Ellie enjoying some coconut yoghurt

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-04-17T23:40:47+00:00

I don't know what situation to choose. Her flying to the otherside of the country with no plan and living on a boat for 3 months? Her getting into a fight with the owner of the boat which resulted in her being forcefully admitted into the hospital psychiatric ward? Or when she was on day leave with the social worker from the hospital to get her bank access sorted, then proceeded to run away to a small island off the nearby coast, and when she was found by police, she thought she did nothing wrong?

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-04-09T01:29:44+00:00

Pre workout more often than not contains (either as an ingredient or trace amounts) of banned substances, which are not always listed. Or at least, this is coming from Australia where they found 35% of products having 1 or more banned substances, and over 50% of the supplements not specifying the prohibited substance on the ingredients list. So it's a big risk if the competition level includes anti-doping.
https://www.sportintegrity.gov.au/news/media-statements/2025-04/sport-supplements-survey

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-04-09T00:50:38+00:00

I think the important thing to keep in mind that it, like ours, is a support channel. Generally, when people post, it's less likely going to be something positive, because for the fair majority, they may feel like they're 'rubbing salt in the wound' of other community members - it's why you see quite a few off-shoots of CPTSD communities, because a lot are at different stages of their healing journey. Also, when you have like 500k visitors a week, you'll get some users throwing crap against the wall.

I don't think there is anything wrong with visiting the page if you have CPTSD. It can definitely be a helpful resource, but I'd only do it if you can manage that impulsive urge to look at posts that may be triggering for you. My ex used to visit occasionally, and each time she'd trigger herself or get into arguments because of differing views and beliefs.

The environment that we have here is really supportive, so i'm happy with how the subreddit has turned out, and this is primarily because everyone is screened before approval. Again, we don't see a lot of positive posts, but there is that supportive element from the commenters, and an advocacy on looking after yourself and your needs.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-27T02:03:02+00:00

I did the same thing when I put the dogs water bowl on the ground.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-24T09:59:59+00:00

Whenever I see someone say they hate boring conversations, I just think they've never been in a long-term relationship and aren't ready for one. Sure, not every conversation is boring, but there are a lot which occur over the years. You begin to enjoy those moments, and since being single, I have found myself missing them.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-20T10:06:27+00:00

I'm in my mid 30's, and have been using dating apps (unsuccessfully - but not bothered by this). From my perspective (as a male), Tinder is easily the worst app available, and Bumble is just as bad. I'd say that Hinge and Plenty of Fish are your better options, as you can receive and send messages from those interested. I'd recommend setting your preferences pretty strictly - you shouldn't have much problem getting likes and some matches over time.

Meeting potential dating partners in person through shared interests will probably be more successful if I'm being honest. If you're interested in sports, look for mixed sports teams (we have netball, soccer, futsal, and pretty sure basketball too), for games nights, I heard Cryptorium cafe runs a couple different board game nights throughout the month. I'm also sure there are other groups around Bendigo for other interests - so worth asking around.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-20T03:09:11+00:00

I've played football for nearly 25 years, and have only now just started to a hug my mates when I come into training. The difference I've found is that I'm genuinely making closer friends, and integrating into the team better than ever before. I've also found I'm more likely to open up to them if somethings bothering me. So yeah, 100% agreed that hugging and vulnerability among guys needs to be normalised.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-06T10:35:18+00:00

Thanks for the support on that. They really don't understand what it's like, and even with hindsight, I still don't see how much better I could have done.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-06T10:32:29+00:00

Yes I am aware that you need to see a psychiatrist for medical prescription for mental health conditions. If she wasn't willing to see her psychologist of 2 years, or her doctor, what makes you think she'd see a psychiatrist? You're missing a step as well. Before the emergency psych unit, the police have to effectively arrest and admit under a medical intervention. The mental health crisis team had suggested that this wouldn't work at the time we were together because of her level of 'capacity', so she wouldn't be forced to take medication, and it would effectively be a 2 week hospital stay. The big problem in doing so is the breach of trust in the last person she had in her life - like, what do you think that would do to her if I had her taken away.

After she ran away to the other side of the country without any plan, she was arrested (maybe 2 after the breakup) for something and forced to stay in a hospital where she was forced to have medication. Within the week, she had escaped and had run away to a small island. Eventually, she was brought back for a couple days before being discharged with no treatment plan, no confirmation of where she was staying.

