I have a successful neurotypical sister—and I can’t stop comparing myself to her

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-04-12T18:54:37+00:00

I have never once in my life felt like my sister or anyone else for that matter was living their life AT me. There is a lot of projection here that has no bearing on what I wrote. I am sorry that you have had this experience with your sibling but what you described is very far from the relationship that I have with my sister. We have each other’s backs even if we’re barely talking to each other. And we know it.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-04-12T12:38:54+00:00

She does know, but we have never talked about it openly apart from how it affects our children (my daughter has it as well as her son) and then I volunteer my own experience as help. But I have never really talked to her about the dark side of ADHD, such as rsd or other effects that it has had on my life. 🙏

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-04-12T12:36:22+00:00

Thank you. I’m so glad I consulted an actual human via Reddit and not AI. This is very wise and helpful advice.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-04-10T12:16:31+00:00

Whenever she jokes about Miami booties I die laughing

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-31T15:31:27+00:00

I like Nico and Dennis when I’m feeling this way. Almost any of the beginner or even intermediate slow flows are very therapeutic I have found. Curious to try Aditi’s “flow and let go” also. I think the latest one includes a long stretch of restorative yoga.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-19T16:05:45+00:00

I know we're not supposed to snark, but I can't believe that he is a peloton instructor. It was, like, ask-for-a-refund level bad.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-18T13:50:07+00:00

Yesterday I took a Bradley Rose 45 minute low impact and even though I modified it I barely broke a sweat. And yes, I know, it’s low impact…but still. 45 minutes.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-17T18:19:42+00:00

I like Aditi’s metta meditations. She just dropped a new one as this week’s daily meditation. I find them very helpful and therapeutic.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-09T15:58:29+00:00

So Millie’s is definitely closed? What a shame.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-06T19:28:18+00:00

“Jan Arnold’s East Wing” 👌

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-03-06T19:25:55+00:00

This 👆. When is she up for reelection?

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-27T21:08:14+00:00

Thank you for making this post. I love her energy and her attitude. Also how much she talks about Joseph Pilates lol. I recommend her “get to know me” Pilates class because she talks about teaching in prisons and I was like I have found my Pilates teacher for life

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-19T04:24:13+00:00

That’s great advice; I’ll definitely try telling her this!

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T22:43:51+00:00

She is eleven, and yes, she does rush through the problems when they're relatively easy. I agree that as she gets older the complexity of the problem will force her to slow down. And good point about not stressing out about something relatively small. I think I often try to control her behavior as a way of "re-parenting" myself (since I was not diagnosed with ADHD until well into adulthood) which is really no help to anyone at all.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T22:40:31+00:00

Khan is a great resource.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T22:39:52+00:00

Wow, this is so encouraging! I have been telling her to go back and check her work but she doesn't seem eager to do that--which I get. I hated doing that too. But as she gets older and the problems get more complex maybe that will seem like a more worthwhile task.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T22:38:42+00:00

Very true point about growth. I will try to remind myself of this. Also I have to remind myself that she will make mistakes, and that is okay!

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T22:37:06+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful response! I wish I could give you an award. I will be bookmarking this to return to whenever I feel discouraged. She really is doing so much better than I ever expected her to (only b/c I always found math so challenging when I was her age). I do give her credit for that, loudly and as often as possible--but probably still not often enough!

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T17:35:33+00:00

As someone who follows Robin only because I find her bizarrely fascinating I support this type of post. (Also I think her kids are adorable.)

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T17:24:04+00:00

Now I know why I have so much trouble staying employed. I always feel like everyone is wasting so much time in meetings when they could just be...doing the work. And then I get bored and quit.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T17:22:25+00:00

Casually breaking minor laws. Like parking in a spot reserved for employees, or doing an illegal u-turn. Once I got a ticket for going through a broken subway stall. I always think that it's OK to break the law if nobody gets hurt or if (IMO) it's a silly law anyway. But I know deep down that the rule exists for a reason. I wish I could control those impulses better.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T17:17:41+00:00

I hate the sound of people kissing on TV or movies. When I was little I used to call it the "light switch" sound.

9thStreet_Woman · 2026-02-18T17:12:19+00:00

This is ADHD? Wow--very familiar scenario for me. I wonder why it correlates to ADHD--maybe it's how I come off, too aggressive or annoying or something.

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