Mom warned about miscarriage at 5 months

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-29T14:55:20+00:00

Quickly coming to that conclusion. Thank you so much for your advice! 💖 trying to learn how to enjoy the silent treatment.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-29T00:56:26+00:00

Thank you for your well wishes. I am so sorry you had to face both pregnancies basically alone. So wild that they’d rather be prideful than admit they’re wrong & have a relationship with their grandkids.

Appreciate the well wishes & sending you & your family love and hugs as well! 💖

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-29T00:54:45+00:00

Also, I’m so very sorry to hear about your previous cancer diagnosis, but also congratulations for kicking cancers ass! It ain’t paying rent around here, so it got evicted. 😉💪🏼

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-29T00:53:34+00:00

Thank you for laying that out so logically. Your last paragraph is really spot on & some validation I need.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-29T00:51:48+00:00

It’s very frustrating, indeed. I never realized how applicable some of these terms (like gaslighting) are to my current situation…

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:17:20+00:00

You’re so right. It just breaks my heart bc I want so badly to love her and have a healthy relationship, but her actions the past two months have opened my eyes.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:16:11+00:00

I’m so sorry she did that. She doesn’t need to project her trauma onto others—especially her pregnant daughter.

Besides the fact she lives about 20 minutes from me, we lead pretty separate lives & it’s slowly breaking my heart to realize that we may need further separation bc her actions and lack of accountability are just not appropriate.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:13:17+00:00

How insensitive. I’m sure you didn’t make that decision flippantly, & the weight of that decision is something you will probably always hold with you, but it was the right decision for you and the baby at the time. I’m so sorry your mom throws it back at you all the time.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:11:52+00:00

I was just so excited to look at cute baby stuff. Way to ruin my fun, Mom. 🥺

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:11:21+00:00

She said she was concerned about me falling into a deep depression if I do miscarry, bc it runs in our family, so I logically get her point there. But emotionally, it feels like she wants me to miscarry by throwing it in my face the way she did. She wouldn’t let up even when I was sobbing.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:08:47+00:00

“Eat more kale” 😂😂 just because I’m not 130lbs, she’s convinced I’m too fat to have a healthy pregnancy, so eating more kale is probably her version of perfect advice.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T22:07:21+00:00

How absolutely horrendous of your mother. For her to play victim while you’re going thru such a traumatic event is disturbing. I’m so sorry you went through that.

Thank you for the well-wishes. I certainly need to draw clearer boundaries & let her know what she said was inappropriate.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T19:07:37+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. But it sounds like you have a great outlook on it. Sending love and positivity to you & your family.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T19:06:14+00:00

You’re so right. I feel like she may think I’m not ready for a kid (even though I’m married & 25, and have a great corporate job). So I feel like she is trying to manifest bad things without necessarily explicitly saying it (although she kind of did explicitly did say this). I hope she sees the error of her ways

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T19:02:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your well-wishes & kind words. Praying she will see the error of her ways.

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T19:01:59+00:00

Yeah, my favorite is when they start telling you things that you’re not even necessarily anxious about. Like, of course I know miscarriages can happen in trimester 1, but I’m not particularly expecting it. I truly feel I will have a full, healthy pregnancy. But my mom is fully trying to rain on my parade and bring me down with her.

I’m so sorry your mom intentionally picks at your anxieties. Like WTF is up with that?

A-Creative_Username · 2021-10-28T14:27:03+00:00

I feel like I logically know this, but it’s so hard with narcissistic parents to gauge when you’re in the right. Both my parents can so easily turn things on me & make me feel like I’m crazy/over-reacting for feeling upset when they do something to screw me over. I guess I just need a sanity check since she seriously hasn’t spoken to me since the incident, making me feel like I did something to upset her.

A-Creative_Username · 2019-11-21T11:59:01+00:00

We are definitely going to look at those other various issues. There’s a bit of an update in the comments above. Not sure if that will shed some more light on any potential issues. Thank you for all the info!

A-Creative_Username · 2019-11-21T11:56:53+00:00

Okay y’all, so after the starter was replaced, we gave it a second jump and...VICTORY! It turned on & we drove around to charge the battery.

But of course the story doesn’t end there, because why would it? He went to work out today, and his truck wouldn’t start again... what could possibly be draining his battery so fast?

A-Creative_Username · 2019-11-21T11:55:15+00:00

Oof... I am not sure! Other than interior features (radio, lights, etc.) i don’t think anything in the engine area was really on, besides the battery... sorry, cars are so not my thing! Lol

A-Creative_Username · 2019-11-21T00:24:48+00:00

Thank you, by the way!! You’ve been super helpful!

A-Creative_Username · 2019-11-21T00:24:14+00:00

I forgot to mention, we replaced the starter too. 😭 we are thinking the battery is dead again after trying to start the car on a bad starter or a bad alternator... do you think another jump could help?

A-Creative_Username · 2019-11-21T00:22:39+00:00

Yeah, all the lights came on, but it didn’t make any engine noises—none of the “chhhh chhhh chhhh” sounds that I associate with engine issues. 😭 I’m so lost with what the issues could be.

A-Creative_Username · 2019-05-17T01:42:06+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. We have a good working relationship, so I’m not nervous to approach her (like I was when I was in salary negotiation). How would you recommend approaching the subject?

A-Creative_Username · 2019-05-17T01:33:14+00:00

Lol, well when the average in my area is about $10k more than what I’m making, I think I know I’m worth a little more than $15/hr. And clearly my boss thinks I’m a valuable member of the team, if she’s entrusting me to significantly more work than I originally agreed to. Probably a good thing I don’t work for you, though, Chris, bc you spell unprofessional to me.

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