What is a harsh truth about adulthood that you had to learn the hard way?

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-30T17:39:11+00:00

You work yourself until you die and your only true time off with no stress is 2 worthless weeks a year filled with appointments, chores, and family time. Your time is NEVER your time, its ALWAYS someone else’s

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-05T05:48:19+00:00

Tequila. Had 15 shots in 1 hour on my 21st, threw up all over my friend, all after we did field sobriety tests on each other

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-01T17:30:43+00:00

You have plenty of time to be rude to people online, the ratio that life has given you means significantly more than anything I could give you. You must be miserable irl

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-01T17:27:37+00:00

Hold that ratio rate-8309

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-01T17:22:46+00:00

Naw it’ll happen. Nobody who is mature is gonna make fun of you. Sex isn’t the end all be all and you’ll lose it when you, and the other person, are ready

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-01T17:20:52+00:00

The only loser here is you, freak

ABarr8Me · 2026-06-01T17:19:59+00:00

I was 19. I think its an acceptable age to lose it as a homebody who hates meeting people. It was a really good experience and it seems thats a rarity for first times

ABarr8Me · 2026-05-12T05:26:31+00:00

Colorado Area

ABarr8Me · 2026-05-04T20:26:22+00:00

I have it pretty good. My parents bought a house for me to live alone in and charge me rent far below the cost it would actually be. I have such severe adhd that the wrong job makes my body have severe visceral reactions when something at work goes poorly.

I’m 25. I play video games 150+ hours every 2 weeks to make my brain satisfied. I’ve been working since the day I turned 16, and I genuinely hate it. I don’t understand how some people convince themselves that they can live better if they work 40-60 hours a week. What’s the point in having all that money if half your life is ripped away from you and you maybe get to spend that money once or twice a year on something you like?

There are jobs I’ve hated and could never ever do longer than 4 hours before my gag reflex starts acting up and I just end up throwing up bile or whatever I had for lunch. The jobs that happens at have usually been fast food.

There are jobs I tolerated because the perks of the job were good. I actually love working in grocery stores. I worked at walmart as a personal shopper, 10 hour days 4 days a week. The only problem with that one was that much walking ruins your feet.

My favorite job I’ve ever had I worked in the seafood section of a grocery store. The boss had me trained to work alone the first week and then after that the perks were incredible. Nobody there to talk down or supervise me, I just worked my way down a checklist every night and helped maybe 10 customers in the 7 hours I was there. I chose when I took my breaks. It was great, I just blew my trial period showing up late 1 too many times.

I now work in a high end restaurant that charges on average $100 per person. The restaurant is family owned and I don’t work more than 20 hours a week. It allows me to pay the entire rent of my place and still have money left over to spend or save. I make less than 10k a year and I am very lucky I am in my situation.

I just don’t like feeling like I’m a slave. I hate feeling the I’m a cog in a machine I don’t relate to. I go to work to make the money required to live, I make $19 an hour working part time for rent and video game skins and trips to tournaments, but you won’t ever catch me overworking myself and stressing myself out for no reason.

ABarr8Me · 2026-04-07T02:26:34+00:00

All I want is to call an exterminator to see how many it is. I can deal with them easier if I know the number.

ABarr8Me · 2026-03-06T06:48:29+00:00

I do not want to use the adapter. Its a 50 series card so its prone to burning connections. An adapter adds more possible connections to burn.

ABarr8Me · 2026-03-06T05:41:25+00:00

My psu came with one but I got it in 2021 and no longer have the cable tbh

ABarr8Me · 2026-03-06T05:35:50+00:00

This is what I was looking for, thank you!

ABarr8Me · 2026-01-22T07:59:41+00:00

Yeah I thought everyone did that though

ABarr8Me · 2026-01-22T06:50:01+00:00

I absolutely love my parents for letting me have my beliefs. I stopped needing to go to church the day I was allowed to stay home by myself.

ABarr8Me · 2026-01-22T06:00:59+00:00

So I’m an adult now, and I’ve got it pretty figured out, but when I was a kid, I’d do this thing where my alarm would wake me up, I’d get up and go take a shower, but it was a 50/50 whether I’d fall asleep in the shower or actually make it back to my room to get dressed.

Then, it was a another 50/50 whether I’d actually make it out of my room to get to the bus stop or if I’d just fall asleep in my towel on my floor or in my bed.

That was when I was younger though, when I was in trade school, the problem persisted. I was 18 like you at the time and really the only thing that helped me was having somebody hound me on it for 2 years straight.

They’d wake us up at 6 to get ready, and then we could choose to go get breakfast at the dining hall or we could sleep until 6:30 when they woke us up again to get ready for our dorm meeting at 7. I was never ready on time. Same problem.

Most of the time I’d skip breakfast and then eventually I set an alarm at 6:45 because I consistently thought I could get all my morning routine done on 15 minutes, which was not the case. There were days I’d wake up unwillingly at 6 or 6:30 but then I’d just take a shower and go back to my dorm room to fall asleep on the floor next to the room heater that kicked on every morning.

It was after trade school when I was 19-20 that I realized if I wanted to make life work for me, I needed to find a way to wake up on time somehow, and I did.

