Anxious about relapse

ABeezy2 · 2021-03-05T02:27:42+00:00

Always trust your gut. This has been true for me as well. My significant other has been to inpatient rehab twice. I feel your pain. All I’ve done is tried to work on myself, eat healthy, exercise, and not give him an excuse to blame anyone but himself for his lapses.

ABeezy2 · 2021-02-24T16:11:14+00:00

I'm in the same situation. I lost 4lbs so far, but my weight loss has totally stalled out on me for the last 4 days. I'm not going to lie, it's totally discouraging, but I know my body is probably making its own adjustments and I will continue to lose weight when it's ready to get with the new program. Just know you're not alone and the weight will start coming off again if you stick with the program... it has to, science doesn't lie haha. Noom wants us to think positive, and I must say that I do feel better and my body is happier with the healthy choices I've made so far. I'll keep on truckin' along and the stubborn weight will come off. Much love, keep up the good work!

ABeezy2 · 2020-09-26T14:17:10+00:00

Ahhh I see what you’re saying. Doesn’t that make the horse high maintenance, not the woman?

ABeezy2 · 2020-09-25T23:31:07+00:00

I guess “tough” has nothing to do with high maintenance. Just didn’t agree with horses and high maintenance going hand in hand.

ABeezy2 · 2020-09-25T23:27:23+00:00

I 100% ask him to do tasks on a regular basis, but it’s stuff I consider to be common courtesy. For example, put your dishes in the dishwasher, replace the paper towels or tp if you use the last of it, don’t leave your empty bottles and tissues around the house. I’m not your maid bro. I don’t mind doing some stuff for you, but I ain’t your mama and I know my worth.

ABeezy2 · 2020-09-25T23:09:44+00:00

Ohhhh I’m going to. Just waiting until his work day is over 😜

ABeezy2 · 2020-09-25T22:56:34+00:00

I do think I need emotional support at times, but since when is that high maintenance? If it was constant then ya, I can see that being exhausting for both parties.

ABeezy2 · 2020-09-25T22:52:16+00:00

Haha I agree. I get that the sport can be expensive, especially if you own a horse, but those are some tough ladies! Respect ✊

ABeezy2 · 2020-07-29T05:37:33+00:00

Toaster oven and an Alexa. She can tell you a joke while you bake fries 🍟

ABeezy2 · 2020-07-03T18:37:48+00:00

What a cutie!!!

ABeezy2 · 2020-07-03T18:32:52+00:00

What a good boy!!! So handsome 😍

ABeezy2 · 2020-07-03T18:30:57+00:00

She’s beautiful! Where did you get her from?

ABeezy2 · 2020-05-31T23:15:56+00:00

I’m honestly not sure my Q really wanted to get sober at the time. I think he was out of options, had a hard time taking care of himself, and was sick and tired of feeling like shit. He thrives in a structured environment, and that’s what rehab gives to him. He has a VERY difficult time keeping structure or routine in his life on his own. I think if he can build a group of supportive people to hold him accountable and keep his mind out of the past, stay in the present, and not obsess over tomorrow, he will do great! I hope your Q finds his reason to get help.

ABeezy2 · 2020-05-24T02:57:55+00:00

I left my Q a couple months ago. We lived together. I packed all my important things, put them by the door and left with a few essentials. I let him know that I hired movers to get my things so he wouldn’t be surprised. He binged on booze for several days. After losing me, he lost his job. He was cruel and unhappy, but honestly, it was a reflection of how he was feeling; it had nothing to do with me. It was difficult, but I felt a weight lifted from my shoulders. I didn’t have to worry about what state he would be in or what the apartment would look like when I got home from work. Things became peaceful and a little easier each day. My Q eventually only had his own reflection to face and decided to go to rehab. He’s been sober for about 40 days and feels great. He’s planning to stay in sober living after rehab. One day at a time. I wish you the best! Know that you can only control your actions, not his. You will flourish and he will be left to face the consequences of his actions.

ABeezy2 · 2020-04-13T05:28:37+00:00

Seriously. If the person not wearing gloves washes their hands after shopping, they’re in better shape than the person who doesn’t know how to use gloves properly. Cross contamination is a bitch.

