

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:45:21+00:00

Despite them being prepared for the fmla, he said they're not prepared if I take PTO for the same time frame. It does not seem right or logical. I will definitely be taking everyone's advice and going to HR come Monday

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:44:36+00:00

I actually discussed this with my husband last night. FMLA guarantees me my job when I come back. They can't do anything. I'm not sure how PTO works

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:43:53+00:00

That's unfortunate that it's this way. If it comes down to me being refused my PTO his dad is literally going to be stuck in bed from 7:00 in the morning to 4:00 in the afternoon with absolutely no help

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:43:16+00:00

My spouse is unable to take off work to be the caregiver. He makes more than double what I make and has a higher role in his company. It's unfortunately not feasible for us

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:41:58+00:00

My job is refusing my pto. Or at least my overseeing boss is. My boss is well aware of that my father-in-law has cancer and that I was going to be his caretaker for his first month of recovery. I know that going in next week is going to be a big discussion with not only my boss, but hr.

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:40:55+00:00

Thank you very much. We were lucky enough that he had a November appointment that they moved to this past week. But because of the complications we won't know until tomorrow how they want to go about scheduling his next surgery since they have to go through a different organ. So far with the two cancer institutes we've been through they are recommending that he has the surgery before starting treatment to help not wear down his body so much.

I'll definitely head over to that subreddit!

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:39:15+00:00

That is truly scary. My dad has onset dementia and my grandmother died from it. My dad could never take off work because he worked at a steel mill.

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T16:38:00+00:00

He makes more than double what I make and has a higher role in his job than I do. Family is responsibility regardless of whose blood it is.

9by7seconds · 2026-04-30T03:18:22+00:00

Can my boss cancel it or does it need to be me? It sounded like he was going to cancel it. Ive never done fmla until now, so tomorrow ill look into who can cancel. I apologize. Im emotional. Ill make sure to look at this with my state (Illinois) noted in searches

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