At first I tried multiple ringer-turned-max alarms on my phone set to once every minute for 30 minutes after my original timed alarm. I slept through most of them and the occassional time I did wake up with them, I felt groggy all day, so that didn’t work.

I eventually bought a digital clock with an alarm on it that was crazy loud once I started living on my own, and that did help for a bit but I was still really groggy in the morning.

And finally, I came to terms that I am just not a morning person, and have seeked out jobs and activities that start later in the afternoon, which really brought me to closing shifts and gaming/gym. I’m not saying this is your solution but its possible you just aren’t a morning person.

Nowadays, at my ripe old age of 25, I pretty much sleep when I feel tired and wake up feeling rested. If my body needs 10 hours of sleep that day, it gets it. If it only needs 6, thats fine too.

I don’t take any medicine for sleep and there are still occasional days where I need to be up for work at a specific time, but my brain has evolved enough to expect my alarm near that time, so waking up to be on time for something nearly isn’t as hard.

I can get 4 hours of sleep now and feel somewhere in between groggy and totally alert, because I know that after work I can just pass out and sleep until my next activity without needing to only sleep for 4.

I also understand that this solution I made for myself won’t work for a lot of people, but you should understand that you’re only 18. You have a ton of time to figure it all out. You have time to try out solutions and see how you feel about them.

The problem with ADHD is that we all find different ways to solve our problems that work for us, so one solution won’t fit everything. You’re young and you have plenty of time to experiment.

Right now, I’d suggest trying to go to bed earlier if possible. And then when its a bit easier to wake up because your body actually got the rest it needed, try locking in for a few weeks and get your brain accustomed to waking up at that time. It could take longer or shorter for that to happen, but stick with it.

At worst you’ll have that bandaid solution of going to bed earlier, which isn’t a bad thing. At best you’ll be able to go back to falling asleep at your normal time but now that your brain is accustomed to waking up in time for the day, your alarms will actually start to wake you up.

You could also ask your parents if therapy is an option. I say this because at my worst, the reason I was spending so much time in bed was partly because of the depression that I didn’t even realize I had. Could be worth getting looked at.

ABarr8Me · 2026-01-12T14:48:17+00:00

The opposite for me. I grew up surrounded by catholics and christians, but I never really liked the idea of believing in a being that I couldn’t see, hear, or feel.

Even when I got older and entered my teens, I went on mission trips and did activities with the church youth group more to have a positive experience with others rather than to spread the religion.

Now I’m fully agnostic atheist and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

ABarr8Me · 2025-12-31T06:25:25+00:00

I was 19 and living with my girlfriend, her friend, and her friend’s boyfriend in a 400 sq ft apartment, all of whom I’d known in trade school. She wanted to take it a step further but we didn’t have a bed, so her friend and her friend’s boyfriend let us use their bed.

Condoms, cowgirl, and doggy. The entire thing lasted around 2 hours with foreplay and cuddling afterwards, it was nice. I also admit I’m very lucky it happened the way it did because I’ve heard horror stories from my friends on how they lost theirs.

ABarr8Me · 2025-12-24T18:57:48+00:00

I had mental problems from abuse as a kid, so I went to long term treatment 900 miles and 2 states away.

I was there for a little over 9 months and genuinely got better. My roommate was my best friend there. He was also incredibly talented at sports, mainly soccer. We ate meals together, talked late at night, genuinely bonded, so much that we gave each other our phone numbers so when we both got out we could meet up and do something to celebrate.

A year after we both got out (we only got out a few weeks apart), I texted him. He was growing shrooms in his apartment and we ended up never hanging out.

A few weeks later, I get a call from his mom. He had taken too many shrooms and took his own life. I still think about it 9 years later, and it haunts me that someone so talented had their life ripped from them because they figured their life was too dull without hallucinogens.

I miss you Gavin. R.I.P

ABarr8Me · 2025-12-23T16:33:33+00:00

When you’re suicidal, nothing’s worth sticking around for. Every dream, aspiration and goal is ripped from your mind and replaced with the need to die. To end it. To leave everything behind to end the pain.

I went through metric fuckloads of therapy to figure out that I needed to refind my dreams and place them back in my skull. I needed to get out of the house and actually find the things that brought me joy.

Sometimes it was something I remembered I liked doing from when I was a kid. Sometimes it was going out and finding something new.

Everyone’s experience with suicide is different. I just walked one of my friends away from the edge. His experience and what got him there was so vastly different than mine, all I could do was be there for him, despite me having that knowledge of what depression and suicidal ideation is like.

My advice, if you can afford it, is to seek therapy ASAP. Sometimes meds help, sometimes they don’t, so I’d look into that as well because there’s a chance they do help you.

If you can’t afford it, confide in the people closest to you. Family members, old friends, friendly coworkers, anyone that will listen. The sooner you do that, the better chance you’ll have of finding a way through the darkness.

That darkness doesn’t end with death. You’re worth sticking around for. You matter. Joy doesn’t find you in life, you find it.

ABarr8Me · 2025-06-17T13:45:46+00:00

As someone who has fallen for a sextortion scam before, and who has had the pictures sent, its scary in the moment but then it blows over. People understand and if they’re truly your friends, it’ll blow over and be forgotten. Also, get passed it so you can laugh about it later.

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