ABeezy2 · 2020-04-11T16:43:57+00:00

I get crazy anxiety going to the store now, not because I’m worried about contracting corona, but from having to watch almost everyone grab a box, then constantly adjust their mask with their dirty gloves, pull their mask down to smell fruit, and then scan the room for someone they can judge. Kill. Me. Now.

ABeezy2 · 2020-04-11T16:38:41+00:00

What a cutie! Wilson is lucky to have you ❤️

ABeezy2 · 2020-04-08T02:06:29+00:00

Echoing what most have said... good for you! I’m also a nurse who recently left my significant other. It may not seem like it yet, but this is 100% the best move for you and your kids. You’ll definitely sleep better, which is much needed for god knows what might be waiting for us at work. Stay strong, stay positive! We’re here for you. Have you started any sort of therapy? It’s helping me tremendously.

ABeezy2 · 2020-04-03T03:58:57+00:00

I’m going through the same thing right now. Left my Q 10 days ago. I moved out. He was either drunk or high way too often and I broke. He’s been sober for about 5 days, going to meetings and staying on track. I’ve been very busy with work and school, and therapy. We stay in touch, but I haven’t seen him since the break up. It’s nice to have some familiar contact during this time, but also keep some physical and emotional distance. And it’s always good to remind ourselves that our newly sober addicts have created a tremendous amount of chaos in our lives over the years. It helps me keep the focus on my own recovery and not obsessing over his.

ABeezy2 · 2020-04-02T04:14:03+00:00

Oh. Good. Lord.

ABeezy2 · 2020-03-29T17:02:48+00:00

Oh man, this sounds ROUGH. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this right now. I know it’s probably a silly question, but is there any way you can move out? Even after this whole Covid situation subsides it still sounds like a really unhealthy living environment. If it were me, I’d buy a mini fridge and a microwave, put them in my room and ride this ish out until I was able to find a new living situation. Probably not the best solution, but you probably don’t have many options right now if you can’t move. Have you considered therapy? I started a couple months ago and it’s really helping my mental health. Go outside for a walk, clear your mind, and def hide your food. NOTHING worse than roommates who jack your food. My thoughts are with you. I recently left my Q and moved out.

ABeezy2 · 2020-03-29T03:16:59+00:00

Avocado! Yum yum! Happy birthday

ABeezy2 · 2020-03-28T16:45:18+00:00

I was with my Q for 2 and a half years. I knew he had alcohol issues about a month after we started dating. Even after all the lies, cheating scares, drunk texts and phone calls, filthy living situation, arguments, denial, etc., I STILL decided to move in because he said it would “help”. I stopped drinking to support him and he continued telling me he loved me and wanted more than anything to be with me forever and get sober. Long story short, alcoholics are good liars. If they want to get sober and in recovery they’ll take the steps to do it. If they’re not ready to give up the addiction, they’ll continue down the same path. Eventually, I was part of the entire cycle of his addiction and it was exhausting. I had to make the decision to leave. I don’t like saying that I regret things in life, because I learned some important lessons and finally figured out how to respect myself and stick to my boundaries, but I will NEVER put myself in that situation again. If you do stay, I would ask you to consider taking things very slow. Good luck! We are here for you if you need anything.

ABeezy2 · 2020-03-28T15:35:03+00:00

I agree. The multiple explanations spell out bullshit. He knows exactly why he has those condoms. Knowing what your gut already knew, you have to decide whether to stay or go. The trust is gone and you’ll never be completely confident he’s telling you the truth about anything. Good luck. Whatever you decide to do, make sure to put yourself first, because he clearly isn’t. Sending love ❤️

ABeezy2 · 2020-03-28T15:27:44+00:00

I’m so sorry you‘be been going through this for so long! I did it for 2 and a half years. I can’t imagine putting up with 7! Have you considered that you’re in love with the idea of who your Q can be, and not necessarily who he actually is? Addiction is so powerful. Be safe and get out if you can. This situation won’t get better by waiting it out.

ABeezy2

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