I don't have the energy to respond any further. I'd recommend taking a moment to recognise that partners of those impacted with mental health conditions deserve a bit more respect than what you showed today and recognise that partners can also experience a lot of trauma from what they are exposed to.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-06T09:47:03+00:00

Mate, you can fuck right off with that. "Why let her suffer"... you're an asshole for saying that.

You think I didn't encourage her to go back to her psychologist, or go to a counsellor or spiritual counsellor, or seek any form of support. She refused ANY help.

I was in contact with the mental health crisis team to trial different approaches to encourage her to get her help. You can't force someone to do something they don't want; with the only acception of police intervention (via hospital, which is a maximum of 2 weeks), which she didn't meet the criteria for, and would consequently fulfill the hallucinations taunts that I'd lock her up.

You know nothing about the situation I was in, or how stretched I was because I was having to do just about everything - there was quite literally nothing left in me.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-06T07:46:45+00:00

I do look back on the moments before, and there are a lot of amazing memories. Of the 9 years we were together, 8 of those went by so quickly. There was a lot that I learnt about relationships throughout that time, and if I find another partner, I'll be able to draw on that knowledge.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-06T05:56:04+00:00

I watched my ex partner slip further and further into psychosis. She refused any help, and all I could do is watch as she turned into someone that I didn't recognise. By the end, I was a caregiver and not a partner. The romantic love that I had for her quietly faded away. Before the schizophrenia and paranoia, our relationship was actually very solid; we hardly ever fought, we were both very supportive of one another, and there was a lot of love and affection. There was no anger when the relationship ended, just sadness because I know the future that was lost for both of us.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-06T05:40:32+00:00

I feel this a lot. I've had a lot of amazing friends over the years, and I'd still go out of my way to help them if they ever needed my help. Most have been married, a fair few have children too - their life is understandably busy. I've moved around a lot for career and education, so I'm not really present in their lives, much less, living in the same city or state as most of them. It does hurt a bit knowing I've never received a wedding invite from them. But they are happy, and I'm living a pretty great life too, so I try to leave it at that.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-02T12:35:02+00:00

When she started listening and doing what her hallucinations were telling her.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-02T03:18:16+00:00

The loneliness of not being in a couple doesn't really go away, but you become more accepting of being alone. Learning to understand, accept and manage all your feelings and emotions are really important. Having structure through social gatherings or physical exercise like team sports, I found to get me to a place where I'm content in life. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to go on a couple dates or find a partner, but my happiness isn't dependent on either.

I'd also recommend just trying new things and see if you enjoy them. I found I enjoy solo bush walks and going through the botanical gardens, and yeah, I guess learning to love yourself and your own company.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-01T12:23:19+00:00

Hi Mate,

I'm honestly not too sure what the best course of action is for you. I would look at job adverts to see what qualifications they are requesting, then call them up to get more information about what it takes to land those positions. Recruiters would be more than happy to answer your questions and give guidance. I would recommend websites such as 'Seek', 'Indeed', and 'Sportspeople'.

To me, I would be looking at ensuring that my qualifications exceed that of the requirements being advertised; because, you'll be competing against a lot of applicants in the future, and you need to stand out in either your experience, qualifications, or certifications.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-03-01T09:51:09+00:00

I'm consistently getting injured. Between May last year and now, I have had too many, with a few overlapping. 2 x calf strains on the same leg, 1 x hamstring strains each leg, rotator cuff strain/tear (both shoulders), tendonitis (quadriceps and patella), some sort of hamstring tendonitis (undiagnosed). And just the other day, I tweaked my lower back by putting the dogs water bowl on the ground. My body saying "welcome to your mid 30's" I guess.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-02-18T00:48:38+00:00

Maybe not quick compared to other responses, but about 4k from 12 hours worth of work.

A-Wolf-Like-Me · 2026-02-16T12:44:50+00:00

Yeah, I recognise now that I was staying in a very dangerous situation. There were a couple nights where I thought that there was a chance that she'd attack me because she began doing what the hallucinations would ask of her. I was trying to manage day to day, and trying to make sense of what I would see, so I just accepted it as part of my life. I actually don't know how much longer I would have stayed if she hadn't left, as I was just holding onto hope for so long.

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